Swinging?

In very interested in swinging but don't know how to bring it up to the SO. Anybody in the lifestyle that would have any advice for me?

Post some contact info on your SO ... OSD will fill her in.

If you want swinging to work you have to approach it as YOU love her so much and you feel that your marriage is strong and secure as well as comfortable. You have to be okay with her being with other men as well or it won't work. Approach it as BOTH of your enjoyment with other safe clean couples. It takes baby steps, if she says no dont push it or she will feel that you aren't happy with your marriage or just her. Explain it as exploring together and trying new things together. Who knows, maybe if she says no she may up her game in bed since she now knows you're open minded. If she says yes join a swinger site and pick couples to talk with together. Do not mess it up by talking about how hot other Ladies are on there! Ask open ended questions and make comments about how you think couples look nice.
Best of luck

It's interesting that you brought this topic up. Just the other day I was thinking about my trip to a Swingers club in NYC a few years ago....
The swingers lifestyle DOES work for some, but not everyone. It seems Lexxy knows a great deal more about this then I do. But this is what I found at the swingers club: happy, secure couples just getting it on and having the time of their lives. I even met, get this, a happily married older couple in their MID 70's who have been swinging their entire marriage! Can you believe that?? I don't know if a swingers club is what you should get into just yet, but it might be something to look into. I went out of sheer curiosity; as a novice first timer. I like to try new things, even if just once, so my interest was peaked when a friend asked me to go as his date. (He was a swinger by the way, and at this club only couples could get in.)

When I went to the swingers club, there was no pressure to screw anyone. Actually, I didn't do anything with anyone. The lifestyle fascinated me, but it wasn't really my cup of tea either. I once saw a documentary about swingers that was very informative and enlightening. Like Lexxy said, take small steps. Start with watching documentaries about other REAL life couples who swing, there are plenty of resources on you tube. Join websites, etc, and network. In order for this to work, I don't think you can just jump right into it. Good Luck and keep us posted!!

This is the documentary that I've watched before, and I think you will find it helpful. Check it out.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEf4z...e=results_main

Post some contact info on your SO ... OSD will fill her in. Originally Posted by pyramider

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I was going to post to this thread earlier. But had to run to eat the ATF before end of the month-john valby rolled around. errrr almost made it. Have to move the moon dial mark on the grandfather clock a bit.

anyways

Find a gal that would want to munch SO, and would not mind if you did some poking.

Get the SO pass out drunk. Put her in bed nude, you the side you normally sleep with her nude, with the other gal on the other side also nude. Then well go to sleep.

When the So wakes errr about noon. She will be sure to wake you both up askin just who the bimbo is.

You tell her that it was her idea to bring her home with ya both. So you thought she knew her. After they both wore you out. You fell asleep with them still going at it in a 69. And tell her if she does not remember that your willing to do it all over again to keep her happy.

This would be a good time time for bimbo errrr other gal to cop a feel of SO taint, smile and lick her lips.

If this does not work. PM pic and contact for XSO. For a small fee(heh small my ass) we can supply a few reviews to make things work out better for you.

You gotta to love the role of alcohol is the seduction.

We'd like to give some specifics as to why we found that the Lifestyle(Swinging) sucks and the hobby is better.

We started in our thirties and everyone out there was like 20 years older than we were, which would have been fine if they weren't fat, hairy, wearing granny panties, had a penile implant or worse. On the other hand, because we were considerably younger, they treated us like sex gods. This was a stroke to our egos, but that pro could not out weigh the cons. We wanted what was in those Motley Crue videos from the 80's (or as close to it as our $$ can buy). The only descent women we met were married to a senior citizen and wanted some younger dick, or a hot provider out there who was swinging with her SO. We also meet providers who were on the clock with a hobbyist, on the payroll and taking one for the team. The initial fascination with watching people having group sex wore off surprisingly quickly. I wouldn't have clicked on that orgy porn! Like everyone else our playtime was limited by kids, work, etc. so attending these parties were a roll of the dice regarding the type of booty that was going to be available. We needed a guarantee of a good time for our valuable time. The reason we love the hobby is that there is a smorgasbord of women to choose from like when I 1st started hobbying in Europe. We are also able to confer with other hobbyists and completely research a provider. In conclusion, when you see guys like Charlie Sheen, etc. out and about they don't have a woman from a swinger's club on their arms - they are dancers, porn stars or escorts!!
If you still feel like trying this out do a google search for swing site, one that you do not have to pay to check out the merchandise. Take a look at what is available in your area - by no means will it be of the quality you find on ECCIE. Honestly, I just couldn't have my SO taking one for the team all the time. She just didn't want to have lesbian experiences with women her mother's age!!! Eventually, I found a female swinging partner who was a BBW, but it did matter as long as we enjoyed going to the parties together. Under no circumstances would I go to a swingers club, it's just too much money to waste. Once again players like AROD or Charlie Sheen, they are with escorts or strippers, porn stars - never a girl from a swingers club!

GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!!!!

I miss the AC swingers.

Pretty sure the ex was swangin without me dammit!

You can swing alone also. I have met many couples that let me do there wife. You just need to have something they want a big dick, body or both. Also its a little better on the wallet. Also you have to be open to a group or a guy watching you. To me its a lot of fun

You could try: http://www.swinglifestyle.com/

I tried it for a while. I got a couple of nibbles but no follow-throughs. I saw ads from there also pop up on CL Casual Encounters. Typical free-to-try, pay-to-msg format.

GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!!!! Originally Posted by AlbanyBlonde

My recommendation....wait till she brings it up. Or at least mentions she is interested in exploring some fetish of some sort......thats when you say great....how about be start swinging?

You can swing alone also. I have met many couples that let me do there wife. You just need to have something they want a big dick, body or both. Also its a little better on the wallet. Also you have to be open to a group or a guy watching you. To me its a lot of fun Originally Posted by makethe33

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People watching does kinda sound hot

If upstate NY is you or your SO's first introduction to swinging, you will likely end up frustrated and/or disappointed. A low population density, together with a low percentage of people active in the lifestyle, combine for slim pickings and difficulty in finding a decent match of personality and sexual compatibility.

However, should you choose to proceed. . . one way to ease into the subject is to first gauge your SO's interest in watching other people have sex. Rent Eyes Wide Shut or Short Bus or some other movie that has an orgy/sex club scene. Talk about it. Would she be interested in attending an event like that?

If so, research on-premise sex clubs and take a trip to NY, Montreal, or Toronto. A sex club allows you to skip the awkward part of getting to know another couple and brings it down to a much more primal level. You can also just go and watch, which removes all pressure from the situation.

Good luck!