Clit Vibrators - An Insult To Manhood?

awl4knot's Avatar
A churlish guy on another board made the following statement:

"I always consider it an insult when a women uses a vibrator during sex. It in effect says that I'm not Man enough to satisfy her and she needs something additional."

I've only had one provider, and she is very well-regarded, use a bullet during CG to aid her orgasm. I thought it was pretty hot and it helped to prompt my O. But maybe it does say something about a guy's performance?

How often do providers turn on the power? Does it bother anyone if there is a power assist? Is anyone reluctant to use a bullet or pocket rocket because it may offend a client?
climbon2's Avatar
I love toys!

Why would anyone be insulted?? Aren't many women multi-orgasmic?

I mean really multi-orgasmic? (Like.... way more than you?)

I can't keep up with my most of my favorites.......

Toys are awesome! I usually bring a bag full of toys with me. However, sometimes we lose control early on, and we never even open the bag, and that's cool too.

Last week, I had a second date with a new provider (to this area), and was pleased to see she had set out her "rabbit" and a "bullet' type vibe next to the bed, indicating she had actually read my profile! That was cool!

I probably would not see a lady if I knew ahead of time she did not like toy play!
Oh I adore toys! I have a toy bag I take to every date, with my rabbit, bullets, anal toys and vibrating cock rings! I do not need them in any way to acheive an 'O', but honestly, it is much more intense with the toys. No man can vibrate like they can, and it cause extra sensitivity (at leat in my case!). Now, I had met a girl that doesn't like toys because the intense vibrating causes her to loose her sensitivity and in turn, her capability to orgasm. Each girl is differant.

More times then not my toys stay inside the bag. There is something to be said about wanting to feel just the man, and enjoy just the man. Nothing else enters into your reality at the time. So I am a big fan of both, just depending on the mood I'm in!

Should a man feel offended? I don't know....I guess it depends on the manner in which the lady is enjoying her toys.
Insult? Ha! Magic Wand anyone?
i love my toys and most guys love watching me play....
Iceman's Avatar
A churlish guy on another board made the following statement:

"I always consider it an insult when a women uses a vibrator during sex. It in effect says that I'm not Man enough to satisfy her and she needs something additional." Originally Posted by awl4knot


I'm sure he's completely satisfied every women he's ever been with.

I know I wouldn't consider it an insult. When I'm with a lady I want her to enjoy herself, if that's what it takes, so be it.
Fancyinheels's Avatar
Not meant as an insult at all. The gentleman should be happy that the lady is open and comfortable enough with him to include her toys in the play. Has nothing to do with male performance. (Check your egos at the door, please, lads.) It is a fact, studied at great length, that the majority of women need a great deal of clitoral stimulation to orgasm and few actually get enough of that from intercourse. (The ones that do are all on this website, of course.)

But yes, I am careful when introducing toys, as some fellows do take offense, or just have no experience previously and are a little apprehensive. Insult happens when a man believes that he has to make EVERY women orgasm EVERY single time, which is flat out physically impossible. (For most of you, anyway. Call me for more experimental testing of that hypothesis.) That's when the woman is pressured to "fake" one, and then it starts feeling like a job instead of mutual frisky fun. Just relax and enjoy the experience, gentlemen, and whatever cums of it.
I love toys and I actually get alot of request to bring toys on dates
SlowHand49's Avatar
Just relax and enjoy the experience, gentlemen, and whatever cums of it. Originally Posted by Fancyinheels
Some of the best advice offered on this board . . .
offshoredrilling's Avatar
I own three. One for each I see the most. Little black holding bag has room for it, and few condoms. And I have a tag on it. So I know witch is to use on who.
onyx7100's Avatar
Bring the toys it's all for the fun of it
I have a toy bag I take to every date, with my rabbit, bullets, anal toys and vibrating cock rings! Originally Posted by Tiffany Cums
Tiff--

Don't bring a toy bag to a date with me...bring the whole damn box!!!!

BTW, to any other ladies...if we ever spend some time together, feel free to bring everything you have. I'm a little older, so you may need some toys.
geecue's Avatar
If you secure with your manhood it should not matter. I love it when a lady uses toys and I like using them on her, major turn on for both parties.
TexTushHog's Avatar
I'm a lazy sort. I've never objected to anybody helping me do my job so long as they are good at what they're doing!!
Guest031213-03's Avatar
I love toys, too. I have found that most men enjoy watching and helping with my toys and some even bring the ones they prefer to play with. It can be fun and exciting and adds a little bit of variety to the date. I don't have to have a vibrator but it sure is fun to watch a man drooling as he watches and helps. (Until my eyes roll back and I can't see anymore.lol) SOME guys even like to have a little vibration on THEM. That's sooo hot.


Not meant as an insult at all. The gentleman should be happy that the lady is open and comfortable enough with him to include her toys in the play. Has nothing to do with male performance. (Check your egos at the door, please, lads.) It is a fact, studied at great length, that the majority of women need a great deal of clitoral stimulation to orgasm and few actually get enough of that from intercourse. (The ones that do are all on this website, of course.)

But yes, I am careful when introducing toys, as some fellows do take offense, or just have no experience previously and are a little apprehensive. Insult happens when a man believes that he has to make EVERY women orgasm EVERY single time, which is flat out physically impossible. (For most of you, anyway. Call me for more experimental testing of that hypothesis.) That's when the woman is pressured to "fake" one, and then it starts feeling like a job instead of mutual frisky fun. Just relax and enjoy the experience, gentlemen, and whatever cums of it. Originally Posted by Fancyinheels