There's No Such Thing As A Free Girlfriend

There's No Such Thing As A Free Girlfriend

Yep, it's true. I had this conversation tonight with a lovely young Lady who was visiting me. And of course if you ever get married, then it becomes ridiculously expensive.

I wonder why society frowns on us Hobbyists for paying for Providers? Really and truely, no girlfiend is ever free. Or even cheap for that matter.

(Well, except of course for the unemployed, tattooed, chain smoking, heavy drinking, women abusing loser that all the Strippers want for boyfriends. Sure, that asshole gets a free girlfriend.)

But not us nice guys, who are gainfully employed, and treat women nice. No, we do not get a free girlfriend, ever.

So, why not just be up front and pay the lovely young lady? Just have an arrangement. Seems like the logical thing to do.

Sorry for the rant tonight. Just tired of people looking down on me for paying for companionship. If they would be honest and look in the mirror, they would see how much their wife/girlfriend is costing them. I just cut the bullshit out and pay. That's the real difference.

I must agree with you completely. the best relationship I have ever had was with a woman that I met on ASPD. She retired a year and a half ago and I still have a wonderful memory of her.

I recently re entered the hobby after a hiatus of more than a year. I spent my birthday evening with Jerzee and she came to my apartment and even brought me cupcakes for my birthday. I have mostly forgotten my exwife, but I will remember these cupcakes for a long time.

Although I no longer see escorts, I cannot argue with your point O2D. I had a good relationship with an escort that lasted more than seven years and was just really good. We really got into each other but it was always understood to be business but fun! Unfortunately she got busted for escorting and moved out of state. We still keep in touch from time to time but we both have moved on. Still it was really good with her since she had the body I really liked as she is Polynesian/Hawaiian who is very busty with long hair and the most awesome personality, a real sweetheart.

However good it was, yes you are very correct as there are no free girlfriends or wives. The escort I am writing about was never free beyond the P4P nature of our relationship either but in the end, she was a doll to be with even with her issues.

Well said, gentlemen!

I was at one of my ATF's apartment one night several years ago, complaining about another provider who seemed to be getting the wrong message and was starting to act like we were in a real relationship. As I was wondering out loud if I was dealing with a delusional and dangerous character straight out of "Fatal Attraction", my friend interrupted me and claimed, "You know, mistresses are expensive...but girlfriends are dangerous".

That immediately went on my ASPD signature line, and remained there until the site went dark.

Omaha,

I couldn't agree with you more. Wives/girlfriends are more expensive in the long run. While true, we pay for the fantasy and the provider's time, at the end of the session everyone goes home. No drama! Gotta love it....

W.

(Well, except of course for the unemployed, tattooed, chain smoking, heavy drinking, women abusing loser that all the Strippers want for boyfriends. Sure, that asshole gets a free girlfriend.)

"You know, mistresses are expensive...but girlfriends are dangerous".

+1 and +1

P4P is frowned upon by society because:
1. It is a real threat to the wives/girlfriends gig.
2. Weak willed guys, afraid of losing their once a quarter piece of pie agree with anything the so/gf says, all the while thinking they had the balls to p4p. (Which, for quite a few, are in a jar in the pantry, rarely ever seeing the light of day.)
3. There are those who think they know better than everyone else, and wish to impose their will/viewpoints on others.

hell it costs to be born, costs to die and in between your pockets are cleaned on a daily basis...everything costs... is the moral to my story...

Just tired of people looking down on me for paying for companionship. Originally Posted by omaha2dallas

They're secretly jealous and judging you only to make themselves feel better.

If they would be honest and look in the mirror, they would see how much their wife/girlfriend is costing them. Originally Posted by omaha2dallas

They know! It just hurts too much to think about. lol Be patient. Eventually most will break up/divorce and a few of the smart ones will be begging for your advice to get started in the hobby. The not so smart ones will immediately dive into another relationship for more of that so called free stuff.

(Well, except of course for the unemployed, tattooed, chain smoking, heavy drinking, women abusing loser that all the Strippers want for boyfriends. Sure, that asshole gets a free girlfriend.)
Originally Posted by omaha2dallas

I had a dancer tell me one night her couch potato BF had a fresh warm bath ready for her every night when she got home, just like clockwork.

I felt so sorry for the poor bastard I wanted to send him a sympathy card!!!

What is the difference in "free" pussy, and pay for play pussy?

After two ex-wifes, and one sugar baby....Free pussy is much more expensive.

...LOL! Pardon the Saturday morning cartoon flashback...

Man, have you hit all of the nails on the head! That pretty much covered all of the options.

But, I gotta throw a monkey wrench into the equation. I am so severely lucky in that I have a true fuck-buddy. Strictly sex with a smidgen of personal stuff thrown in just because we do so well together sexually and have to do a little something between the times we go at each other. I'm 60 and it took 59 years to fall into this massive good fortune. I attribute this not so much to anything I do other than find some buttons, switches and levers previously undiscovered, but to her outlook on sex and relationships being closer to a man's than a woman's (please toss the grenades and flames a little to the left to compensate for me ducking) resulting in the serious lack of drama and pettiness towards each other. We also have a need for variety that we understand in each other.

However, and this may just be another manifestation of the male hunter thing, it would truly be satisfying to find that true soul mate - the Sasquatch of emotional fulfillment - before my ticket's punched. Much has been made throughout the history of humankind about this elusive being but in the end, it seems to me, material security winds up being the trump card. If all women are whores, then all men are whore-mongers. But, as John Lennon sang, "Whatever gets you through the night, it's all right, it's all right."

"You know, mistresses are expensive...but girlfriends are dangerous". Originally Posted by TinMan

Great Quote Tinman!

Thanks for the responses everybody

Maybe I am having a Midol Moment,but I've been around the block a time or two..Many girlfriends, 2 wives, got engaged to a provider,had many ATF'S retire, or die.. I forgot all the fuck buddies, currently I have 2. All that aside, sooner or later you've got to wake up one morning and go WHY? FOR WHAT?. What is it that causes me to think it is my destiny to fuck as many women as possible..Why can't I find one woman, regardless of the cost, that makes me feel good on an emotional and affectionate level, and one that truly loves me? My civilian friends, not all, but some have great relationships,not me, I'm runnin hard and low to the ground.. I've come to think that maybe there is something in a whore monger's genes, he cannot be satisfied with one relationship, he has to constantly be on the move, after one session (p4p or not) he is planning the next.. There is a deep hole in the soul of many here, I try to fill it with pussy, but it never gets full, instead it only wants more...

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However, and this may just be another manifestation of the male hunter thing, it would truly be satisfying to find that true soul mate - the Sasquatch of emotional fulfillment - before my ticket's punched."

Randy, good luck my old friend,,I've given up on soul mates, its not for me,too late, too tired, and I just don't give a shit anymore..