SIGNS OF DANGER/ How you can tell when a girl might need help.

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Before I even start this, I would like to clarify something. What I am writing applies to girls who are forced into prostitution or under aged girls. I am in no way judging providers who want to be here or hobbiest that are informed and not victimizing young girls. I am only trying to get this information out there so you can be aware and hopefully make a difference in someone’s life if you see something that isn’t right.



I have struggled with how to put this out here. If I do it the way I want to, it will become too personal for me and give to many details about my life to total strangers. At the same time, if it helps one girl, just one, it will be worth it. So, I will not speak just for me, I will speak for the dozens of girls I personally know that have been through this and for the thousands I will never know.

It usually starts with a guy who purposefully looks for a young girl. He stalks schools, malls, pretty much any place young girls are. He befriends her and starts making her think she is beautiful and that he can offer her things the rest of the world can’t. He tells her how he will take care of her. She is too young and naïve to know he is setting a trap.
Fast forward to hotel rooms, more girls and tattoos on her body with his name or something similar. “Stables” or families (that’s what they call their group) are formed and he is the “daddy, pimp or boyfriend” He controls her every move and she will be beat if she tries to leave. She most likely won’t try though because she is beaten so far down she thinks she deserves what has happened. On the streets there are ‘watchers” the ones who watch to make sure the girl doesn’t run.

He is always watching even if from a distance. If that isn’t enough, the other girls watching too, making sure everyone knows their place. Although all of these people are not present in the session, they are usually always near by. The girls watch too because they are fighting to be the “bottom.” This is the girl who gets to run errands and keeps the other girls in line.. all the girls want to be her except when something goes wrong of course. When you see a phone number linked to several girls etc… they are all a part of that “stable” Hotels with adjoining rooms are great for this.

On the streets, the girls can be manipulated by making them dependent on drugs. They are given quotas of money to make and if they don’t make them, they will be hurt one way or another …This is also why some girls work when they are sick, on their periods, or have infections. They can also have threats made on their family and other things to ensure they will not leave. They will never know who to trust so they will trust no one.
The newest ones may cry for the first few times or even longer. They may panic and act unusual. They may be rigid or robotic trying to just get through it or be drugged excessively. The newer they are, the closer they are watched. You may see bruises on their bodies and they may act timid, afraid of upsetting you. You can see tattoos (a lot of times on the neck) that will say her pimps name or nickname on it… “daddy” is very common. Unfortunately, once they have past the terrified stage, they will become harder and start protecting the “stable” At that point, unless they are under aged, there is little you can do until they want out.

Victims are often found in the streets or working in establishments that offer commercial sex acts, i.e. brothels, strip clubs, pornography production houses. Such establishments may operate under the guise of:
  • Massage parlors , Escort services, Adult bookstores, Modeling studios, Bars/strip clubs.
  • BACKPAGE is notorious for this.
Once again, I am not saying EVERYONE in the above places are victims, these are just common places for them to be found. Here are some common signs to look for – some of these are for parents but I left them all on so you can see them all. Remember not everyone will have EVERY Sign but if they have a few, pay attention.
*Under 18 and in prostitution
• Under 18 and not attending school or has numerous school absences
• Under 18 and dating older, abusive, or controlling men
• Multiple people living in one house
• Possesses False ID’s and lies about age
• Has large amounts of cash, jewelry, or new clothes
• Has no cash, as trafficker may hold all money brought in by victim
• Has recurrent STI’s/STD’s and/or need for pregnancy tests
• Shows signs of physical assault including: broken bones, black eyes, bruising, injury, etc.
• Shows signs of branding or tattooing of trafficker’s name (often on the neck)
• Disappears for blocks at a time; chronic runaway
• Has inconsistencies in stories
• Has restricted or strict communication
• Uses or abuses substances
• Exhibits signs of exhaustion, fear, anxiety, depression
• Shows increase in mental health symptoms
• Exhibits extreme weight loss
• Possesses hotel room keys
• Lacks knowledge about a given community or whereabouts
• Pagers or cell phones not paid by parents or guardian
• Inability or fear to make eye contact

Foreign-born Victim Identifiers: Adults and Minors
(this happens frequently in AMP)

• Has no travel documents or identification
• Multiple people living in cramped space, one house, or one restaurant
• Has little or no pocket money; trafficker controls all victim’s possessions/money
• Has little control over schedule or work schedule
• Lacks concrete short or long term plans
• Lives and works in the same place
• Shows signs of physical assault including: branding, tattooing, broken bones, or other signs of abuse
• Exhibits submissive or fearful behavior in the presence of others




• Has inconsistencies in stories
• Lacks knowledge about a given community or whereabouts
• Exhibits signs of exhaustion, fear, anxiety, depression
• Exhibits extreme weight loss, malnutrion, poor hygiene, or signs if illness due to lack of health care
• Is accompanied by a controlling person who answers for them
• Cannot speak english; trafficker may act as a translator
• Inability or fear to make eye contact


