How to handle multiple postings on different services

memdal's Avatar
I have a protocol question for the ladies and the men. Often I find a traveling lady will post an ad here on eccie, and also on one or more of P411, on date-check and on TER. All of the ads ask us gentlemen to contact them for an appointment, and usually there is also an email address involved. I generally reply through one only and then after 24 hours, if I see she has logged in to that service since my note but not responded, I send a second intro email to explore a scheduling through one of the other services, and so on.

Ladies – is it rude of me to send to a couple accounts when you are posting on several and have expressed no preference on any of them. When does checking back again become rude when you have read the first note but not responded? I would hate to chase off a lady I want to meet.

Gentlemen – Do you do the same? And, would you prefer ladies designate a first choice, most responded to approach.
Cpalmson's Avatar
As a guy, I will contact a lady via every method she has listed-- PM, P411 message, e-mail, phone/text. I figure that she is bound to get one of the messages. I believe that if she listed a method of contact, use it. Now, if her ad list a preference for contacting her, I will use that. Absent a preference, I bombard her

As for waiting for a reply before sending a second message, I give it a day.
pyramider's Avatar
I just send tainted signals to the ladies. Almost by magic they contact me. You just need to focus on your inner taint and the signals will go out.
It depends on the content of your email. If it includes your screening information, a description of yourself, and the day you'd like to meet, you should wait on her to respond.

You don't want to become assumptive about what's going on in her life. From my point of view, I may be at work, in an appointment, or with family where I can check my email, but not respond. By the time I can respond, I've had a hell of a day, and would plan to respond in the morning, or during lunch time, if I'm not tied up (or tying someone else up for that matter).

If a lady is on P411, an appointment request is the best way to get a lady's attention.
SexyBritneyJ's Avatar
I'd make sure you followed the instructions in her ad first, if there are any. I've stopped answering emails from people who don't include their screening information.
memdal's Avatar
If there is one thing I have learned about having success in booking appointments is follow every part of a ladies instructions and to always give enough screening info/reference to create instant comfort. Wait, that may be two things I have learned. Thanks.

I'd make sure you followed the instructions in her ad first, if there are any. I've stopped answering emails from people who don't include their screening information. Originally Posted by SexyBritneyJ