New providers vs. Repeats

I’m curious to know if most hobbyists enjoy seeing new provides every time or if they would prefer to find one or two providers who they regularly see. Why do you feel this way?

Thinking of becoming a provider? Most mongers don't think. Just go off of impulse

For me, I like a steady diet of regular, comfy pussy...with a dash of strange to keep it interesting and to provide a bullpen or AAA league from which I can dip in to if the need arises.

For me it's a two way street. I love to get it on with new ladies on the scene, preferably younger than me,

but my preferred clients are returning suitors.

It's exciting to get that strange, but it's very intimate to make love to a partner you have known for some time and have caught feeling for.

I don't know if that question was for everyone, but that would be my answer.

As a provider, I love seeing regulars as I definitely love getting to know people intimately. And I love, if I see someone new and have an amazing time, thinking that I might get to have more times like that with them in the future. But I understand variety is the spice of life and everyone sees providers for different reasons. I think if I was a client I’d probably see a lot of different people to experience different things but realistically I’d probably find a connection with one person and not be able to enjoy anyone else as much. I do sometimes ask regulars if they have seen any other providers though because it can lead to some exciting stories but it’s up to them if they want to share them with me.

I don't think I've ever seen the same gal more than 3 or 4 times, and only a handful of them that much.

Most of the time, once is enough. This is not intended as an insult to anyone that I've only seen once, because there is so much variety out there. Besides, there are several in that category that I'd like to see again at some point.

I think that maybe we are hard-wired to seek out novelty, and so the search for that perfect unicorn that we will want to see dozens of times is most likely an illusion.

I've met a few that are pretty close to unicorns, but I just haven't pulled the trigger any more than 3 or 4 times. Sometimes they retire from the hobby, so there's also that.

So many beautiful ladies, and so little time.

for me, the 1st encounter is always the most awkward.
i rarely see a lady without the hope or intent of seeing her again.
i prefer a more mature lady preferably 35 or older. i ust feel more comfortable and comfort goes a long way towards return visits.
while i do look for new ladies i try to do as much research as possible, not just reviews but also her posts to get a feel for her personality. though i have done the 1 time hit and run, i much more prefer the company of a lady who knows my "secrets".

I wasn't expecting to when I started doing this again, but I found that having a regular and building a "relationship" is more satisfying than a new girl every week. I like the continuity, the lack of awkwardness, and being able to talk about things that you just wouldn't if you only met someone once. I know what to expect and I can look forward to the appointment because of that rather than wondering if I'll end up with buyer's remorse.

I like to see other ladies too, but I definitely have favorites that get almost all of my business.

I just need to figure out how to talk them into one of those punch cards. Buy 7 get the 8th for free!

I just need to figure out how to talk them into one of those punch cards. Buy 7 get the 8th for free! Originally Posted by RetiredNinja

Hahahaha... that would be nice.

but my preferred clients are returning suitors.
. Originally Posted by HunterGrace

If you don’t mind me asking and going down this rabbit hole, why are returning suitors your preference? Also, Can I assume if a suitor wants a return visit but you didn’t click with them then do you just not respond?

I wasn't expecting to when I started doing this again, but I found that having a regular and building a "relationship" is more satisfying than a new girl every week. I like the continuity, the lack of awkwardness, and being able to talk about things that you just wouldn't if you only met someone once. I know what to expect and I can look forward to the appointment because of that rather than wondering if I'll end up with buyer's remorse.

I like to see other ladies too, but I definitely have favorites that get almost all of my business.

I just need to figure out how to talk them into one of those punch cards. Buy 7 get the 8th for free! Originally Posted by RetiredNinja

This seems to be how my hobby life goes as well. Right now I have two regulars who have turned into friends in the real world (hobby relationship somehow stays separate). I also have couple of ladies I can't quite stay away from and see occasionally. I once had a regular who I would pay a certain amount at the beginning of each month and got a substantial discount. Kind of like a retainer to a Lawyer. Perhaps a bit of risk in that and requires a good bit of trust. That one, unhappily, went away due to events beyond my control.

I'm just seeing regulars and no new clients now. I adore getting to spoil them and they in return spoil me too. Some of the best relationships I have ever had! And the road to sexual exploration with someone you start to know -- can't be beat! IMO

I completely agree with you Ellen sweetie.

If you don’t mind me asking and going down this rabbit hole, why are returning suitors your preference? Also, Can I assume if a suitor wants a return visit but you didn’t click with them then do you just not respond? Originally Posted by Mmrebel

I'm honored that you ask! I enjoy returning suitors:

~ I save a lot of time (ie, maximize the value of my time monetarily) because I don't have to screen them again and again.

~ I have found that with returning suitors, I can count on them to help me out if I am in a jam and unable to provide services at the time I need their help. (like when I am out of town)

~ I have found that overall, the generosity of returning suitors far exceeds that of the one and done type of guys

~ I can let my hair down and let them know the authentic me, real name, private number, personal details about my life and they open up to me about their personal lives as well which creates deep intimacy and familiarity.

~ love. Yes, falling in love and being in love-one hour at a time. I do have to compartmentalize and remember to stay in my lane, but as long as I follow my "side bitch" rules I have created, I don't often get my heart broken or forget my place by making assumptions and creating expectations beyond the time we get bcd. I coined the phrase, "I have a lot of monogamous relationships, they are just all at the same time"

~ trust. It's a real honor to know that I am trustworthy to my suitors. For example, They know I will never ever be a home wrecker and that I respect their wives and S.O.'s and only wish to enhance their lives at home by being a safe outlet for their needs not met at home.

~ I get feedback on the effects of my presence in their life. In a one and done, I don't ever learn how I affected their life once playtime was over. Unless there is a review, of which I only see a piece, I do not know how I affected their life, if affected at all. Returning suitors will have feedback on how our time affected their life, enhanced or the opposite of enhance (an antonym escapes me right now). I enjoy feeling like I have healed or helped them in much deeper ways than a quick release, although there is a time and place for the one and done quickie too!


IN a nutshell, I like returning suitors because of the connection that I feel. Intimacy. Love. Familiarity. A deeper more spiritual experience for me and for my lover.

Don't get me wrong, I like that strange too. But if I had to choose, I would choose returning suitors.

Thank you for asking! I really do feel honored you wanted to know my thoughts and my heart.

1-2 per city. I bounce around the mid-cities, Austin and SA quite a bit.