Other than ECCIE, P411 and BP I'm not sure what other sites might service this area of the Country. I'm sure there are plenty of guys that would welcome a beautiful Woman like yourself with open arms (and hopefully wallets) should you choose to do a Tour through this area.
If you're thinking of visiting NYC take a look at utopiaguide.com or bestgfe.com. Those boards are much more active for downstate NY, NJ, and Connecticut.