Why do you do it?

Hey all,

So I'm new here. I'm actually still looking for my first experience with a "lady of the night" . ikr.

So between all the nerves of doing something *illegal* and worrying about the dangers to your health (std's and the like), what I'm wondering mostly is, why do it? You(as in all of the hobbyists on this website) choose to spend hundreds of your hard earned dollars on having sex with escorts. why? I know why I do it (or am considering doing it), and I have more than one reason, but why do you? Is it because of dissatisfaction with your married life or relationship? are you unable to get girls otherwise? (if you do, there's no shame in admitting it, we're all anonymous on here anyways.) Or something else?

Also, I don't mean to come across as a f**king dick. If you do it simply because you like to do it, then it is your business and no one else can tell you otherwise. I'm just trying to see what kind of interesting reasons people could have.

for the tl;dr readers: what is the reason that you choose to pay to have sex with escorts?

Married / tied down.. don't want or need a long term relationship with all the drama involved. I do love my wife but also love being with other ladies. I personally feel like this is less messy/ personal.

Dating is also expensive. This cuts to the chase and is less "personal" if that makes sense. I would definitely feel much worse carrying on a relationship outside my marriage.

what is the reason that you choose to pay to have sex with escorts? Originally Posted by MagicJohnson12

What is your's, new "guy"?

Because menopause killed it dead at home. She decided she was done with sex. She has the right to make that decision for herself. She does not have the right to make that decision for me. Providers tell me it's a very common situation they hear often.

What is your's, new "guy"? Originally Posted by inspector farquar

Mine is kinda cliche except its weird because I'm only 22. I have had 4 serious relationships, all of them lasted approximately a year. Every single one of them left me because they thought I was no longer interested in them sexually. Which is true. See, it seems so so outlandish to me that people can be married to someone and remain faithful to them their whole lives. I would get bored with doing the same girl for a year to the point that I was unable to even perform in the bedroom, just because I was no longer attracted to them. And none of these girls were physically unattractive by any standards, mind you. I'm wondering how the hell people manage to see the same person their entire lives, and honestly it scares the shit out of me because it probably means I'm doomed to a life of being *forever* alone.

What I'm trying to get at is, my reason is variety. I could go out and try to pick up chicks at a bar, and maybe even be successful sometimes lol. However, I have a huge fucking problem of getting attached to the person and even worse, getting the other person attached to me. It is possibly the worst feeling in the world to let go of a person that's been a part of your life for a long time. Doing THIS allows me to *simply* fuck. No attachments or and no consequences.

(Reading over my answer, I realize it sounds very "twilight"-ish. I know you're probably thinking its because I'm 22 and young and naive, and it probably is.)
Also, I guess the quotation marks are implying I'm actually a lady (a scorned lover perhaps?). But, yeah I'm not. I'm really trying to see if there is anyone here in the same boat as me.

@watchoutthegameisrigged Don't mean to sound like a shrink but.....ever try talking it out? that sounds like common sense that she can't make that decision for you

I do it, because I want to...you're making this too complicated...

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The OP show run away from this and never look back.

...you're making this too complicated... Originally Posted by Wakeup

Stop overthinking

The OP show run away from this and never look back. Originally Posted by pyramider

Now why would I do that? Our anonymity on here affords us to post things we probably wouldn't talk about otherwise. I mean if not here then where?

Also, like I said in my original post, yeah, if you just like doing it and want to do it then thats it. I'm not asking for people to post, just hoping for some interesting/unique stories

@watchoutthegameisrigged Don't mean to sound like a shrink but.....ever try talking it out? that sounds like common sense that she can't make that decision for you Originally Posted by MagicJohnson12

Yep, tried to "talk it out" numerous times. Until I finally saw I was wasting my time trying to talk it out. And I don't need a shrink, I'm reasonably sane.

Because menopause killed it dead at home. She decided she was done with sex. She has the right to make that decision for herself. She does not have the right to make that decision for me. Providers tell me it's a very common situation they hear often. Originally Posted by watchoutthegameisrigged

It started out like this for me then she got sick and that made it physically impossible.Much to her credit though she gave me permission to do what I do as long as discretion is used.

Interesting answer you gave, OP.

I choose this because of the ease of arranging a sexual encounter, and the lack of guilt when moving on to the next one. I have come to also enjoy many of the disparate personalities in this community. I have always favored the margins, and so this is a comfortable fit.

I am curious about your stated need for variety. It is a common complaint. Your description of past relationships sounded as if they grew stale, which suggests that there was no change. Same old same old. And after only one year.

I can't imagine being committed enough to another to date them for a whole year while at the same time being so uninterested in them that they no longer interest me sexually (in this context; but also, emotionally, aesthetically, spiritually, etc.). I dated a woman for 24 years and 129 days and every day she was new to me, in some way(s). And I hadn't come close to knowing the all of her, nor, I think, her me.

But that was then and this is now. Thoreau said most men live lives of quiet desperation. But for some it is worse. Much worse. For some, life can, at times, feel so profoundly unfair that an hour or two on a mat or bed or massage table with a paid companion feels not only necessary, but almost cosmically mandated. There is no guilt. Why would there be guilt? It may be only faux intimacy but it is something.

Live, son. Don't be a dumb fuck.

Excellent post.