Does anyone know you hobby ?

CarolinaGent's Avatar
I know I've seen this posted before, but for the hobbyists do you have many r/l friends who know that you hobby ? I know for most of the married men probably keep it quiet, but what about you single guys ? I have almost told a couple of people, but then realized it would probably not go as I imagined.

On days such as today when I had a fantastic 4 hour date, I just hate that as far as everyone else is concerned, I had a boring weekend and sat at home. I don't mean giving others a run down on what happened exactly, but having something that really enjoy, that you never get to tell anyone about can be weird. But I guess that's why boards such as this exist.
I tell no one!! Not my best friend, not my brothers, not my co-workers....NOBODY!! I had been hobbying for about a year and a half, having the time of my life with my ATF and I couldn't/didn't tell a sole. Then she moved away and joined ECCIE. She told me to join and now I get to share all me experiences with the rest of you perverts and I couldn't be happier!! I'm not sure anybody else would understand like the people I've "met" here. There's really no reason for me to tell anyone else.
hobbyprojb's Avatar
Some of my buddies at work know that I hobby. I work with a bunch guys..so it's a guy thing..Also I'm single with no children & really have nothing to hide. But I NEVER..I mean NEVER talk about the hobby to civy women. Most women outside of the business have a negative perception towards the hobby. They automatically think drugs, sex trafficking, & abuse towards women.(hyped up ABC News B.S.) Really no benefit telling a civy woman that you hobby in my book.

But I have introduced plenty of my buddies to the hobby & they also get to share the experiences of being with a beautiful provider.
hobbyprojb's Avatar
I know I've seen this posted before, but for the hobbyists do you have many r/l friends who know that you hobby ? I know for most of the married men probably keep it quiet, but what about you single guys ? I have almost told a couple of people, but then realized it would probably not go as I imagined.

On days such as today when I had a fantastic 4 hour date, I just hate that as far as everyone else is concerned, I had a boring weekend and sat at home. I don't mean giving others a run down on what happened exactly, but having something that really enjoy, that you never get to tell anyone about can be weird. But I guess that's why boards such as this exist. Originally Posted by CarolinaGent
I'm just curious what you think would go wrong if you told your friends? I could understand not telling civy women.
CarolinaGent's Avatar
I'm just curious what you think would go wrong if you told your friends? I could understand not telling civy women. Originally Posted by hobbyprojb

If I told a friend at work, I would hate for it to get around at work. I have seen how it affected someones reputation in the past and that was something I wouldn't want to go through. As far as friends outside work, I know a couple of them would make a big deal about it because they don't understand its really not that big of a deal.
setman's Avatar
I separate my business from my hobby, my hobby from my life.

I never sleep and love in the same bed.

Separate but equal, that’s Setty keeping it safe (for everyone).


Enjoy yourself.

Setty (SouthSide)
hobbyprojb's Avatar
If I told a friend at work, I would hate for it to get around at work. I have seen how it affected someones reputation in the past and that was something I wouldn't want to go through. As far as friends outside work, I know a couple of them would make a big deal about it because they don't understand its really not that big of a deal. Originally Posted by CarolinaGent
I work in the Beer Business..So even if word go out..I really don't think anyone would really care about -who Joe Shmoe the Beer Man is screwing-. It not like I'm anyone really that important where it could affect my reputation. Now if I was a politician..it would be a different story(reference Elliot Spitzer)
1kewlkat's Avatar
I started in the late 1990s, I kept it under the rug so to speak for about five or six years. I mentioned to my SC buddy one evening when he noticed I was dropping less coin in the strip clubs.

I started out by joining P411 when I was a world traveling field service engineer. Many of my coworkers were banging the office girls, some married, others ended in terminations when a videotape/disk surfaced of three managers a gang banging of one in the office girls when she left the disk in her work PC. I chose to avoid the office drama.

These days I keep very few secrets about what I do since I presently work within a male dominated area. Hell, I even gave tips on how to pick up strippers, learned from members within this website. They now consider me a God in the work office, at least when it comes to picking up strippers. They know I use providers, what they don't know is my handle or which providers I see or have seen. I have no intention of sharing that information.

Members of my Christian family are aware of the lifestyle I live. Sometimes the discussions are intense, I'll leave those conversations private.

Do I share this information with females, a select very few. They just don't know if I'm serious or joking around.

Would I like to be in a relationship, absolutely. I just find it hard to leave the anonymous sex and this sexually demented community.
I know I've seen this posted before, but for the hobbyists do you have many r/l friends who know that you hobby ? I know for most of the married men probably keep it quiet, but what about you single guys ? I have almost told a couple of people, but then realized it would probably not go as I imagined.

On days such as today when I had a fantastic 4 hour date, I just hate that as far as everyone else is concerned, I had a boring weekend and sat at home. I don't mean giving others a run down on what happened exactly, but having something that really enjoy, that you never get to tell anyone about can be weird. But I guess that's why boards such as this exist. Originally Posted by CarolinaGent
I run on this with very low volume anyway. I might see 3-5 providers a year. Last year I saw four. So far this year three. So I have no intentions of disclosing to ANYONE the fact that I have seen an Escort.
burkalini's Avatar
I am single and have nothing to hide. With that said I keep my hobby side to myself. It's just nobodys business.
Old-T's Avatar
  • Old-T
  • 06-25-2011, 11:08 PM
Only one in the "real world" knows I spend time here, unless you count a couple ladies I met here who I later ran into via work contact. That individual I'd trust with my life, and even then it was neither of our intentions that the other should ever know. Dumb luck, and we both happened to have similar tastes in ladies.

Even among the men here, only about three know me at all, and in all three cases it was because we joined together to help a lady in need.

I know a few people who play in this world, though in most cases I do not believe they know I know. I have no intention of telling them I know their secrets nor do I plan on sharing mine. I am not especially afraid of it being known, but I can't think of any good that could come of it.
Clouddancer's Avatar
Only the ladies I see.

Wouldn't have it any other way. I see nothing but unfortunate drama if my hobbying were to be exposed.

I've often wondered about some of my co-workers. I suspect a few of them hobby but I still would never out myself. Thats the main reason I never attended the fictional socials. Always kind of wanted to but bumping into someone who knew me in the real world ............. that could just get ugly.
  • LynnT
  • 06-25-2011, 11:49 PM
I have 2 people that know. Sometimes Id really like to tell other people, I have fun doing this, meet some cool gents, and interesting stories to tell. I love this job and wish I could brag about it so to speak.

If I was a good writer Id blog.. im not though Im an artist, writing is not my strong suit. lol
hobbyprojb's Avatar
Only the ladies I see.

Wouldn't have it any other way. I see nothing but unfortunate drama if my hobbying were to be exposed.

I've often wondered about some of my co-workers. I suspect a few of them hobby but I still would never out myself. Thats the main reason I never attended the fictional socials. Always kind of wanted to but bumping into someone who knew me in the real world ............. that could just get ugly. Originally Posted by Clouddancer
Funny that you mention that. For me it would be really hard to hide from co-workers. When your like me.. 30 single with no children..people will always try to dig in your personal life to see why your not married or have a girlfriend. The hobby has spoiled me so much that I really don't have the motivation to be in a serious relationship.
jsparrow's Avatar
My doctor knows. I get tested on a regular basis and finally decided I should just tell him why. Other than that, I don't share info with ANYBODY (except the ladies, of course).