Failure to Launch

I've always considered that whether or not a provider got a Big "O" was "O"ptional and not "O"bligatory.

But what are your thoughts when your client doesn't get his Big "O"?

Do the gentlemen hobbyists feel it's "O"bligatory or "O"ptional?

Do the gentlewomen providers feel it's "O"bligatory or "O"ptional?

Moreover...do any providers feel anything when they can't get their horniest of clients off?

I am curious to know how the collective thinks about this topic.

PS. In practice, all of my providers' Big "O's" are very much "O"bligatory. I guess you could call me 007inches.

It hasn't happened in my presence very often but it HAS happened a few times.

I feel bad but it all depends on the gentleman. Most guys are very gracious and know their occasional limitations so it's not a complete shock to them.

I am of the mind that even though the end result isn't all fireworks, it still feels really good. And, of course, there is always next time, right?

Well, here I am under vnurse again. It must be a sign.

My name is Crossroads and I don't always pop.
There... I said it.

Seriously, I really don't have a big problem with that. Sure it's awesome when it happens, and sure that's always kinda the goal, but a really nice session for me is more than just a discharge of fluids. I can do that myself.

A great session is about the connection, the intimacy, the pampering, the contact. If it shoots, it shoots - bonus time.

I recently had one of the greatest FBSM sessions I've ever had and it didn't happen. What DID hapen was her. It seemed like I was going to take more effort than necessary to get there, so I asked her if SHE would like a massage. (I know... we all ask that and sometimes they do - sometimes not.) I'm pretty good with my hands for a rank amateur, though, so she accepted. The lady was already pretty aroused from pumping on me and was pretty orgasmic. She came twice in the space of about 20 minutes. I thought I was going to have to leave her lying on the table at the end of the session, but after some nice cuddling we both got dressed and made another appointment for a command performance.

Sex (hobby included) is about pleasing. Sometimes one is is satisfied, sometimes the other, best times - both.

Vnurse, I enjoy the opportunity to be "under" you. Someday soon I hope to experience it first "hands".

I always wanna "pop" & would definitely feel shortchanged if failure occurred, which it has not as of yet but, there have been a couple of close calls that succeeded only with a HJ. Sometimes nervousness, a distraction (or even needing to go pee!) may interfere. What's been a bit of a surprise is how often the gals seem clueless about how to do a good HJ and start pounding it like a jackhammer, however, with a little coaching, they do great and genuinely want to see that you "get there".

Crossroads, I LOVE your attitude! The part about being "under me" but especially about not popping. The gentlemen that I have seen have stated about the same sentiment. If it's a good session, it's a good session. If you leave feeling good then it WAS a good session, right? I REALLY like the way you think!

By the way, today my doc said I could return to work next week! YAAAAAAYYYYY!!!!! Ad to be posted soon!

Its happened to me a few times I guess because I work to hard

It happens to me too. I think a lot of it is mental. Trying too too hard to make it happen and then it just all goes away.
Vickie, please let me know when you are ready to "get er done!"
bigtom62

It happens occasionally and is usually due to one of the following reasons:

1) If the session is going really good, getting hot, good wood etc. and the phone rings

2) She is REALLY bad at what she does. That would be MY fault for picking her.

3) She says "you ready for the condom?" which really kills the mood. Yeah I do, but don't stop what you are doing and go run to your purse.

4) She says "that will be an extra $50"

5) Someone knocks on the door.

Along the same lines as Introuble......when a lady starts telling me how much time I have left or the agency/booking person calls.

I think it is all mental as well. This does occasionally occur, and inevitably it is due to a lack of connection. I try to research, and search for the illusion of passion, and the enjoyment of DFK, and DATY. Sometimes if those items are not passionately embraced, some of the equipment loses its backbone. I don't believe it is anyone's fault, and while I would certainly prefer to perform as I did 30 years ago (slight breeze was adequate), the reality of time must be given in to.

Leaving such a session with grace is certainly my objective, as to Vnurse's point I would not want the provider to take it personally. If it was that easy to connect with someone, the divorce rate would probably be a good bit lower.

Treating people with respect as often as possible, is how I approach all things, and I therefore hope to receive the same....hard or soft.....

hot rooms after cold beers is a bad mix for me

Vnurse and gents thanks for commenting. I thought I would see more ladies on this thread.

Do we have any other perspectives on this from the female POV?