Time Management? 💬⌚️

Sooo.. One of my biggest pet peeves is being rushed, feeling like someone doesn't have time for me. Point blank period. So it is imperative in my eyes that each gentlemen feels relaxed and is able to chill. I'm a slow but deliberate minded person anyhow so I've never been a clock watcher. With that being said, this is still business. I still am aware of a time limit. Some of my clients can feel the time very well.. Others not so much. Those that aren't able to as well sometimes feel that I did not act quick enough.. But I am not an aggressive provider. I've played uno with a client for 3/4 of the date because that's what he wanted. Haha. I feed off his vibes..where he wants things to go next. I am very open minded, and I will not speak of time. No one should plan step by step an entire date. Personally, I feel all parties should be aware of any situation with a time limit for anything.

My question is how do you all manage the time? Do you feel it's the providers responsibility, client or both? Do you go by your internal clock or a timer? How do you view the time?

I tend to go with the flow.
The few times I have gone over a scheduled time I compensated the provider for that time!
I have never been told my time was up by an Indy either, if that were to happen I probably wouldn't return.

I try to keep an eye on it because I do not want to take advantage of a lady. That being said, the lady has some responsibility as well to monitor the time. If time is nearly done, I think she should make some moves to indicate the date is nearly over, such as getting up to get a drink and put on a robe. One suggestion is to place a clock that is easy to see by both parties. Then both can easily keep track of the time without talking about it.

This is a double edged sword in the hobby. We do not want to take advantage but also do not want to be rushed out the door when we are not really done yet.

Now if you see BP chicks they will usually rush you out because they stack appointments back to back to back to back (get the point).. More stable upper tier escorts never do that and allow a good amount of time for one to leave and not bump into the next trick coming to play..

I definitely agree! Subtle gestures can be helpful. I like to always be polite. And I like that suggestion. It's always made me feel better when we both could see the clock.

And yes, Blad! It is important to remain professional. And I like being able to be relaxed before and after a date! Besides, who wants someone who gets poked more than some creepers blow up doll?!

Do you just know how much time has passed? Are there things you do on every date that help?

My ATF, now retired was one of the best. Completely setting the mood with candles, dress and music based on what she knew were the client's preference. If it was an hour appointment, the play list was timed to run out at just over an hour. If the music stopped, she could tactfully begin wrapping up the session, but you never felt rushed or unwanted during the process.

Hmmm that probably ties into another discussion about "upscale"

Most definitely! The mood of serenity and ecstasy all in one atmosphere. That's my kind of mood. I always appreciate a person capable of being tactful, polite and professional in any thing they do.

Great question, YFF! I think it's important that both parties remain somewhat conscious of the time.

The hour-ish music playlist is an excellent idea! It sets the mood and doesn't feel like a clock.

If you find yourself in a situation where someone seems to be unaware or possibly trying to overstep boundaries, there are things you can say/do that will give 'signals' that the session time is up.

Example: "I'd really love to stay longer, but I promised Ginger that I would meet her for lunch at 12:30!"

I have also said something comparable to, "Do you have time to extend our date to 2 hours?"

Sometimes a provider needs to be a little more aggressive in starting appropriate session activities... The client may chit-chat (or play cards ) if he's shy and just doesn't feel comfortable making the first move.

Since nobody wants to be asked to leave I try to keep up with the time. Don't hobby if you don't get the fact that time is important to the girls also. Don't put them in the spot of having to shoo you along. Since it is possible to innocently lose track of time, it should be made up for....if not on that visit,then on the next at least.

Thank you, GD!

I like those suggestions also. I'm kind of an awkward person lol so I'm always looking to improve my communication skills. :P

Yes, FB! In a perfect world perhaps.. Ha.

I feel that it's the responsibility of both people in the room. No one wants to be rushed and/or asked to leave, but staying longer than the compensated time is taking advantage, at best, and stealing, at worst. Several times, I've been the one to notice the time has expired, and I will just stand up and say "thank you so much for coming to see me" or something similar. It's a nice way to signal the end that could work for either party in the room. I don't think there should be a basketball shot clock horn to signal the end of the allotted time, but the date should end within 5-7 minutes of the agreed time. They're not your girlfriend, and they're not running a charity service.

And yes, Blad! It is important to remain professional. And I like being able to be relaxed before and after a date! Besides, who wants someone who gets poked more than some creepers blow up doll?! Originally Posted by YourFavFlavor

Relaxed is the key. And what is 15 minutes of "cushion time" anyway (well for me it is $137 but that does not matter)? And that also brings up the double edged sword of reviews. Who wants to see someone with hundreds of reviews when most guys tend to go with the dream she (the escort) does not see THAT MANY GUYS. But then again I guess if she properly manages her time then it is a win if that floats your boat.

Relaxed is the key. And what is 15 minutes of "cushion time" anyway (well for me it is $137 but that does not matter)? And that also brings up the double edged sword of reviews. Who wants to see someone with hundreds of reviews when most guys tend to go with the dream she (the escort) does not see THAT MANY GUYS. But then again I guess if she properly manages her time then it is a win if that floats your boat. Originally Posted by bladtinzu

I think we all have criteria we use in choosing our escorts. I prefer to see a certain type of provider. I may not understand others when they use different criteria, but believe they are free to do so. Warrior uses BP, you see high dollar hotties apparently, many claim an escort is beautiful or sexy that I do not and vice versa. What ever floats your boat. We are all individuals.

True that, Rocky. I tell all my guys that I'm a virgin.

I think we all have criteria we use in choosing our escorts. I prefer to see a certain type of provider. I may not understand others when they use different criteria, but believe they are free to do so. Warrior uses BP, you see high dollar hotties apparently, many claim an escort is beautiful or sexy that I do not and vice versa. What ever floats your boat. We are all individuals. Originally Posted by Rockydoc

Different strokes for different folks