Mothering & Skin Hunger

Purrrsia's Avatar
I am not referring to the diaper and pacifier fetish, but of our primary need for touch....non-goal oriented skin to skin contact.

I have come to believe that many (not all) men do not actually want sex or need sex (some cannot due to ED or traumatic injury) but are so touch deprived that sex is the only way they know to get the touch their body, mind, and soul craves.

Cuddling is a very powerful method of experiencing deep connectivity and nurturing. Oxytocin is released and endorphins alleviate pain/mental anguish.

Imagine being cradled in your mother's bosom or lap, breathing in her essence while she gently strokes your head, tucking your hair behind your ear, tenderly kissing your forehead, nose, and eyelids.

It is highly erotic done naked but with pentetration/orgasm not the goal. The sexual energy is slowly cultivated and saturates every cell of your body like a deep soul massage.
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Wow, you took the words right out of my mouth. As much as I love the release during an encounter, the contact, hugging, and cuddling is what I really look forward to. I have sensitive parts of the body (nipples being one of them) that, when touched or caressed, send mild jolts of electricity to my pleasure centers.

If you are ever in Memphis, I would love to discuss this further......
ben dover's Avatar
I actually love the touch, caress, cuddle, snuggle but it's rare to find a provider that will hang around after the money shot. it's always throw the guy a kleenex and go for the phone. I used to do nothing but 60 or 90 minute sessions but now I rarely do more than 30. I had a couple over the years that would do that and miss them a lot. BD
Purrsia, you are quite a wise woman.
silverstar's Avatar
This actually makes a lot of sense. Even when I was married, my wife was never one for just cuddling in bed and she would blue-ball me almost constantly. This tended to lead to me being extremely frustrated sexually, and was partially responsible for me filing for divorce. I have always been a very physical person and love being touched. Sometimes I can get off easier just by cuddling as opposed to full sex.

Hopefully, I can find a provider that doesn't mind having a post-sex cuddle session, because to me that's the best part of being intimate with someone.
Ms. Athena's Avatar
As your mind is your biggest sex organ playing to all your sences and fufilling your fantasies is the key to total bliss for many. Mommy/son is more about the caring nutering older woman that most had fantasies about. Make it happen
Victoria Columbari's Avatar
I have some sessions that are like that. Lots of quiet talking while im cuddling him and moving my hands across his body. Just the closeness of my body against his is pleasure. Lots of little kisses all over. Love doing that.
PsychedelicMut's Avatar
Great thread!

Someone understands why I'm here.
Guest010619's Avatar
My forner girlfriend and I used to make love for hours spending time cuddling and licking each other's bodies from head to toe and sensuality was a mutual give and receive with our longest lasting for almost a day.
Had to have food, but she really drained me that time.
Mokoa's Avatar
  • Mokoa
  • 01-31-2016, 09:53 PM
Purrrsia...

You and I need to talk!
Yes, of course we need this. Raw fucking is a lot of fun, but the deeper needs are so powerful. A provider could really cash in if she figured this out.
Purrrsia,
Thank you for validating my desire to experience the warm fuzzies after sex. The gentle environment of holding and being held a while seems so needed, to put the purrrfect cap on a visit.
What a great post and if I ever get to SA, I know exactly the lady I will be trying to schedule with. Yes ma'am, you "get it". But when what you describe comes after mutual Os by both parties, that's as good as it gets. I love cuddling in that situation.
Keisha Reed's Avatar
Well written and to the point!!!! This is so important ....
Excellent Purrrsia !