Indian Women with White Men

I am in a RW relationship with an (Asian) Indian woman. Specifically, she is Punjabi. It's wonderful. She is the most loving, passionate, and caring girlfriend I've ever had. Admittedly it was a slow process to build our relationship to this point - her culture does not look kindly on casual dating, in fact she has told me that in India it is actually against the law to kiss in public. But over time she's grown more comfortable with the idea, and the friendship, love, passion, and the sex is great. Worth the wait!

The question that I've been pondering is, why is a brown-skinned Indian woman with a white man such a rarity? You see the other way - Indian men with white women - all the time (such as in The Big Sick - and yes before you correct me, I know he's from Pakistan not India, but my point remains). My Indian gf has told me a couple of reasons, and I thought rather than only take her one opinion, I'd toss it out to this community to see what others think.

What she's told me is: for one, in India skin complexion means everything. An Indian woman should always be fairer than the man she is with. If the man is fairer than her, then he is considered to be more effeminate than her. But the other reason is more troubling to me: she has told me that Indian men believe that they "own" Indian women. This means that an Indian man can do whatever he wants (such as date a white woman) but an Indian woman doesn't dare date a white man, because she would receive a lot of backlash from Indian men, including strangers. So, whereas I would like to think that our relationship can prove to the world that an interracial relationship can not only work but can be beautiful, it seems that most Indian men would not accept it.

So, what say you, community? Do these ring true to those of you who are familiar with the culture? Any other reasons why Indian men w/ white women is more prevalent than Indian women w/ white men?

You are aware this is a SHMB? Is your girlfriend going to post taint photos?

It's just one of those cultural things. We're talking about a country where arranged marriages are still a thing. Good for you, though. I find Indian women to be extremely beautiful.

I tbought "love trumps all", it's about how you feel, and not what anyone else thinks.

In some cultures the racism present will likely mirror that of the KKK.
In some cultures the man is more free to marry who he wants- not so the woman.
The average American man may treat women better than the average man in that culture.
You need to investigate the caste system in India to gain a better understanding. You will have difficulty getting people to honestly talk about it.