Busted By Wife

I have been married for over 30 years and I am 52 years old. Great shape, very active, and do lots of traveling.


I have been a hobbyist for around 12 years and my wife finally found one encounter I had. My mistake and I hate for her to hurt because of it.


The dilemma I have is quite simple, do I still want to be married or do I want to keep exploring the wonderful women of the world?


I seems selfish to me to want to leave a wonderful wife who is also great in bed over a hobby but I am not getting any younger and there are still thousands of women out there whom I would love to meet.


Am I an asshole for thinking this way?
Just cheat man. Stay married. Law low for a while. Then get back out there.
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Chung Tran's Avatar
continue on, but learn to be like a Cat, and cover up your shit after you take one.
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offshoredrilling's Avatar
let her roam also. maybe roam together some also.
Dude I feel ya. I just got busted myself 2 days ago, came home in the middle of work and found me with Tara.... wherewwwieee ... hell if I could just get her to stop being nutso I would be ok
It wasn't me......
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My mistake and I hate for her to hurt because of it.

The dilemma I have is quite simple, do I still want to be married or do I want to keep exploring the wonderful women of the world?

I seems selfish to me to want to leave a wonderful wife who is also great in bed over a hobby but I am not getting any younger and there are still thousands of women out there whom I would love to meet.

Am I an asshole for thinking this way? Originally Posted by jesseman22
Yes, you are an asshole. All of us who have been married, and visited escorts are. We all cheated.

Remember saying this?

"I take thee to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part"

Either let her her go, or stop cheating. I know this won't be a popular sentiment here, but anything less isn't fair to your wife.
let her roam also. maybe roam together some also. Originally Posted by offshoredrilling
Hey stranger. You forgot about me or you’re playing hard to get?
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Dude I feel ya. I just got busted myself 2 days ago, came home in the middle of work and found me with Tara.... wherewwwieee ... hell if I could just get her to stop being nutso I would be ok Originally Posted by Pcolaman39

you cheated at work with a co-worker? lol
  • MrGiz
  • 04-25-2020, 11:32 PM
"I take thee to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part" Originally Posted by pfunkdenver
Where's the "I won't fuck around part?"
I don't have any professional training on the subject at hand. You and your wife need to have a discussion about her feelings and what is missing from your relationship that led you to seek it outside of the relationship.

If you cannot reach an agreement on what is needed by you or what is acceptable in the relationship...time to move on.
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I thought vow of marriage was to remain loyal and faithful until death do you part? If your goal is to run around and poke various women, presumably younger ones, then why would you do something so stupid as marry someone?
Oh the deep, deep rabbit hole is a bitch, there is no climbing out once you have tasted the honey of more than willing providers