NOOB here needs advice

OK, a friend of mine told me about this site when I was complaining how after 18 years of marriage I just don't get any anymore. And my desire for a much younger women experience again (I am 43).

Anyhow, see some nice girls on here and the review thing is really cool. I found one I am very interested in and went to her website. It says I have to supply 2 references from other girls I have been with. How the heck do I do that when I have never been to any, other than the occasional handjob in the back room at the strip club anyway.

any (kind) advice to a noob is appreciated.

1. In your geographical area, do a search for "newbie friendly" and you'll find some providers that are. (Unfortunately, that search generally brings up "not newbie friendly" posts too.)
2. Join preferred411.com. It's a popular screening site with the ladies. Costs a few bucks (they used to run a 6-month free special, but you'll have to ask). Some ladies will see you with a "basic" membership. Others will see you only of you have basic +1 (or more). That means you're a member and have seen 1 provider who has given you an "OK." When you see a lady who has a listing on P411, request that she give you an OK. P411 is the best entry into the hobby IMHO.
3. Once you have seen your lady's required number, then see her. Or, if she takes P411, you may be in like Flynn.

PM if you have procedural questions.

Get a porno and a bottle of lube. ebay has an abundance of both. You do not need to announce your newbieness. Take the time to read the threads, there is an abundance of info.

based on the city your posting from.... Houston..... there are many newbie friendly ladies there just depends on what you like.But others ladies who usually need 2 refs or more might see you if you are open to providing more info. ie work info and full name. P411 is good but it is penetrable by LE an ladies will still use their discretion especially you dont have any refs there.

Id suggest seeing a newbie friendly lady from p411 then after meeting obtain an ok from her so you can seek out who really sparks your interest. Your first choice might not be preferred but its a way to get your foot in the door. Just make sure shes reputable.

Once you gain 2 refs via p411 you can negate giving real world info like work and name and have less liability. Get the p411 it will make things much easier.

Based on what you wrote, I will assume you really don't know what is what in this realm. To start out, get what is called a "hobby" phone which is a pre-paid phone from T-Mobile or a Tracphone from Wal-Mart or a no cntract phone from Cricket. Register it using whatever name you like but don't use your home Internet connection to do it if you register online. If you call your information in, use a number with call blocking enabled. Keep this "hobby" phone away from your wife or anyone else. Protect yourself at all costs if your marriage means anything to you. Always pay attention to the details and do not under any circumstances, lose your "hobby" phone or leave it out so your wifey can find it. Trust me on this.

Next, do what the others have suggested. I am in the Houston area and can tell you that there are newbie friendly women in the area but Houston is big, so decide on who you want to see and discover their preferred locations.

Otherwise, have fun.

Thanks CT2005, Gimmethat and Lonesome, very good advice I appreciate it.
@ pyramider: I expected at least one asshat response, thanks for not letting me down.

great advice...there are some girls who will also take a work reference....good luck babe!!

I know there are some providers who will waive the reference requirement if asked. There are many different types of providers-- some who militantly stick to their requirements and some who are more laize-fare. If you are really wanting to see a certain provider, don't get hung up on the details. Just go for and ask if she needs the references. When it comes to interacting with providers, I've found this out. Most all rely on their gut instinct when it comes to seeing a certain client. My 2 pieces of advise are these: 1. Be yourself-- open, honest and communicating what you truthfully want. 2. Treat the ladies with respect. Act like you were actually asking them out on a date. That is essentially what you are doing-- especially if looking for GFE type service.

I was reluctant to post since this question it seems to get asked/answered a million times so the best advice is READ, READ, READ.

The other advice here is good, particularly the part about being polite, confident & not being afraid to ask for the date. Ultimately some ladies are less concerned about references than their advertising might indicate.

The big screw up a lot of newbies make is asking too much about "services" or "activities" or "what's included" -- don't give her a reason to think you might be LE

Thanks CT2005, Gimmethat and Lonesome, very good advice I appreciate it.
@ pyramider: I expected at least one asshat response, thanks for not letting me down. Originally Posted by DGbme

Its not asshat. Its fact. Do your homework, then ask an intelligent question. Plus, some people do not need anymore than ebay goods.