What do you do when the provider is not your dream date?

When you and the provider don't mesh?

a . leave



b. leave and tip 20.00


c,stay and try to enjoy it

Smile and get sweaty.

Move on. Try to do better screening.

This has only happened to me a few times over the years, and each time I just did the ole..."grin and bear it."

Each case wasn't a B&S...or lack of cleanliness or anything like that, they just weren't what I expected when I walked in the door; even after doing extensive research on them. They were pleasant and smiled and actually did everything they could to please me, but I just wasn't into them. We just didn't click...at all!!

So I just went thru the sessions and made the best of it, but the end result has always been the same...I don't get my nut due to lack of interest. Thats the most disappointing part. It sucks after you pay for a session and then have to go home and twist one off anyway.

I got involved in a bait and switch, ad on CL (couple years ago) for a younger asian indie, phoned and got a young sounding girl and a reduced price. Went to the incall and it was a mid 30's asian woman with average looks, but I was horny and she was asian, so I stayed.

BBBJ was good enough, she really got off on my DATY, she got so wet. I busted a nut and got the job done and that is what counts in the end. Would have preferred a 22 yo that I was expecting instead of a 34 yo, but worked out ok in the end.




This past summer in Calgary, Alberta, I saw an SP that was supposed to provide really good service. I contacted her and her responses were bang on and a good attitude was showing. Booked and went to her incall which was a 90 minute drive for me. We had some wine and chatted, showered and got down to business.

Her BBBJ was pretty decent, she was supposed to be a squirter, tried my DATY on her, but she was not impressed (no squirt). She kept having little things pop up that she "had to" attend to and ended up wasting a fair portion of my fun time. Ended up a DNF, so I ended up going to a micro, hooked up with a young hottie and busted my nut there and went home a happier guy than I thought I would.

In her ads she was advising that the first visit should be 2 hours, and I only went for 1 like I do on all first visits, so I think that is why I got a lackluster session.



So, both times I stuck it out and did my best, but was for sure, not my best sessions...............by a long shot.

Could always put a pillowcase over it or just do here in K9. If that doesn't work, just picture a pornstar you've had a fantasy about and make believe she's her!

I really don't have that problem. I stay away from EROS, CL, backpage, etc. So, the ones I see, I have done recon and know that we will be a match. I fully understand the importance of my being a match for her as well. So, I will not elect to see her if we won't both be a match for each other. It can still happen though, just so far, knock on wood, it hasn't!

If its just that she is not as pretty as expected or not as good in session then I grin and bear it and do the best I can. If she has lied about pics or donation then I show her the door.

If its just that she is not as pretty as expected or not as good in session then I grin and bear it and do the best I can. If she has lied about pics or donation then I show her the door. Originally Posted by burkalini

This sums it up for me. If she was honest and my mental immage just didn't match the reality I don't see why I have the right to shortchange her.

If she was dishonest, that's a different story.

Not sure why the OP or anyone else would think it's OK to unilaterally break it off.

I'd be lying if I didn't admit to having a few disappointments in my hobby career! But how about the ones where my expectations were totally blown away in the opposite direction? I would say the pluses more than make up for the minuses! Just sayin.....

He isn't talking about bait n switch or attraction, he is talking about clicking. So far I've only had one where we didn't click and I didn't know it till we were there and in progress. It is what it is, I went thru as best I could. It was neither's fault so I just chaulked it up.....

I dunno about a providerr but if some bloke turns up and is dodgy then it's time for a "migraine" lol

I dunno about a providerr but if some bloke turns up and is dodgy then it's time for a "migraine" lol Originally Posted by Valerie

Valerie,

I admit I don't have a complete comprehension of "dodgy", but listening to my British friends & acquaintances it seems to imply a bit older, frumpier, dull, etc. Nothing like dirty, ill mannered, etc.

IF that is an accurate interpretation I would hope your ads and web site indicate what level of looks, age, and charisma is acceptable to you. If I showed up at a lady's door and I was clean, sober, polite, and she developed a headache because she thought I was a bit too dull for her I would not be pleased about it. That is the kind of incident that would probably result in a long soliloquy on the boards about that behavior.

Looked it up lol ,British definition The word dodgy means evasive, shifty; unsound, unstable, and unreliable; or so risky as to require very deft handling.

This is going to sound like cheese, but:

i visited a well-reviewed provider that had extensive photos and elite pricing tier, and I was really expecting a lot. I was literally shocked that I was not at all attracted to her face or body. Several surprising physical things to consider; however, as with most women, I was able to keep digging until I found her beauty spot (session was 80% convo). Her self confidence and life's passion were lightly veiled by God-given physical challenges. I was able to fuck her good and solid, and she loved it

Wouldn't see her again for BCD, but would love to meet for coffee/drinks. If I would have walked out, I would have missed an impressive lady.

Told you it was cheese, but it's true.