Issue in the bedroom - climaxing

So I have an issue.

I have always had an issue reaching an orgasm when I am with a female, whether or not it's via oral, handjob, or intercourse.

I didn't orgasm from oral sex until I was like 24, intercourse until I was like 26.

To this day I can't. But, there's a certain few females that can make it happen.

I am wondering if it's something with me, or just the female I'm with at the time.

By the way- I am only 32!!

Any input would be appreciated. Thanks!
Wait until you get older, im 47...lol. Just kidding, sort of. But I sometimes have that issue. If I feel teeth any during oral then it ant happening. Unfortunately I would say there is a large number of ladies who have a teeth placement problem or can't open wide enough.

But if she can can open wide enough, no teeth, and she is a little sloppy then she wins the game...lol
TheEccie214's Avatar
Sounds like you've gotten used to pleasuring yourself thus making it more difficult to completing elsewhere.
Try having sex with another male and see if there is any change. If so you might have to rethink your wardrobe.
Sounds like you've gotten used to pleasuring yourself thus making it more difficult to completing elsewhere. Originally Posted by TheEccie214
Could be it lol!
TheEccie214's Avatar
Could be it lol! Originally Posted by dallasguy1429
Happened to me. Laid off the tugging myself and eventually I wanted/needed to cum so badly other methods worked. Kind of reprogramming yourself.

Doubt this is a rare issue here since most of the guys here probably have an abnormally high sex drive.
FunInDFW's Avatar
Could be it lol! Originally Posted by dallasguy1429
In all seriousness, this can be a real issue. If you only get off to a specific type of porn, or jackoff very often, it might be hard to have someone else do it. Might need to actually reflect on this.
Jules Jaguar's Avatar
Do you take any medications? I was put on an antidepressant last year that made it very hard to cum it also blew me up like a blimp lol glad I'm off of it finally and feeling myself again.

If not it may be a mental block, sometimes you tell yourself you can't do something so much that your body will follow suite
Do you take any medications? I was put on an antidepressant last year that made it very hard to cum it also blew me up like a blimp lol glad I'm off of it finally and feeling myself again.

If not it may be a mental block, sometimes you tell yourself you can't do something so much that your body will follow suite Originally Posted by Jules Jaguar
I've been on antidepressants for a few years and also anti epileptics
Jules Jaguar's Avatar
Yeah that's probably it... I went through a week of hell getting of of them but I'm back to myself again and no more issues climaxing.

Personally I'd rather be a skinny chick that's outspoken and cums often than fat and happy and numb that's boring lol
Definitely the medications have a big effect. Anti-depressants and anti-epileptic drugs are known to cause this. You may want to work with your psychiatrist and neurologist to see if anything can be done. Some anti-depressants are better in terms of sexual side effects. Be open to them. There may be a way to have your cake and eat it, too.
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Try having sex with another male and see if there is any change. If so you might have to rethink your wardrobe. Originally Posted by Souper
That's what he made it sound like to me, too!
Yup. Me, too. Gals just cum & cum & cum, till they're begging me to stop. You know, big O, pass out, squirtin', giving me money, another O, another O, calling their friends... I'm looking like Neo going all Matrix on Agent Smith, whoopin' it without even sweatin'.

Yup. That's me and my biggo dick. Don't even get me started on what my tongue can do.

(Seriously, ask your doc about the meds.)
Definitely the medications have a big effect. Anti-depressants and anti-epileptic drugs are known to cause this. You may want to work with your psychiatrist and neurologist to see if anything can be done. Some anti-depressants are better in terms of sexual side effects. Be open to them. There may be a way to have your cake and eat it, too. Originally Posted by zzzyyy
Thanks. It's not worth switching up those anti epileptics. That's very risky
+1 on that, brah. But, doc may be able to give you a different med or adjust or ????.