Disrespectful Providers

INDIAN's Avatar
I wonder if you guys face this situation of some providers being disrespectful.
I have PM a provider asking if she can see me and i said my preffered activities are DFK, BBJ and MSOG in 1hr session.
She has given me a very disrespectful answer. I believe the whole point of having this site is communicate effectively and clearly and not being disrespectful and secure means of meeting a provider.
I would like to know your thoughts and if I was wrong in asking what I asked.
Well this is the first time this happened to me in years I am on this site.
Please note the provider is also a member of this site for a long time.
SpiceItUp's Avatar
Why are you even discussing her menu at all? She must have plenty of reviews indicating her menu if she's been on here a long time. As you must know, having been here for years, many ladies do not like discussing either menu or rates at all, and indeed proper research makes it unnecessary anyway. Was that the reason?

Obviously I'm speculating because you basically told us nothing from which to form a reasonable analysis of the situation. Saying she was "disrespectful" is pretty broad man, care to give us more details?
I agree Indian there are a lot of girls that are bitches on here,they want even give reference.My advice to you is to stick with the girls you do homework on read their profile and reviews not half try to read all,most of the guys will tell you if the girl is a sweetheart or cool chick! But fyi never mention services,i as well hate that!
Mentioning menu or rates prior to screening (or at all) is disrespectful.
johnniewalkerblack's Avatar
Move on to the next provider. Evidently, something you said turned her off.
pyramider's Avatar
The OP is a dipshit mentioning menu. The provider was probably being a bit bitchy. Approach the ladies with respect and you will usually get respect back.
MaxShaft's Avatar
YummyMarie... then I am disrespectul... I don't see what is wrong with mentioning a menu or even rates prior to a session. I have had one provider tell me, "I don't mind a person asking me about service or even rates. Just don't tell me what I should or shouldn't do or tell me what I am worth." Fair enough.
Maybe she has PMS.

Let's hope she runs a greek only special once the flow shows up.
Wakeup's Avatar
Providers can be disrespectful? The only time I've ever seen that is when someone offered a provider $1500 a month for five or ten visits...some of the replies were disrespectful...
YummyMarie... then I am disrespectul... I don't see what is wrong with mentioning a menu or even rates prior to a session. I have had one provider tell me, "I don't mind a person asking me about service or even rates. Just don't tell me what I should or shouldn't do or tell me what I am worth." Fair enough. Originally Posted by MaxShaft
Edit: Having met you in person, I would not take you as being anything but a gentleman. "Innapropriate" is a better term for what I was trying to say.

I doubt that is any less offensive to you or others, but I stand by my opinion. Do guys ask about services with me? Yes, they do, but I still answer them politely. I understand there are differing opinions about mentioning rates and services so I don't get bent out of shape over it when they are mentioned, but personally I do not like it. In response, I don't address their specific service questions, but rather I say something to the effect of, "Thank you for your inquiry. I will be happy to discuss activities once we have gotten screening out of the way Until then, please see my reviews or P411 profile about activities that I enjoy."

Even after screening, discussing rates is very uncomfortable for me, so I would rather not. Do I make exceptions and discuss them sometimes? Sure, but only when clarification is needed in certain situations.

After successful screening, ironically, I am usually the one to bring up actvities. I would say something similar to:

"Now that we are screened and scheduled, please tell me what I can do to make our time together more memorable. Do you have any clothing or beverage preferences? Did you have anything special in mind for our time together?"

I hope this helps you and others to understand my thought processes and actions during pre-session communication.
chrissy's Avatar
...Look likes you want an apology? Or you want her to see ur handle/post ..recognize it and want her to see you?..Or you want others to P.M you so you can bash her buiz hoping she gets slow enough to see you... IJS why the post after 20 reviews?? You clearly know how to research ..You clearly know the rules..
I agree with Yummy the thing wit me I don't like to talk about that in person when I see a client I want to imagine he is just a one night stand it throws my mo jo off when someone say oh the hr is 200 right ijs its not how you do it it's what you do!
I wonder if you guys face this situation of some providers being disrespectful.
I have PM a provider asking if she can see me and i said my preffered activities are DFK, BBJ and MSOG in 1hr session.
She has given me a very disrespectful answer. I believe the whole point of having this site is communicate effectively and clearly and not being disrespectful and secure means of meeting a provider.
I would like to know your thoughts and if I was wrong in asking what I asked.
Well this is the first time this happened to me in years I am on this site.
Please note the provider is also a member of this site for a long time. Originally Posted by INDIAN

For security reasons alone it's always best not to discuss especially if they haven't seen you. You're 20 reviews in and it seems like you're getting in a comfort zone and that's when you can start slipping. That's what I admire about most professional providers. I don't care how many yrs they've been providing if they're any good they do things by the book when it comes to their security.

Now as for the disrespectful tone. There's no need for it but different personalities is just part of the equation deal with it. I've been cursed out a time or two but I know it's from the heart and the person that did it loves me despite my occasional BS. . Just like my grandma. She used to curse us out all the time when we were kids. She called us all kinds of SOB's and MF'ers but she loved us unconditionally and we knew it. She was just from a different era. .

Sorry I digress.
LexusLover's Avatar
I have PM a provider asking if she can see me and i said my preffered activities are DFK, BBJ and MSOG in 1hr session. Originally Posted by INDIAN
I had to go back and reread the OP.

He didn't ask her about her menu, according to the above quote.

His post says he told her what he "preffered" in "activities."

Putting aside discussing what transpires in PMs, why get pissy?

Read reviews? You mean the fantasies posted on here?
lily blake's Avatar
You guys seem to forget that we are women before providers. I am guilty of not responding to a gentleman when they start asking for what acts will be performed. I'm a woman and I do what im comfortable with and you just have to read reviews and trust your instincts.