I don't fall in love. I fall in obsession

Sounds like the title of a horribly cheesy erotic novel but actually this thread is about jealous possessive clingy psychotic providers and hobbyists.

Well ....that too can turn into a horribly cheesy erotic novel

Have you fallen into attachment with someone? How far did it take you? If they were married did you manage to get them divorced? If they were a provider did you get them to 'settle down'? And did things end up happily ever after?

Was it really love? Or were you just obsessed and became dependent on this person?

If they were a provider and the person got them to "settle down"...why are they on this message board?

Are you currently having an issue with a clingy psychotic hobbyist? Because the clingy psychotic types scare the living shit out of me.

Love the Kübler-Ross quote. Believe in it wholeheartedly.

I'm pretty certain this is how most people's brains work:



Meeting someone new and having an attraction to them is something that's pretty common. You see it all the time when people start going out together. You've probably seen it with some of your friends - they meet someone new then all of the sudden they disappear for a couple of months. This New Relationship Energy is something that's common to all fresh relationships. That excitement of being with someone new - getting to explore them, physically, mentally, and emotionally. During these early stages of every relationship, quirks that would normally be annoying to you are endearing and cute.

It's once that NRE starts to die down is when you really find if there's something solid beneath that relationship that you can actually build something long lasting upon. If you can put up with someone's farts and dirty laundry on a long term basis, you just might have something there

My fantasy has turned to madness
And all my goodness
Has turned to badness
My need to possess you
Has consumed my soul
My life is trembling
I have no control

......this song is what came to mind!!!!!

Not since my first wife who I met at 18, married at 21, and divorced at 22 have I been obsessed with anyone. I was crazy in love with her and she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. Funny thing is we remarried many years later after my second divorce. The obsession was over by that time and we were married for 4 years before we both agreed to split. We still talk almost daily, and are best of friends. The closest I have come to an obsession since then was with my last Sugar Baby who is the sexiest girl I have ever met. My obsession was not really about her great looks or the sex, but trying to straighten her life out. She is in Florida now with her mother and still calls me all the time, but I have given up trying to be her savior. She called me the other day asking me to move to Florida and marry her, but I would have to see years of a stable life before I would even consider that, and I told her that. It is funny how you fall into an obsession. The first time is was beauty, sex and fantastic personality. The second time she had the beauty, sex and fantastic personality, but it was her needs that pulled me in. Really both girls are very similar, but I guess I matured since the first and didn't want to see that she was not perfect. The first has since achieved her Masters degree, retired from the state and is currently working for the federal government. I was trying to duplicate that with the second.

Not since my first wife who I met at 18, married at 21, and divorced at 22 have I been obsessed with anyone. I was crazy in love with her and she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. Funny thing is we remarried many years later after my second divorce. The obsession was over by that time and we were married for 4 years before we both agreed to split. We still talk almost daily, and are best of friends. The closest I have come to an obsession since then was with my last Sugar Baby who is the sexiest girl I have ever met. My obsession was not really about her great looks or the sex, but trying to straighten her life out. She is in Florida now with her mother and still calls me all the time, but I have given up trying to be her savior. She called me the other day asking me to move to Florida and marry her, but I would have to see years of a stable life before I would even consider that, and I told her that. It is funny how you fall into an obsession. The first time is was beauty, sex and fantastic personality. The second time she had the beauty, sex and fantastic personality, but it was her needs that pulled me in. Really both girls are very similar, but I guess I matured since the first and didn't want to see that she was not perfect. The first has since achieved her Masters degree, retired from the state and is currently working for the federal government. I was trying to duplicate that with the second. Originally Posted by FlectiNonFrangi

Wow. I've learned so much about you in this one post.

I married a client eleven yrs ago - divorced six years ago due to his verbal/physical abuse(tantrums) and refusal to be a mentally healthy person.
Fell in love with a client who opened new worlds to me via his interests but he was married and...
Met another client, during that time, whom I was with till last year. A great many complexities unrelated to the 'hobby' led us to end it - but, we talk almost daily, as friends.
Now...back to being a provider because I don't want a bf/relationship. Rather than settling for anyone, regardless of how we meet, I know that a man will have to be an amazing human being with goals, dreams, a plan, a great mind, humor and perspective (wisdom) AND accept my independence, dreams and plans.
I have met clients that have piqued my interest and led me to wonder 'what if?'
I recently met a potential client, who was helping me with an issue and he stayed and visited. I knew within a half hour that I didn't want to be P4P with him but become friends.
I still don't know about being in a relationship as it will be a distraction from my goals. And how to be a GFE and a gf...not sure :-)
Obsessed? No but there are a few 'clients' whom I would love to see naked, on a weekly basis ;-)

I have not met Aphrodite but it sounds like she is calling out the keeper of 1.3" of dangling death ...

I HATE, hate, hate ....when wives get in the way.

I married a client eleven yrs ago - divorced six years ago due to his verbal/physical abuse(tantrums) and refusal to be a mentally healthy person.
Fell in love with a client who opened new worlds to me via his interests but he was married and...
Met another client, during that time, whom I was with till last year. A great many complexities unrelated to the 'hobby' led us to end it - but, we talk almost daily, as friends.
Now...back to being a provider because I don't want a bf/relationship. Rather than settling for anyone, regardless of how we meet, I know that a man will have to be an amazing human being with goals, dreams, a plan, a great mind, humor and perspective (wisdom) AND accept my independence, dreams and plans.
I have met clients that have piqued my interest and led me to wonder 'what if?'
I recently met a potential client, who was helping me with an issue and he stayed and visited. I knew within a half hour that I didn't want to be P4P with him but become friends.
I still don't know about being in a relationship as it will be a distraction from my goals. And how to be a GFE and a gf...not sure :-)
Obsessed? No but there are a few 'clients' whom I would love to see naked, on a weekly basis ;-) Originally Posted by Aphrodite

Maybe you should try and not date clients on a personal level, and just keep it professional, unless you like knowing your setting yourself up for failure, which seems that's what you really want.

... unless you like knowing your setting yourself up for failure, which seems that's what you really want. Originally Posted by dreamvacationdates

I wish someone would read my mind. Accurately, of course. Tell me what I really want.

I know to whom I won't be assigning that task. Such a downer. Blah!

I wish someone would read my mind. Accurately, of course. Tell me what I really want.

I know to whom I won't be assigning that task. Such a downer. Blah! Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

Not a downer at all, she's really getting what she wants, no BF at this point in time, otherwise a person wouldn't keep doing the same thing over and over and expect different results, unless of course they're......

I HATE, hate, hate ....when wives get in the way. Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina

I thought I was the only one....

I thought I was the only one.... Originally Posted by Ed Highlight

You DON'T have to have a wife, that a choice you made, she in the way because you want her to be.