Humiliation or ego boost?

Which do you prefer? I know some guys like to be dominated and want to be treated like shit...

Then some like their ego boosted to make them feel better...

I don’t judge I cater to both, but I would like more insight on these topics. You can pm me if you don’t want to write it here

Ego boost. If done right.

Neither, really. Don't pretend I don't have flabby man boobs, but don't draw attention to them, either.

I understand that there will be plenty of guys into flattery and humiliation, but avoid both for me, please. Just pretend to be having a good time (but not an incredibly fake great time).

I like to walk the line and be a loving and caring dominate. You can take control of a situation and not have the client be humiliated.

Always been rather tough for me to be overtly cruel.

But when a submissive man has pleased me and completely the job requested of him, then in my opinion, he should have that ego boost just by being a good subbie!!!

That, plus a hard orgasm helps with the endorphins. haha

Ego boost. If done right. Originally Posted by Samhyde

Like not done too much? examples please

^^^I am into neither, but am curious what an Ego Boost session is like? I have never heard of this for some ‘I must live under a rock’ reason.

Like not done too much? examples please Originally Posted by BabyDallass

I would think if it seems disingenuous or patronizing, that will not boost a guys ego.

Tasteful flattery works for me. Where you compliment me but in a genuine realistic manner. That's if you do want to give me an "ego boost". I'm totally fine with you not flattering me at all. I don't want to be humiliated or insulted.

For example, let's say you know a man isn't packing, and the man knows it too, don't say to him "Wow you have a big one, one of the biggest ones I've ever seen..wow" He'll know you're just lying to make him feel good and heck, he may even think you're mocking his size by calling him big.

On the other hand, say you identify a positive attribute that he does have like a full head of hair or handsome face and then you compliment him on that then that will make him feel good.

Like not done too much? examples please Originally Posted by BabyDallass

Main thing: Don't tell me what a BIG dick I have. I mean, it's not small, but it's not a porno dick either. It's just average.

DO tell me I smell nice, or have a nice ass or nice skin complexion. Or that you love the way I eat pussy...

Just comment on the things you see as true positives about me and don't make up false positives like having a big dick, or I'm the hottest guy ever.

ETA: Just read VeryClean's post. What he said.

But if you are prearranging for an ‘Ego Boost’ session and she is complimentary to whatever degree you wish, at what point does it hit home, she’s Faking It?

I don't want either really. I want to feel like you like me and like what I'm doing if I'm doing it right. If not, let me know what feels good to you. I get off on making a woman feel good and then I get to as well. Hell, I don't know, maybe I'm too easy?

I don't want either really. I want to feel like you like me and like what I'm doing if I'm doing it right. If not, let me know what feels good to you. I get off on making a woman feel good and then I get to as well. Hell, I don't know, maybe I'm too easy? Originally Posted by Somform

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+1

Everyone is different and likes different things that’s why I asked

I wouldn’t mind a mix a both, like call me a dirty slut and tell me what to do, then I don’t mind a guy who is shy and sweet...all fun to me.

Tasteful flattery works for me. Where you compliment me but in a genuine realistic manner. That's if you do want to give me an "ego boost". I'm totally fine with you not flattering me at all. I don't want to be humiliated or insulted.

For example, let's say you know a man isn't packing, and the man knows it too, don't say to him "Wow you have a big one, one of the biggest ones I've ever seen..wow" He'll know you're just lying to make him feel good and heck, he may even think you're mocking his size by calling him big.

On the other hand, say you identify a positive attribute that he does have like a full head of hair or handsome face and then you compliment him on that then that will make him feel good. Originally Posted by VeryClean

I had a provider once tell me I had a “perfect cock” for deep throating. I was like WTF thanks. But she seemed genuine and said it’s not super thick but it’s real long. She told me again to use her as a reference and she will tell her how perfect it is. Still have mixed feelings but I swear if I had to bet I’d say she was being genuine LOL 😂

I had a provider once tell me I had a “perfect cock” for deep throating. I was like WTF thanks. But she seemed genuine and said it’s not super thick but it’s real long. She told me again to use her as a reference and she will tell her how perfect it is. Still have mixed feelings but I swear if I had to bet I’d say she was being genuine LOL 😂 Originally Posted by 1life

I think you're the rare exception where the lady wasn't lying to make you feel good. You do have a "perfect cock", you lucky bastard!