Divorced after 30+ years, where to start.... Suggestions?

Papers signed today. I haven't been on a date with someone else since before Reagan was President. Where to start? Have heard bad stories from friends who've done dating sites (violent ex's, etc) and very crazy people...

So, I thought I'd see what you folks think. Help me make a list -- maybe some small steps first?

Pick a provider and have some fun.

Take your time and learn the lay of the land. There are some fine ladies here that can help you start out while also showing you a great time.

What kind of woman are you looking for and what kind of experience would you prefer? I also recommend you get a separate burner phone before you start making calls.

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Just have a good time here to start off with ..

Do A NSA fun ..
better have fun here then spend on dinners and not get Johnny happy and get noting out of a RW dating but a cold shower

Papers signed today. I haven't been on a date with someone else since before Reagan was President. Where to start? Have heard bad stories from friends who've done dating sites (violent ex's, etc) and very crazy people...

So, I thought I'd see what you folks think. Help me make a list -- maybe some small steps first? Originally Posted by BozMan

Providers will say, hey why go thru all the hassle? Just see us.
Some of your friends from here might suggest same but if you are still seeking ideas here are my 2 cents.
Now a days dating became a game. So any app you start with like tinder or match will take some time and test your patience. So give them a try but be patience.
Now on a side try to find a reliable SB (again not a hoe who wants to be a SB) until you find better matches thru dating.

Wow, you have been a member here for 7 years and this is your first post.

Interact on the board and see who here has the posting style and carry themselves to your liking.

Physically attractive to you.

Just have fun and relax here.

Real world is a different ball game this day and age.

Dating is awkward as hell at our age. I know things certainly changed a lot during years I was married. Where to start? I guess that depends on what you are looking for. Our Time is a dating site for the 50+ crowd (don't know if it's free) and POF (Plenty of Fish) is a popular free one.

PoF is a joke. If you're going the civilian dating route, opt for a site that caters to specific demographics you fit into like Laura suggested. Also sites with paid memberships like Match and Eharmony seem much better for your situation than free ones. Okcupid is free but has two different paid membership levels which offer more control and options.

That depends. Are you interested in dating, courting and being in a steady relationship or do you just want some company every now and then and get a nut or two?

If you are looking for the latter, this is a good place to get started. There is no such thing as a NSA relationship because you do have to have the funds, none of these ladies are going to see you and give you intimate services for free, but you do not have to buy gifts, dinner, ect., although that is optional if you and a provider mutually agree.

Do a little research to find the right lady for you. Start with the one with the least amount of drama, and the best communication skills. Let her know that you are just getting started. The right, mature lady will help get you started.....Without taking you for a ride.

No one can tell you what will make you happy OP....I know that doesn’t sound helpful at all...

Divorce isn’t always a bad thing...I’ve been through two of them ...and I’ve always come out on the other side happier, healthier and I get hotter!

If the nsa route is something you’re interested in...this could be the place for you...just figured out what you’re looking for...your boundaries and stick with them..

Burner phone is a fantastic idea! That way if you get a BSC ....you can just change your number or throw the phone away and get a new one and she just goes away too..

the best way to get over a “breakup” is to get under someone else. Meaning if you want to move on, the best way to do so is by having rebound sex. It comes from the notion that having sex without feelings is the most cathartic way to forget about the person whom you felt everything...

Have fun...and play safe

My son just went thru a divorce - my advice to him - date Rosie Palm for awhile. First woman that repeats some annoying phrase your ex used - you'll storm out leaving her wondering WTF. First civie that treats you well you'll fall for.

If you've been here all these years and have not sampled our lovelies - again, be cautious - our colleagues by and large are wonderful sex partners and come in a huge variety of shapes, ages, colors and position in the Hot/Crazy matrix, so you can fulfill almost any fantasy. BUT - it's a business, not a dating site. If you've never had a hot chica with your dick down her throat, it is very difficult not to want to run away with her. If you have the right attitude, you'll have some great times at a relatively low financial cost, and virtually zero risk to your emotions.

With a NSA fun she leaves after and you don't have to put up with the BS from a GF
or just see as meany hotties here and don't worrier to much about it.

But fine the one who will fit you and maybe change it up from what the X looked like .. Good Luck

My recommendation is go to the strip club, specifically Baby Dolls. I recommend you find one of the older waitresses and let them guide you. You'll have some fun, spend less money, enjoy a few drinks, you won't be alone... and you'll learn how to talk to the girls again. A great way to get rid of all of the corny lines and brush up on your game.

Congratulations! and Welcome back to the game.

Dude: There are PLENTY of women in your age bracket - and younger - who are hungry for male attention. The even horizon is rife with targets.

Do what you like to do: Live music, theatre, art, museums, any hobby or activity you enjoy. There will be women there.

I am stunned how often I find available women. It was NEVER like this for me when I was younger. I love to dance to live music, and brother, learn to do that well and you will never be without female companionship. Take Lessons if you don't know how.

Take it slow and don't rebound marry. Enjoy your liberty and spontaneity. Plenty of women out there who want nothing more than a heterosexual man who enjoys life.