I know a lot of providers ask for reference, I wan just wondering what all you ask each other Don't you worry about a le calling to try to trick you. And a lot of people use different names and such. It seems like it would be almost impossible to keep up with everyone you have seen in order to give a good or bad reference
Originally Posted by Btkj30
I keep it simple "hello I am requesting a reference for [name/handle], [email], [phone#]. Any indication as to what type of client he'd be would also be greatly appreciated."
When I reply:
* yes, I have seen him and I would see him again
* yes, I have seen him but I had some concerns. [list concerns]
* no, I have not yet seen him, but he is on the schedule
* no, I have not seen him [reason I did not see him]
I don't worry about police because none of the above will discuss money, sex acts, or an exchange of either. If LE succeeds in tricking me, pretending to be a lady asking for a reference, and the only "useful" info they get is that I wouldn't see a guy because I felt he was sketchy... I don't see how that could be a bad thing. However, it would also mean that the dude is trying to use me as a reference without ever having seen me (confirming the sketchiness)... so yeah, karma. Not worried about it.
Important to note: if you have been using a phone# for screening, then switch to a different (burner) phone, while making the transition be sure to offer both numbers and explain that one is old. OR make sure your reference ladies have both numbers. I have had a few gents fail screening because they gave me the new number, but their reference lady only has the old number. ANY mismatch will cause you to fail your screening with many of us. Same with emails.