Sounds like the whole story is quite a shame. I can see both sides' reasoning. I have reached a point where hobby phoning (ahead of time) is not as easy anymore. But like BD, I too prefer to "speak" with the girl before playtime, glad to hear it's not just me. But then again, I have a new-found understanding of the "no phone-no text" / "email preferred" method of communication. It's a damned shame that two legit players couldn't link-up, only due to their own security preferences. Then again, again, again, it sounds like BD did another bad "no-no", by not not honoring prior agreements, and seemingly taking a better (perhaps more secure) option without respectfully following through with communicating her change of heart (or gut instinct).
I suppose each side in a situation like this simply has to respect each others' preferences and move on if they cannot agree on terms fully , 'Cest La Vie.
I fully realize that my new "email only preference" will probably limit my chances at meeting and enjoying new girls for the first time. I don't really like the "no speak" aspect either, it's a bitch, but it is what it is. I can only hope my references go to bat for me.
Hogman appears to be a pretty good guy, and Baby Dallass has returned to the area with a damned nice new persona. It's a damned shame they couldn't hook-up
But, it's all part of both sides feeling comfortable, and most of us should be able to understand differences of opinion when it comes to personal security preferences.
:sigh: