I am of the generation that still believes in "ladies first" whether it be opening a door, sitting down for dinner, or having an O.
With my sexual performance relying on medications, I have to take advantage of an erection when it pops up or I may miss the boat. Even then, a finish usually evades me.
This conflicts with my core beliefs since I have to use what I have when I get it because it may not be available when I want it. That makes me feel selfish (yeah, I know the rebuttals so insert them between the "O"s here.....O_O.).
You ladies are professional and adapt to our needs very well. But it does make me feel like I've neglected my partner even though I do go back to paragraph 1 when I tire out or finish (tiring out usually comes first. That may be why I am slow and easy with the tongue).
My ATF is very good about adapting to just cuddling. I know she has much better lovers as clients who can provide a more satisfying sexual performance but she still makes me feel like I am her favorite.
Any ladies care to provide input, solace, encouragement, criticism, abuse? Guys too. I know there are some out there with the same problem.