Curious-Do any SO`s allow hobbying?

Hi,
I had a query. With so much advice on this board about being careful and how to avoid your SO`s suspicion-like hobby phone,private browsing ,deleting history and so many guys freaking out if their SO`s find out-- Guys, do any of your SO`s allow or dont mind hobbying? Do any of them encourage you or even assist you in your quest?
It`s not that you dont care for your wife-It`s just that sex with the same person for a long time can get boring.Also it may be that your SO is unattractive sexually and hence you hobby..The SO`s realize this and suggest you hobby.Am I dreaming ? Or do some wishes indeed come true?
TxTraveller's Avatar
you've got to be dreaming!
There is a place called Never Never Land where all dreams come true.Lol.
The SO's that are now ex's

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Rugbylover's Avatar
Future ex-SO's attorney encourages all related activities...
mtabsw's Avatar
Yes, but it ain't simple. In my case, she knows the fact that I do, but does not participate, encourage etc. I'd characterize it as tolerance and an acknowledgement of our circumstances - not enthusiastic approval.

Privacy, LE, and avoiding drama all make me adhere to the practice safe hobbying rules.
Peanut's Avatar
mine allows and approves. only issue is she has to approve the one i see. and i cant see one more than a certain number of times.
Poor Peanut. An understanding SO, I don't see it.
Boltfan's Avatar
My SO approves. Sometimes she is even interested in finding a lady for both of us.
I have had several clients whose SO's knew they hobbied. I've actually even met a couple of wives. Go figure!

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Iaintliein's Avatar
Not a hijack attempt, but an aside, for those in the happy position of not having to hide this from the SO; how did you bring this subject up in the first place?

I've told my lady from the time we got engaged that she could have all of the strange she wanted as long as she was physically and emotionally safe (of course she never offered the reciprocal, and to my knowledge, never availed herself of the offer). Also, every time a news item, documentary etc. on the "oldest profession" comes on she is more adamant than I am (or can show I am) that it should be legalized and respected as a natural and necessary part of society.

Yet I fear that bringing up the subject on a personal level would make her look for things she doesn't look for today in my behavior.

Regards,
Boltfan's Avatar
We are swingers and naturally enjoy playing with others. We had a couple of bad experiences with another woman so we initially discussed finding a threesome playmate. I also told her when we met I played as a swinger and with escorts. She initially didn't like it (paying for fun) but came around and decided it was just fine by her. She doesn't enjoy anal and doesn't swallow and knows I like those two activities on occasion. She gives a mean BJ otherwise and enjoys facials so all around it works for me.

Just wish my business allowed for more hobby $$ these days.
Once my first wife came to grips with the fact that I wasn't kidding with the Divorce Petition she resgned herself to the fact that I was likely eating and fucking other pussy. I'd never ask permission to see a Provider. I like my boys hanging from me and not a nail on the wall!
i would let my so hobby if i could join are watch ...maybe am just kinky???....but he has no need to i take care of him
Even in you are having sex multiple times a week (or a day!), some guys still want variety and new experiences. This is why swinging works for some couples.

When I was married to "2.0", he still hobbied on occasion, and I would visit with some of the girls at social events. I just felt it was a waste of money when he wasn't using his available resources at home (maybe this is why he is the "ex" - lol)