Incall vs. Outcall

Providers and hobbists, what do you prefer - an incall or an outcall?

From a newbie hobbist perspective, I would say a hotel outcall 100%!

1. If you are new and haven't built up trust, it's neutral ground for both of you.
2. You don't have to clean the room in the end.
3. The provider isn't out a hotel room expense.
4. The hobbyist has his own room he can do whatever with when the session is over (especially important for hobbits who like to drink and avoid driving)

For me, like everything, I am picky and like what I like. So, I want the atmosphere to be one I like. There is no way in Hell I am going to spend $300-$500 with a great looking girl in an average looking apartment or cheap motel.


So what am I missing? What are the pro's to an incall?

I don't do outcalls period, unless I seriously know the guy and even then it won't ever be at a house he resides in. All these guys whining about not wanting to show a provider an ID, but they will take her right back to the very address that's in their damn name with their car parked in the driveway lol. Priceless!

I have invested a lot of money in being able to provide 3 incalls at home, so why waste them by going out? Hotels suck and are too much of a hassle, unless I am already planted there for 2 plus days. I also don't like the way most men keep a boudoir...it's more like a porn set with bright lights, and clothes everywhere. No thanks!

If you think even a 5 star suite is better than an upscale HOME, you're sadly mistaken. I like to offer my clients a large amount of play room and that usually is far beyond a measely 1200 sq. ft. suite...the smallest place I offer is still right at 2500 sq. ft. Incalls provide the comforts of home with full kitchens, dining, living, balconies, waterfront etc. I can't exactly cook a 3 hour dinner in a hotel room without a lot of extra hassle.

I have been to some rather nice hotels, but for any less than 2k (which I would never spend on hobby excursions), it's nothing compared to my incalls.

I also provide a driver service so if you were to get drunk as stated above, you would still not have to worry about driving.

I have a nice private in call & have never done nor would ever do an out call EVER! (too chicken)
It's just how I'm most comfortable and works best for me
I have everything I need there that one could possibly want so that's the up side.
Doubt if the hotels have goodies, restraints, porn etc , who wants to drag all that around ?

I actually prefer outcalls, and I don't keep an incall because of my availability. I may have about one week a month available for incalls, and if incall is needed outside of that time, a two hour minimum is required.

I've toyed with the idea of getting an incall. I need a dungeon.

I have a nice private in call & have never done nor would ever do an out call EVER! (too chicken)
It's just how I'm most comfortable and works best for me
I have everything I need there that one could possibly want so that's the up side.
Doubt if the hotels have goodies, restraints, porn etc , who wants to drag all that around ? Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

You freak! That did not even cross my mind lol. It is rather hard going through airport security with too much bs though. I set it off with too many condoms and lube once...that was really fun explaining.

Tagging along sheets and towels is pain enough...I love the two weeks when I get a break from all of that.

You freak! That did not even cross my mind lol. It is rather hard going through airport security with too much bs though. I set it off with too many condoms and lube once...that was really fun explaining.

Tagging along sheets and towels is pain enough...I love the two weeks when I get a break from all of that. Originally Posted by London Rayne

yep..
I've heard horror stories over sex toys getting scanned and retrieved or confiscated. Course I would think it was funny

I prefer a nice incall simply because my apartment is tiny and not suitable.

yep..
I've heard horror stories over sex toys getting scanned and retrieved or confiscated. Course I would think it was funny Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

OMG, don't get me started. I had to ship some things home to myself in order to keep some new goodies from being confiscated.

I have done 95% outcall at my residence. I am just more comfortable that way. I live in a secure building so it makes the chance of getting involved with LE way less. It does keep me from seeing some providers as they won't do an outcall and I understand from their point of view but since it's my dime I like it in the comforts of my own place.

Y'all know me. It's outcall only. Been burned NCNS on incalls, and refuse to be out that kind of money, time, effort and gas, etc. If I'm NCNS'd at my hotel, the only thing I'm out is my time.

@London--It's not a matter of luxury. It's the matter of NCNS. Plus the number of times the lady has canceled a date (that makes it NOT an NCNS, but I've still set aside the time, which is now blown). And the incall thing normally comes with the 2-call system, which I don't trust. The second call almost never comes. And I'm sitting in the middle of nowhere waiting for the phone to ring, and the lady who is supposed to call is just laughing at this "joke."

@SNL--You're right, my hotel will not have the toys. lol. But it is a matter of making the date happen.

Bottom line: I know a lot of ladies are incall only. Most often, they cite safety as the reason. But I'm outcall only for the reasons stated.

Actually, I prefer going to a provider's incall (especially if it is a private residence). I value discretion and really don't care for meeting someone in a public place (even a hotel). I had one awkward appointment where the provider and I met in the parking lot. She went to get the room while I'm sitting out there waiting for her to come back and tell me the room. I felt exposed and anyone looking at me knew exactly what I was doing. I also don't like having to walk through a hotel lobby and then walk back out an hour or two later. Too many eyes. Nevermind the fact if I have to get the room and then check out a few hours later.

I personally only do incalls. I like to be in my own environment. My concern about getting a permanent incall is the amount of clients I get who end up stalking me. How do you not end up with guys randomly stopping by to see you??

My preference has always been outcall to my hotel room.

My circumstances are probably a little different than most. I live in a very rural area and to see a provider requires either driving over an hour to St. Louis, driving almost 2 hours to another city, or a trip of some sort to a metropolitan area. I will do incall dates where I just make the drive, have an hour or two hour date, maybe do a little shopping and then head for home but those trips always seem rushed. So I try to work my hobbying into my schedule so that I can spend the night and a have a real relaxing and fun time. Since I'm driving a fair distance its also nice to be able to get to the hotel early, get checked in, get freshened up, and relax a bit before she arrives. The last reason isn't quite as much of a factor now as it was years ago but before Google Maps and GPS I always worried about getting lost on the way to an incall and missing the appointment.

Y'all know me. It's outcall only. Been burned NCNS on incalls, and refuse to be out that kind of money, time, effort and gas, etc. If I'm NCNS'd at my hotel, the only thing I'm out is my time.

@London--It's not a matter of luxury. It's the matter of NCNS. Plus the number of times the lady has canceled a date (that makes it NOT an NCNS, but I've still set aside the time, which is now blown). And the incall thing normally comes with the 2-call system, which I don't trust. The second call almost never comes. And I'm sitting in the middle of nowhere waiting for the phone to ring, and the lady who is supposed to call is just laughing at this "joke."

@SNL--You're right, my hotel will not have the toys. lol. But it is a matter of making the date happen.

Bottom line: I know a lot of ladies are incall only. Most often, they cite safety as the reason. But I'm outcall only for the reasons stated. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I understand your issues because you actually go out and pay for a hotel...just as many providers do. If I ever ncns a guy, he would get that room money back I can assure you. It's never happened in over 3 years though, but it would be more likely if I were going to him. Car wreck, traffic, parking, etc. can all be cause for running late, and I am one who likes to be right on time.

It seems incall would be better for you in this instance being it would be HER money down the drain if she flaked? You are out time and gas money, but if you booked a hotel room and she didn't show, you would be out a lot more. Not to fear Charles..if you ever come to nola, I will serve you a 5 course meal overlooking the lake!

I personally only do incalls. I like to be in my own environment. My concern about getting a permanent incall is the amount of clients I get who end up stalking me. How do you not end up with guys randomly stopping by to see you?? Originally Posted by TabooTanner

Taboo the idea situation is you don't actually live there ( that's the way mine is) . And anyone with a lick of sense wouldn't randomly drop by.