P411 Date Request Total Fuckstration !!

I have been a member of P411 for 4 + years now , and saw the introduction of the Date Request Form. I have used it but not very often because it is nothing but a pain in the ass. As of today ,I have sent 3 requests to one provider that I would really like to see. This was done in 1 week span .The first 2 went unnoticed due to the fact she never signed in. Yesterday evening I sent the 3rd one. Now I know for a fact , because I kept checking P411 ,to see if she signed in . She has 3 times today. Did she see it ,read it , I have no idea. So on the second time I looked I sent a PM to her asking her to look at the date requests. She signed on at 6:35 PM . She did not read the PM at all. Did she check the date request ,do not know. Now I am not going to rant that this stuff happens with all providers,I am sure there are a lot of dedicated ladies that take care of business. Other times I have sent requests out and of course you have to give a number that they can reach you. In the message box ,I always ask for a text,phone call or something to let me know that we are good. I get nothing ,then I get home check P411 and what do I have a PM back from them Good greif. Has anyone else have this problem ? I think ,and maybe there is to check and see if the date request has been read or not . If not there should be !!!!! Thank you for letting me rant!!

I believe that all requests go to the provider's email on file with p411, and sometimes, those emails get sent to their spam folder, at least that is what a couple of provider's told me. My hobby email that I have is rarely checked by me, but I can see your frustration if the provider uses that for her providing business, she should check it often. When you send a PM on p411, you can see if it has been read or not, and it gives you the date and time.

Sometimes appt request do end up in our spam folder. Perhaps follow up with a pm letting a lady know you sent her appt request.

As far as watching when a lady logs onto p411 and not read your message. It's not personal. Sometimes we only have a little bit of time to do what we need to do on there. Posting ads, reference checks, responding to other gents. It's not personal. I'm sure when a lady has the time she responds to who she has time to message. It takes more time than you think to juggle communication with gents and providers. In other words, don't go by a ladies log on time. There are other things a lady could be doing on there. She is not necessarily avoiding you or ignoring you. She could also get sidetracked if she is multi tasking. P411 signs us out after 30min of inactivity.

I understand your frustration. Just trying to explain it from a providers experience.

And don't forget that more than a few women have someone else managing their initial communication so you may be going through 2 layers. And I don't say "managing" in a negative or pimpish sort of way - think Administrative Assistant. You might be really surprised how much work and time the "TCB" part of their job is with text messaging past clients, coordinating new ones, answering email, actually having appointments and then there's real life. I would say, if you've tried 3x in 1 week w/ no response you should move on - for whatever reason there is no interest on her part. Could be too busy, out-of-town, have a sick child or really just has no interest in you. Even if you eventually hear from her, what are the chances you are going to have a good time now?

Call if she has a number.

Unless she says no calls or texts, I would do either one. I've had a bit of "No response" on P411 myself but when I texted her, she got right back to me.

Did you wash your ass and shave before you sent the request? They can tell with that wimmin's intuition thing if you're just sitting around in your undies thinking about it or if you have your contact a ho etiquette thing going on. Just sayin.

A lot of these ladies do not post a phone number , otherwise I would call or text. I tried the PM message as well . Phildo , you do not know me from anything,but by your response , I have a clue what you are.

A lot of these ladies do not post a phone number , otherwise I would call or text. I tried the PM message as well . Phildo , you do not know me from anything,but by your response , I have a clue what you are. Originally Posted by crunchtime

Now now crunchtime, Phildo has been around for a while and his out in left field smartass answers, name calling and thread hijacking are the norm for him, just check his previous posts, not need to stoop to his level by calling him names, even though you never said anything directly, just put him on ignore and he will go away, he did for me!

By any chance, was it a Gmail account?

I wasn't finding any of my P411 emails until I read the notice of how to remove "promotions" from my label options. Gmail implemented this **feature**??? in early October.

Luckily I logon to P411 to update my ad regularly and so I noticed the red "new messages" note up in the corner.

There's a P411 notice that begins:

Gmail Users Please Read! Update 10.09.13
Gmail has created a new tab called Promotions, which is where many members are reporting their P411 emails are ending up.

You can move your P411 emails to the Primary tab in 3 easy steps, to ensure you don't miss any P411 emails!


As for the ladies who reply to your PM rather than texting or calling, they may not realize that you can't read PMs. I would state it very explicitly like "I won't be able to check this site for PMs so please ONLY call or text me at: xxxxxxxxxx. "

In a perfect world, you wouldn't have to emphasize it so much. But, this isn't a perfect world so just make it easy on yourself by taking the extra step. It's always easier to change what WE ourselves do than try to change everybody else we're dealing with LOL!

I have had a few issues along the same lines on P411 and ECCIE. I have had ladies not respond to a a date request or a PM on both, then I post an ISO and they PM me about it WTF? Sometimes I get a PM and when I reply they never answer back. Most of the time things go pretty smooth but it is frustrating when you have very limited time to play. I look at it like I am fishing. I know the best spots to fish and I bring the right bait. Sometimes I catch and sometimes I go home with my rod in my hand

3 times in one week? Give it a rest. If she is on here, send her a PM that you sent a p411 request. Once. If its a tech problem at p411 its not her fault and hopefully she will get back with you ASAP. Frustrating but not the end of the world. Move on to your next choice and if you hear from her, great!

Call if she has a number. Originally Posted by Bestman200600

+1 For me it's a lot easier if a client text me including their client ID number. I will then ask them to send me a quick pm on P411 just to verify that that is really them. I rarely check the email address that the request forms go to do too too many problems with spam.

You should send 20 of them a day until she responds. She won't think you're a stalker at all.

Sending an appointment request is usually the last thing I do, with the first thing sending them a PM or text if they have a phone number listed and after my conversations with them, we determine together when to set an appointment and then I tell her I will do also do so through a p411 appointment request so she is aware and can look for it.