Is it really this hard?

keysersoze2067's Avatar
I am brand new. I havent seen a provider yet so I made plans to see one. She advertised as she will see Newbies and I made a date for today at 5 pm. I got home from work and PM her on the site. She PM right back and said yep 5 is fine. So I PM back where is she located so I can figure out how long it will take to get there. It takes an hour for me to get to her incall. She gave me her phone number and I figured all is good. I take a shower,hit the ATM for the donation and take a little extra for a tip and start off for her incall and our 5 pm meet. I text her. Im leavin g see you in an hour. No reply. I figure she is busy getting ready also.While driving there I text a few more times and she never texted back. I figure she is busy and figure since this is my first time I just think her not responding is normal. Needless to say I never got a reply after 12 text messages. So I still have my newbie cherry and my question to the community is this Is it really this hard? Is this normal? I mean I did everything and drove an hour up there just to have all my plans and everything fall apart like a Chinese motorcycle. Normal? Is this what I have to look forward to? Since this is my first trying to see a provider should I just chalk it up and forget it or should I leave a review telling everyone what happened. I dont want to hurt this providers reputation but at the same time I dont want other men wasting their time
Chung Tran's Avatar
is it really this hard?

yes.. often it is. you did not need to bombard her with texts, but it didn't cause her to stand you up either.. you will learn to have a Plan B in place, someone you can try to get in case Plan A does what yours did.

you can't write a review, because there was nothing reviewable.. but you can post in Coed about your experience.. if you don't name her, don't bother to post.
How did she screen you?

Maybe she came to her senses and decided to scrap the appointmenteserved to a text
downtownfellow's Avatar
Shit happens sometimes ... 12 texts are about 10 too many, lol ... but i feel your pain brother, i left the hobby for a few years and when I came back nobody would see me because of references or lack of. Weird part all this led me to my ATF and now she rocks my world. So keep on keeping on.
TemptationTammie's Avatar
I agree that 12 is too many texts on your way.
Some ladies may have to drive to their incall so aren't as accessible as others. Some of us may stay at our incall location whether hotel, apartment or house so are able to answer more quickly.
If the lady was driving to the incall and got that many texts, it may have seemed like you were too anxious, which could have made her uncomfortable. Or maybe she didn't take your request as confirmation or she had a request from a regular and took that one instead.
pyramider's Avatar
I am brand new. I havent seen a provider yet so I made plans to see one. She advertised as she will see Newbies and I made a date for today at 5 pm. I got home from work and PM her on the site. She PM right back and said yep 5 is fine. So I PM back where is she located so I can figure out how long it will take to get there. It takes an hour for me to get to her incall. She gave me her phone number and I figured all is good. I take a shower,hit the ATM for the donation and take a little extra for a tip and start off for her incall and our 5 pm meet. I text her. Im leavin g see you in an hour. No reply. I figure she is busy getting ready also.While driving there I text a few more times and she never texted back. I figure she is busy and figure since this is my first time I just think her not responding is normal. Needless to say I never got a reply after 12 text messages. So I still have my newbie cherry and my question to the community is this Is it really this hard? Is this normal? I mean I did everything and drove an hour up there just to have all my plans and everything fall apart like a Chinese motorcycle. Normal? Is this what I have to look forward to? Since this is my first trying to see a provider should I just chalk it up and forget it or should I leave a review telling everyone what happened. I dont want to hurt this providers reputation but at the same time I dont want other men wasting their time Originally Posted by keysersoze2067

How about learning what you are doing before jumping in? You need to do a lot of reading and researching prior to contacting a provider. All of your hobby questions can be answered by a simple Search. Or find a new hobby ...
Did you provide screening information? In your recounting of what went down, you left out any mention of how you were verified which leaves me to believe that you did not provide that information. There is a misconception that "newbie friendly" means no screening. It could mean that but definitely not in all cases with all providers. Still, it is odd that she did confirm the appointment and pass along her in call address.
keysersoze2067's Avatar
I got the incall address. She sent that to me earlier in the day. I just didnt know the room number.I sat in the parking lot and texted her numerous times and she never replied to give me the room number.
ElBombero's Avatar
You're making it WAY too hard. Gotta have a backup, and 12 texts is about 10 too many. You either fucked up something earlier, or she found a better deal. Don't take it personal and find a plan B or go home. If you're butt hurt because you're first try didn't work out, you have a long road ahead of you.
That's when I go get a massage plus
Massage+ is a good plan.
2short@desky's Avatar
The provider could have at least texted him and told him to fuck off. It's just a common courtesy.
Laura Lynn's Avatar
Actually, no it's not that hard with a reputable lady. Once screening is complete, you ask for a time I say ok (or not ok), I give you the addy and we are on our way to playtime. Easy Peasy
pyramider's Avatar
Point of correction ... Laura Lynn is not that easy ...
Slimsoulja's Avatar
Sucks for sure, regardless of how many times you texted her prior to the appointment. This has happened to me three times with three different ladies. Well, the last two times it happened the providers actually reached out to me but it was well after the scheduled time. I ended up getting a fbsm from the same provider afterwards each time.