I canceled a appt today for the "cling"

First off, Everyone that personally knows me, knows that I am super laid back. I love talking and hanging out.

But this "client" who is not really a "client" of mine booked a appointment with me about 3 weeks ago and has been emailing non-stop ever since. I don't think he is dangerous by any mean, nor do I think he meant me any harm. BUT I cant take and send 1000 pictures a day. I have a life outside of this. I have a life in this. For the love of god, Chill out.

I told him multiple times why I wasn't taking any more pics and he kept pressuring me. I felt as if he was one of those guys with "predator" blood that would try to push me into doing things that were outside of my boundaries.

So I canceled. Before he posts bitching. This is my rebuttal. thanks.

Curious - was today the day of the appointment? And, why not cancel prior? Or was today just the coincidental tipping point?

Curious - was today the day of the appointment? And, why not cancel prior? Or was today just the coincidental tipping point? Originally Posted by FunInDFW

the appointment was on the 15th.

Hannah,
Think you should stick with Oklahoma & Texas? I'm thinking now, that I should have driven to Enid Saturday night, don't know if that would have worked for you, but it sure would have been better than what I substituted with, there's not too ones like you available!

Hannah,
Think you should stick with Oklahoma & Texas? I'm thinking now, that I should have driven to Enid Saturday night, don't know if that would have worked for you, but it sure would have been better than what I substituted with, there's not too ones like you available! Originally Posted by client007

This wasn't about you. of course! LOL. That would have worked for me. Sorry she substitute dropped the ball. I sure miss you.

Perhaps we have a new term for this wonderful hobby of ours: the clingleberry.

These are the "time wasters". You aren't getting paid to have an ongoing relationship with a client, before or after the appointment other than being professional and making said arrangements. Should YOU, on your own, with HIS agreement, take interest in a more "involved" form of communicating, THEN cling all you want!

You went too far by allowing him to get so many pictures of you and keeping those lines of communication too open. Guys will push for more if they see an opening. (No, not all of them, but lots of them...stripper slide asshats)

I'm glad you canceled.

Cynamon, glad you saw the light and cut the line between you two.

remember, YOU are the one that decides/controls who you email/chat/visit with. [as well as who you "work" for]
unless of course you are a submissive who has "given" a master "control".
even then, the sub still has limits.

this also applies to other providers and other clients.

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You went too far by allowing him to get so many pictures of you and keeping those lines of communication too open. Guys will push for more if they see an opening. ... Originally Posted by tntangie

Sage observation!!!

and by sending that guy your pics, you (Cynamon) have completely lost control over those images. he know has that control. for whatever purposes he wants to use them.

for you and others - learn from this and apply that knowledge in the future.

Let me start over by saying I have never met this guy. He booked a appointment back in May for June 15th which I accepted after screening. He's been emailing and emailing...asking for pics ...asking for pics...asking for pics...I have always said NO and referred him to my showcase. He continued to ask. He made me feel weird. Like he was a predator. I answered his emails up until today when I told him this was becoming too much. If this would have been a client that I talk 2 on a regular ...cause I do have some. Then the emailing would have been fine. I'm still not gonna send 1000 pics a day. I have never sent this guy a picture. I don't even know this dude.

These are the "time wasters". You aren't getting paid to have an ongoing relationship with a client, before or after the appointment other than being professional and making said arrangements. Should YOU, on your own, with HIS agreement, take interest in a more "involved" form of communicating, THEN cling all you want!

You went too far by allowing him to get so many pictures of you and keeping those lines of communication too open. Guys will push for more if they see an opening. (No, not all of them, but lots of them...stripper slide asshats)

I'm glad you canceled. Originally Posted by tntangie

Oh slipper slide douche bags. Yes. Lol

Perhaps we have a new term for this wonderful hobby of ours: the clingleberry. Originally Posted by Bonferroni

Lol ...that has a nice ring to it.

Go with your senses. If you feel it's not appropriate...it's your choice.

Seems to me you're spending much too much time thinking about this guys. I think most girl I know would simply tell him "we don't have chemistry, stop contacting me" and then ignore him from then on.

Well I over think things. I felt kind of bad. Like maybe the guy was just Lonely. In this business, I know how it is to feel secluded. I was hoping that wasn't the reason he was emailing so much. I have a client that is a complete hermit. He's depressed. Ect ect. I talk to him pretty often to pick up his spirits. But I wasn't picking that up from this guy. I think he is just a douche.