An escort's (unenthusiastic) view on GFE

Bwenze's Avatar
The Girlfriend Experience

COPIED FROM HERE: http://beinganescort.blogspot.com/


Who came up with this? It sounds somewhat magical doesn't it? Girlfriend experience... ahhh my girly brain envisions hugs and flowers and a genuine warm feeling.

Reality check. For those of you who don't yet know or understand completely what this means, it is a term to sugar coat the escort experience. It means that even though you are entering a business deal as an escort/client- this should be like an experience you would have with someone who was your girlfriend. It assumes two people can meet and within a matter of minutes act (and working girls know exactly what i mean by "act") like there is some chemistry and level of comfort between the two of you.

It is also a guise for unsafe practices: kissing, BBBJ, CIM, you name it- ahhh but its all part of the "girlfriend experience" . Give me a break.

I see these ads all the time- women knowing that it is what most men want, and so they deliver. I wont go into a rant about how disgusting men can be and what the hell are they thinking- this is just for the women. What are you thinking?

I think if you are escorting, for whatever reasons, the #1 priority for you should be your safety and self respect. I wish all women would stop providing the gfe and make it be what it is- a business arrangement. Be nice, sweet, sexy- whatever you do best, but keep it at a minimum. I was always super safe during my calls- so i am still amazed that women offer- even compete- for these services. A popular review board has a system where a woman's rating cannot go above 7 is she does not offer one of these unsafe services. Thats insane.

Seriously.. what is wrong here? Is scoring an 8 really worth it? Kissing a stranger is gross- never mind unsafe. That mouth couldve been you know where the day before- and now its on yours. The BBBJ and CIM? My stomach turns just thinking about it. Do you really want an STD in yur throat so you have to worry that your child/niece/friend cant take a sip of your drink without catching something from you? Why men want this is another post entirely- but women please- stand up for yourselves and stop doing what they want.

My friend and i NEVER, EVER did anything unsafe. And we made alot of money- It didn't matter what the other girls were doing, or what the guys wanted- or what the ratings were- it just wasn't an option. It wasn't worth the risk or anything we felt comfortable doing. And my business was never slow. Provide a service but demand respect, nothing is worth more than your self respect at the end of the day. The industry is hard enough.

I wish all girls would just refuse. I'm pretty confident in saying that i don't think this is something they enjoy doing. I think they do it because they feel they have too to get customers and i am here to tell you that you don't. Men will continue to watch porn and porn will continue to put these super gross ideas into their heads, but it doesn't mean you have to carry it out. There will always unfortunately be women that do- and sadly i imagine it is because they may already have something bad enough to not care anymore about the risks, but remember- the men are going to see them and then coming to come visit you. Don't be part of the cycle...

Stay safe
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daty/o's Avatar
Sounds like she should find another line of work, anyway. From a male perspective, I have never been a fan of fake anything, boobs, orgasms or emotion. Give me PSE over GFE anyday. She gets the money, I get the release. If we happen to like each other, that just makes it easier. Sex is the only real thing you can buy.
stevesanderson's Avatar
the men are going to see them and then coming to come visit you. Originally Posted by Bwenze
Not true at least for me. I'll keep seeing the GFEs and never cross the doorstep of the non-GFEs.

This is funny though:
My friend and i NEVER, EVER did anything unsafe. Originally Posted by Bwenze
According to the CDC,
Consistent and correct use of male latex condoms can reduce (though not eliminate) the risk of STD transmission.
If she was having CFS or CBJ, there was still a risk of STDs, although reduced. I don't know who wrote this blog, but I hope she's not dumb enough to believe her own fiction.
mansfield's Avatar
Provide a service but demand respect, nothing is worth more than your self respect at the end of the day.
This is the only thing in the article I agree with. Problem is the writer of the article has decided that only her rules apply as to what is giving up self respect.

Every person has to decide that for themselves and just because one person makes a different decision doesn't make them wrong, just different.

I hate holier than thou people....
azzlover's Avatar
"I never did anything unsafe'

You mean besides fucking and escort. LMFOA What a moron!

"The BBBJ and CIM? My stomach turns just thinking about it."

So you do CBJ? I am PM you know big boy
pyramider's Avatar
TFF
maxim_232's Avatar
There will always be someone out there willing to do something someone else won't.
There will always be someone out there willing to do it cheaper.

Simple facts of life