FYI....I (and most all providers) do go to dinner with people other than hobbyist.
Chances are she didn't even realize who you were because she was in Real World Mode or she was just as nervous as you were.
I have had several occasions that I have bumped into, sat directly across from, been at the same party (civie), fondled coconuts in front of at the grocery store......
Just act normal!!
AND....if you think that a provider that you have seen or visit with frequently is going to be someone who is going to approach you or confront you while you are with your SO or family....you may want to re think about who you are seeing.
Your welcome!
Spikebaby