"GFE" - attitude and activity

I recently posted a review of a provider - India - that I would DEFINITELY consider a GFE. Another poster then questioned the rating as GFE because CBJ was an activity rather than BBBJ. I am not looking to start an argument, but rather open up a discussion.

The question - How much of a "GFE" is contributed by certain variations of the standard activities (e.g. covered vs uncovered, CIM vs non-CIM) a opposed to attitude?

Here is my take on this question - Both are important to me. In this particular case - India- I would definitely consider a GFE because she is skilled AND very personable. You don't feel like just another trick. There is lots of cuddling, kissing, etc. When I am with her there is no rush. She is only comfortable with CBJ, but that was no problem for me - and because of her attitude (and skills!) she can compete with some of the best BBBJCIM. On the other hand, I have seen gals who allow BBBJCIM, but who are definitely NOT GFE in my book (no names here). These gals are more like - "Hey, you blew your wad and I have to run". Hey, I don't have a problem with that - I have seen some of those and have returned. It really depend upon what I am looking for at the time. BTW, not all gals known for BBBJCIM fall into the latter category. For example, I have seen Autumn several times and she does NOT have the"I have to run attitude". Hmmm, I have to see - maybe I could schedule doubles with her and India - that would be fantastic!

So - attitude or activity - what do you other folks think?

Its a combination of both in my opinion. But, then again EVERYONE has a different opinion/definition of what GFE truly is.

Both. If either is lacking, it is not GFE, IMO.

We can discuss what a GFE is; but, a guy knows immediately what it isn't.
There are a lot of warning signs about a less than perfect experience, such as:

Bad attitude,
Trying to control the guy rather than have fun with him
winning
insulting
dirty
etc.

Feel free to add to the list. But all the guys know what we want to avoid, and it usually has something to do with attitude.

JR

At 55 attitude is a big deal. My days of over the kitchen table are a pleasent memory. I know the girl is not at my hotel room because of my country charm but the closer she gets to the illusion of her wanting to be there for the given time the more likely I will return visit her although I prefer bbbj with a great attitude I am willing to make changes in expects.

+1 to Redwolf. Just experienced total GFE in Houston with a great lady there. Wonderful to experience that with a provider who just "gets it" when it comes to GFE.

I don't know too many actual girlfriends who allow CIM or will even GIVE a BJ at all...
So I don't know why that's considered to be GFE. LOL.
Maybe that's what everyone's fantasy of what a GF is?

so so true allie. lol

[quote=Allie_Kat;1929493]I don't know too many actual girlfriends who allow CIM or will even GIVE a BJ at all...


I guess I must have been lucky - I have only had one gf (a long time ago) who was not in to oral. Of the others - about 50% would allow CIM. In fact, in one instance it was my first BJ from this GF and I did not want to ask about CIM so I had her stop and finished off by hand. She then licked it off my cock and kissed me with it. I was not really in to that, but I was too (embarrased/shy - pick one) to say no.


I know that a few generations ago, oral could be tough to come by for guys. Fortunately, I am not that old
Charlie

I don't know too many actual girlfriends who allow CIM or will even GIVE a BJ at all...
So I don't know why that's considered to be GFE. LOL.
Maybe that's what everyone's fantasy of what a GF is? Originally Posted by Allie_Kat

Maybe you just know people with really shitty girlfriends. I've had a lot of girlfriends over the years, chicks I've dated, wives I've swung with or just played around with, etc. MOST of the women I've been involved with sexually have not only allowed CIM but swallow as well. Maybe my cum tastes like cotton candy... maybe I'm just better at finding people to be in a sexual relationship with.

Maybe I live in a land of quadracorns and mermaids... but I've never had a girlfriend who wouldn't CIM and swallow.

Having said that, I wouldn't hold an escort to the same standards I would an actual girlfriend. There are a LOT of things a girl I'm dating or a girlfriend will do with and for me that I would not expect an escort to do.

I think others have said it best when they say that GFE is a combination of attitude and services. If a guy forgets he's paying for the time he's there, then that's GFE... I lean heavily on the attitude part of it over the services. I don't care if you have to wear a latex body suit... if she makes you forget about it, that's good. If she makes you wish you didn't have to leave, that's good. If you wish you could call her up to watch TV and bake cookies later that night, that's good.

Maybe I live in a land of quadracorns and mermaids... but I've never had a girlfriend who wouldn't CIM and swallow. Originally Posted by FireSerpent

Same for me. I've never had a girlfriend who didn't want to give BJs. All of them have allowed CIM and swallow at one point or another -- but I don't expect it every time and a few of them wanted the cum elsewhere so I would oblige with a facial or a pearl necklace.

I don't think of CIM as a requisite for the GFE. What is important is the attitude that she likes what she is doing.

If the attitude is such you forget it is a service it is GFE

Just to make sure you guys get the TOTAL GFE, I'm going to start asking you when you're going to move in, pop the question and meet my parents when we're done having our fun.

When it comes to the cim or gfe...i prefer both because its not what i get alot of in the real world...and im one to love to eat pussy (like forever) and if i can enjoy a womans orgasm...I would hope she would enjoy mine.....
I do my very best to make the experience good for her...lots of pineapple juice and sweeten 69. As a matter of fact i probrably put more thought into that for the providers i see than the civvies girls I see!

[quote=nycalcharlie2003;1929713
I know that a few generations ago, oral could be tough to come by for guys. Fortunately, I am not that old
Charlie[/quote]

And how is it that you know this? No offense but I have a slightly different recollection.