I used to see a girl a long time ago who really knew how to push some of my buttons. I guess you would call it humiliation. But she wasn't mean, just very good at getting inside my head and giving me an experience like no other. Haven't found anyone since, although I haven't really looked too much.
I've brought it up occasionally after I've known someone a bit but the word has negative connotations to most. Many responses are I could never be mean: or I'm not a bitch. Or if they try they go overboard. I realize it's a subtle art form. It's more about being mischievious, naughty and only a tad bit evil while making the man do things so that he can earn that prize--the girls body. It also doesn't preclude lots of sexual contact, unlike pure Dommes.
Anyway, just pontificating on a subject that interests me and wondered if anyone else had anything to say on the subject.
Oh, I am in San Antonio and travel to Dallas frequently if anyone is interested.