I realize most of us would not just call the police for obvious reasons but here are some things you can do.
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  • You can report suspected trafficking crimes or get help by calling the national 24/7 toll-free Human Trafficking Resource Center at 1-888-373-7888. This center will help you determine if you have encountered a victim of human trafficking; identify local resources available in your community to help victims; and coordinate with local social service providers to help protect and serve victims so they can begin the process of rehabilitation and restoring their lives. When appropriate, the Resource Center makes referrals to local organizations that assist victims with counseling, case management, legal advice, and other appropriate services, as well as to law enforcement agencies that help trapped victims reach safety.
  • For sexually exploited or abused minors call the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children’s (NCMEC) hotline at 1-800-THE-LOST to be connected with the most appropriate assistance in your area, or you can report incidents at http://www.cybertipline.org.
  • You can report suspected instances of trafficking or worker exploitation by contacting the FBI field office nearest you at http://www.fbi.gov/contact/fo/fo.htm or by contacting the Department of Justice’s Human Trafficking Office at 1-888-428-7581.

So far, these are the best resources I have found but I will keep looking. If you see something and fear contacting anyone, please let me know and I will help you find a way to do it anonymously.Most of all, DONT MOVE FORWARD with her if you suspect something.



Once again, I am only trying to protect the girls who are forced or under aged. I hope we all could agree that needs to be watched for.
Last: keep in mind the statute of limitations. If you have sex with a minor now you could pay for it YEARS later if she realizes what happened to her. Please guys, be safe for your selves and others. These are people’s little girls.
Thank you for reading this.
shorty's Avatar
That was very informative Michelle. Unfortunately, I know of a couple of over 21yrs providers that still has a pimp and some of the things you mentioned does happen to them. Until they decide they've had enough, the controlling factor and abuse will continue.
Thanks lil_michelle, I think you list will help some people, but many of us on the board look for mature providers, and providers that have a personality on the board. I don't think that we are really candidates for the girls you are worried about.

just sayin
Naomi4u's Avatar
Thanks love!!!
lil_michelle's Avatar
That was very informative Michelle. Unfortunately, I know of a couple of over 21yrs providers that still has a pimp and some of the things you mentioned does happen to them. Until they decide they've had enough, the controlling factor and abuse will continue. Originally Posted by shorty
Yes, and its sad. Alot of times those girls were recruited early. Another thing I forgot to put in there is that a girl who is trafficked like that, her shelf life is 7 years. Their pimps don't care about their help, only the money.
Thanks for reading it shorty, I know it was LONG!! LOL
lil_michelle's Avatar
Thanks lil_michelle, I think you list will help some people, but many of us on the board look for mature providers, and providers that have a personality on the board. I don't think that we are really candidates for the girls you are worried about.



just sayin Originally Posted by midrider
Midrider,

although that may be true for some of you, the reason I wrote this post is because of something written here yesterday that disturbed me greatly. No need to drag it back up but I think it cant hurt to inform people. Thanks for your input.


Thanks love!!! Originally Posted by Naomi4u
Kisses to you girl
shorty's Avatar
I've heard the providers in question call the pimp/bf: Daddy, Brother, Cousin, and Mother. I've tried to talk to them but they tend to change the subject or start a BJ instead.
lil_michelle's Avatar
I've heard the providers in question call the pimp/bf: Daddy, Brother, Cousin, and Mother. I've tried to talk to them but they tend to change the subject or start a BJ instead. Originally Posted by shorty

Sounds like an effective tool... no pun intended... LOL
shorty's Avatar
It works for me!!LOL
airlineguy12's Avatar
Thank you for the great time and effort put into this. On this board we see so many great providers who do this job because they enjoy it and who are so wonderful to us, it can be easy to forget the dark side of the hobby. There are no telling how many kids who are living a life of hell out there and I hope this will help more gentlemen stand up and help if they are ever confronted with this type of situation.
FishGuy13's Avatar
WOW! Thanks for sharing AND for caring! The world needs more people like you! {HUGS}
Michelle, thank you for that informative piece. I just read an article recently, about how these pimps will pick up nieve young girls, court them for a while, and spend some money on them i.e clothes, electronics, etc. Then tell the girl: "you need to pay me back for all the stuff I bought you." The girls get bullied and manipulated into prostitution by these means.
LynetteMarie's Avatar
Thanks, Michelle! Very informative and important information.

It's crucial that we share this type of information not only within our community but also with the general public. Tweet about it, blog about it, bring it up in conversations. All are forms of activism and education!

I would like to share this public service announcement created by SWOP-Chicago (Sex Workers Outreach Project) about the importance of both sex workers and their clients being involved in the fight against sex trafficking.

Additionally, SWOP-USA has a 24/7 hotline for anyone in need of immediate assistance: 877-776-2004.

Supportive hugs,
LM
Texasquest's Avatar
Thanks Michelle...A tip of my hat towards you! You will go far in this world with your HEART of GOLD....This ol place could use a few more people like yourself !
Eccie Addict's Avatar
Michelle.... This is a well thought out, informative, compassionate post made by someone with a tremendous amount of compassion for those in this that may have no one willing to help them.

You need to know that over time, being on a board such as this, the actions and words of a few will lead you to believe that many don't have a care in the world about what some of these girls go through. From the responses you have gotten here, that is not the case. I hope that no one will ever cause you to change the way you are or harden your heart towards people cause we need more like yourself