Dating

So I've dated a few escorts and a couple of strippers. I knew what they did and was generally ok with the hustle. To my surprise all of them had a rule that I couldnt see others because they saw clients so it was business (as we all know regulars are never truly just clients but i digress). I lobbied for open relationships mostly to keep my jealously and insecurities at bay, but it appears that they struggled with their emotions more than I did. Has anyone else ever encountered this? Ladies, how does the hobby affect your personal dating life and what have you all experienced? Fellas, comments?

Ill be the blunt one

If im choosing to date someone then yes im expecting to be their only partner. This is my job, if you have accepted it then thats what it is.

If your seeing other people then we are swingers together. Yes we (at least i) will have more insecurities for what seems to be obvious reasons.

But if your a guy sleeping with other women for free then your basically a client getting it for free.

If its an arrangement that the two have then go all for it.

My question is there are guys that state/brag about dating escorts/strippers, why Do they seek them out? Do they feel we will feel that they understand us better?

If you did you wouldnt be asking the question....just saying with all my sweetness.

I dont date hobby guys though...been there and done that...never again.

To my surprise all of them had a rule that I couldnt see others because they saw clients so it was business (as we all know regulars are never truly just clients but i digress). Originally Posted by thewoodthatcould

I hope you had enough sense to not fall for this. If you did then you might as well just take a kitchen knife, chop your testicles off, and put them in her purse.

Ill be the blunt one

If im choosing to date someone then yes im expecting to be their only partner. This is my job, if you have accepted it then thats what it is.

If your seeing other people then we are swingers together. Yes we (at least i) will have more insecurities for what seems to be obvious reasons.

But if your a guy sleeping with other women for free then your basically a client getting it for free.

If its an arrangement that the two have then go all for it.

My question is there are guys that state/brag about dating escorts/strippers, why Do they seek them out? Do they feel we will feel that they understand us better?

If you did you wouldnt be asking the question....just saying with all my sweetness.

I dont date hobby guys though...been there and done that...never again. Originally Posted by LadyAnastasia

Your first paragraph is why no provider can't ever have a real meaningful relationship imho, and I don't mean plenty of free cock

It's hard for us to trust. We are jaded.

Mongers are jaded too. At least with a provider I know what she wants. Dealing with non-pros gets really confusing because it's hard not to second guess motives. I'll say this about one of my experiences though. I thought she wanted money or privileges and I was way off base. She just wanted me to be around, non sexual. That was a mind fuck for me at the time in my life so I cut ties. Relationships are complicated and the emotions that drive us to want to be in them

Relationships are complicated and the emotions that drive us to want to be in them Originally Posted by thewoodthatcould

Well that's where you're messing up dude. As a man, your emotions shouldn't be "driving" you. Careful thought, logic, rationale, planning, etc is what should "drive" a man.

it's really what you two work out and agree to.

both of you need to agree on what kind if relationship you want - exclusive or open relationship. if you two cant agree on it, then end the relationship (just as in any non-adult sex worker relationship).

if she is engaging in sexual activities w/ others as part of her job/business, you should agree on the boundaries (that is, work/"home" life balance).

if you two agree on an exclusive relationship, you should figure out what to do if either of you do not honor your agreement (just as in any non-adult sex worker [asw] relationship).

if you two agree on an open relationship, you two should agree on the boundaries there as well (asw only, non-asw only, both). plus, you dont have to be swingers if you still want to have sex w/ others.

good luck.

At this point in my life, I think it foolish to believe your pussy or his cock will suffice for all ones sexual pleasure..I mean: get real. Your isn’t the ultimate cock / pussy for your partner. It’s one you get along with. More is the key. In the truest sense of things, multiple partners, freedom to fuck, without possession, is the ultimate love one can have for another. My pleasure is her pleasure and vice versa, so the partner shouldn’t constrict what’s pleasing for the other. Applaud them. Encourage them. Be the wingman / wing woman. “ hey sweets, you like that one over there, let me see if I can hook you up. “. Pure hedonistic desires fulfilled without jealousy or restraints. Orgasms are the best thing in life. Celebrating your partner by encouraging them to have as many as possible. Save the love for when once impotence has set in.... Then take care of each other.

I would not have an issue dating a provider and I did many years ago. That said it was more of a friendship than a committed relationship with the option for sex that I paid for. Other than the sex we enjoyed activities together like anyone else in the RW. She was not pressured to provide freebies. I could not make any demands that jeopardized her livelihood. At least you know what you are getting and not getting with a provider. RW women have all sorts of agenda's and lie more often than not.

most excellent analysis/comments, crashkopf.
if more people would open their minds and hearts so they could engage in amorous, sensual, erotic, sexual adventures without freaking out cos of envy or jealousy, i would say that some people would be the happier in their life.

but, i'm not holding my breath.



i'm just holding my cock for the next sweet cocksucker to cum along and let me delite her pubic zone while she sucks.

At this point in my life, I think it foolish to believe your pussy or his cock will suffice for all ones sexual pleasure..I mean: get real. Your isn’t the ultimate cock / pussy for your partner. It’s one you get along with. More is the key. In the truest sense of things, multiple partners, freedom to fuck, without possession, is the ultimate love one can have for another. My pleasure is her pleasure and vice versa, so the partner shouldn’t constrict what’s pleasing for the other. Applaud them. Encourage them. Be the wingman / wing woman. “ hey sweets, you like that one over there, let me see if I can hook you up. “. Pure hedonistic desires fulfilled without jealousy or restraints. Orgasms are the best thing in life. Celebrating your partner by encouraging them to have as many as possible. Save the love for when once impotence has set in.... Then take care of each other. Originally Posted by crashkopf

It annoys me when some circumstances prevent me from doing what I want. Recently I met a good girl through https://www.tendermeets.com/ site and we wanted to meet, but we can’t do this in the next month. I'm afraid she will find another guy.

It annoys me when some circumstances prevent me from doing what I want. Recently I met a good girl through https://www.tendermeets.com/ site and we wanted to meet, but we can’t do this in the next month. I'm afraid she will find another guy. Originally Posted by Booster

There's already other guys man, don't tell us you thought you might be the only one?

VeryClean how do you feel about this

When push comes to shove they all take money for love.