Basically, what is the root cause of why you hobby/provide? On my end, I was burned (she had an affair as I was faithful) and had a bitter divorce where my ex almost cleaned me out. Since then, I cannot nor care nor have the time to have a civi relationship. No need to get really personal...keep it at the surface level.
Men: Addiction? No intimacy with SO? Busy Professional? Low self-esteem? Thrill?
Ladies: Power? Financial? Addiction? Bad upbringing? Thrill? Needs acceptance? Hard times? No intimacy with SO?