SL you make me feel bad about being an ESCORT!

Basically we had a super great session and extended to almost two hours. Then it turned into an early dinner and another session. The second session lasted almost three hours. At the end of the second session she tells me she never wants to see me again because I made her feel bad about being an escort. She left crying and I tried to contact her but she would not respond. To make matters worse I never paid for the second BCD session. After several attempts on my part she finally responded and said she did not want anything for the second session as it was her idea not mine. Also she stated that she wished she would have met me while NOT escorting!

I have no idea what happened? We had a great time, laughed and joked around. BCD was awesome. She was referred to me by another escort. So I contacted her to see if she could shed some light on what had happened. The other provider simply stated that she didn't get it either. But her friend is no longer escorting.

Sounds like she may have caught feelings. And now that you've met under those circumstances she feels it will be forever tainted.

Sounds like she may have caught feelings. And now that you've met under those circumstances she feels it will be forever tainted. Originally Posted by John_Dough

But I liked her "TAINT".

Some of these girls will tell you that the "nice guys"... the ones with the flowers and candy that are sweet and caring.... make for the worst experiences because it pulls them into reality a little more.... and some can't handle that.

They would rather have some guy treating them like a piece of meat, ordering them from one position to the next, in a manner not remotely like a normal sexual relationship.... The don't MIND being dehumanized because they NEED to detach....

I hope you don't take this wrong...... You probably bring some of that dehumanizing to the avg session when you see a girl with SLAMDANGO, cameras and writing a number on their ass in store for them..... a couple had similar comments that felt they were nothing more than a review number at the time....

Most gals need that......

In reality your a pretty nice guy I suppose and she got a taste of that in that second half.

Some of these girls will tell you that the "nice guys"... the ones with the flowers and candy that are sweet and caring.... make for the worst experiences because it pulls them into reality a little more.... and some can't handle that.

They would rather have some guy treating them like a piece of meat, ordering them from one position to the next, in a manner not remotely like a normal sexual relationship.... The don't MIND being dehumanized because they NEED to detach....

I hope you don't take this wrong...... You probably bring some of that dehumanizing to the avg session when you see a girl with SLAMDANGO, cameras and writing a number on their ass in store for them..... a couple had similar comments that felt they were nothing more than a review number at the time....

Most gals need that......

In reality your a pretty nice guy I suppose and she got a taste of that in that second half. Originally Posted by Whispers

OK...

BAD is GOOD.

GOOD is BAD.

Geeeez I'm starting to talk like Trees LOL

Some of these girls will tell you that the "nice guys"... the ones with the flowers and candy that are sweet and caring.... make for the worst experiences because it pulls them into reality a little more.... and some can't handle that.

They would rather have some guy treating them like a piece of meat, ordering them from one position to the next, in a manner not remotely like a normal sexual relationship.... The don't MIND being dehumanized because they NEED to detach....

I hope you don't take this wrong...... You probably bring some of that dehumanizing to the avg session when you see a girl with SLAMDANGO, cameras and writing a number on their ass in store for them..... a couple had similar comments that felt they were nothing more than a review number at the time....

Most gals need that......

I have NEVER found that to be true. That's just something that dudes like to think because it makes us seem super vulnerable and super simple or whatever. That's such a weird black and white thing to say. Yes, we do mind being dehumanized and a gentlemen with some flowers or whatever does not send me (or most women for an emotional loop). Most experiences doing this are neither of those things. they are neither dehumanizing nor typically romantic. Just somewhere in between. Now I have had great times with a couple of gentlemen, where I thought maybe, if he weren't married, or whatever. But, I never felt the need to completely detach from the experience nor to throw myself at them. It's not really like that. " Most gals need that...." My god. Do you really believe that?

Now, I have developed relationships with two guys I while met while doing this. It happens sometimes, when there is a mutual attraction. I never saw myself as being tainted or whatever. Just happens, like it happens anywhere in life.

In reality your a pretty nice guy I suppose and she got a taste of that in that second half. Originally Posted by Whispers

whispers, in reality most of the guys are very nice guys. Most of them also don't write numbers on ladies asses while they are using them as computer desks. It's not either/or.

I don't know SL, someone actually likes you, dude. I say run with it!

Or maybe you were her "rock bottom" and precipitated necessary life change. Congratulations.

Or maybe you were her "rock bottom" and precipitated necessary life change. Congratulations. Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

If that were the case, Why a second round, and why not charge?

Statistically, we're bound to connect with a gentleman beyond the client-provider dynamic, even though most are complete sweethearts.

whispers, in reality most of the guys are very nice guys. Most of them also don't write numbers on ladies asses while they are using them as computer desks. It's not either/or.

I don't know SL, someone actually likes you, dude. I say run with it! Originally Posted by Annef

Thank you.... I think?

...If that were the case, Why a second round, and why not charge? Originally Posted by Glynette

Who knows? But I have heard it said that Recovery is rarely a straight line.

"Recovery" makes it sound like an addiction.

So sounds like you guyz really connected and she had a real "growth" experience. Don't feel bad about it! OTOH if you really like her, ask her out! LOL

Ya don't have to do this forever!! Maybe she was meant to move on quickly.

Everything that is grown out of is "an addiction".... that just a "severe" word for it.

To the beautiful young lady I made cry....

"Recovery" makes it sound like an addiction. Originally Posted by Glynette

Sure. Recovery can be from addiction. Also from ill health. Or from suboptimal life choices.

As SL described the evening's events, it sounded like the last. Perhaps similar to the Eastern idea of "off Path."

With more information more might be inferred. But would it be that surprising to discover that she has addiction issues?