There was a new guy who was asking for advice for a hobbiest who didn't have much experience. He wrote a couple of days ago and well, I just answered it a few moments ago.
I pushed send and the message was that he wasn't accepting PM's! Well, I just spent seven minutes writing this brief note down and I just thought that I would post it here.
If you're out there, and you know who you are, this is for you!
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Hi!
Thanks for writing me and I appreciate the compliment! Here are just a few suggestions. Take them with a grain of salt or consider them. Just a few quick notes!
Probably one of the most important things to remember is that we're real human beings.
For whatever reason, men think of us as either sub human or just someone who is from outer space. We're neither.
We are blood, flesh, have the same desires and responsibilities as you do.
My blog is in rough shape but I actually have written a few things about the above and other issues. Just excuse the free flow of ideas on there.
The other thing is to use lube or be careful when fingering a woman. If your fingers are dry, it hurts like hell.
The same things with oral sex. Some women LOVE to have their clit sucked or nibble. If you do that to me, I'll get tears in my eyes, yelp and push you away. You'll look at me shocked because I'll be holding back crying. Yes. It's that intense for me and I can get hurt easily. Some women are like this and others are not.
EVERY woman is different in the way that she likes to be held, kissed, pleased, etc.
And for that reason, this is in my blog as well someplace, when a man tells me that he is GREAT with oral sex, I generally wish to not spread my legs.
There are just some nice rules that you can find here and there that just helps. But no one has the final say. I'm pretty experienced but what works for me might not work for others.
Everyone says to be clean and respectful. Honestly, if you're a little stinky, I don't care. I kindof like the smell of a man. A masculine smell will make me melt.
And if you're cute about it, you can pull my hair and call me a dirty little slut. But all of this needs to be in context. If I answer the door and you start to do things like this ... it would scare me to death!
I also like pubic hair. So what if a little hair gets in my teeth. Natural dental floss, I say.
And if you get frustrated with a woman, move on. Don't dwell on it. There are plenty of fucked up men AND women on this board and in other places.
If one doesn't work out, the next one could be a complete dream.
Always feel free to ask me questions. Good luck!
Sincerely,
Elisabeth