I ran in to a real eye opener the other day.
There are people who take their sex, or inter-gender relationships VERY seriously. And I'm curious about several things: I thought sex was about fun, a sensual encounter between consenting adults, and to me the "fun" part doesn't get too exotic or extreme and requires no props, electricty, probes, clamps, costumes, devices inflatable or insertable, instruments of punishment or degradation...none of that.
So when doing some intell and getting led to forum topics I would avoid there were some vitriolic exchanges happening about issues that to me have nothing to do with sex. It was put forward that straight sex with fun was unimaginative. Maybe it's the muse in me that runs to things other than my gentials, but does that make a quick feel good experience dull? To me it's like ice cream or Jack in the Box tacos...it's a treat.
Back on point: So does all that dom/sub/punishment/tools and fools stuff really have anything to do with sex? I don't see it if it does. It has everything to do with lots of deep psychological issues, and if a man or woman needs a car battery clamped to their nipples while they wear a diaper and get whipped while somebody pees on them, well, good for them, but that falls under performance art, not sex. At least to me. Or did I miss the memo?