An observation on hobby and fetish....

Maybe it's just me thinking this: Isn't it difficult for a newbie (new to the board not hobby or experience) to find a provider that you can trust (as a sub) in bondage and to be your Top? I know I enjoy an elaborate scene and finding ladies interested or down with it, seems to be a challenge also. Anyone "feeling" me on this? Thanks fellow pervs....

Not terribly.

I mean, yes, you have to do your homework.

Find ladies who speak to you in their marketing and look at lots of websites and jerk off to different photos.

Start reading reviews.

See who lights your fire and who has a good reputation (as evidenced through reviews).

You can even direct message the folks who wrote the reviews (if you need to ask more questions).

Good luck!

I look for specific words to help me... Kinky, Fetish(es), Role Play, even Spanking.
I have also started to request "Strict MILF" role-play and that seams to get the gals off a bit with power exchange.
Does this help?

I've done quite a few BP dom types and while disappointed a few times with the session I've never been cheated by one. I have also used Eros for ideas. It is harder to find reviews for doms on the boards. I never make an appointment without a few emails to see if I like the way she responds.

Unless playing in a professional dungeon with dungeon monitors present (usually only found in large cities and usually not allowing sexual play), play does run the risk of being unsafe. As a female submissive playing with physically stronger male Doms and Tops who are clients (so no reviews), my job certainly can be dangerous. There is a risk we all take when we choose to play with someone. Most in the lifestyle follow SCC (safe, sane, consensual), or RACK (risk aware consensual kink). The best you can do is do your homework, be aware of the risk, and make smart choices. Maybe that means choosing to do bondage or heavy S/m only with partners you've already played with before. Maybe it means only seeing well-reviewed and reputable ladies. Maybe it means having a safe call in place for during or after your scene.

A few ladies here dabble in true BDSM; but it may be hard to find what you want. From my experience, the hobby and lifestyle don't really mix. My suggestion is to go to fetlife.com where you are more likely to find what you are looking for.

A few ladies here dabble in true BDSM; but it may be hard to find what you want. From my experience, the hobby and lifestyle don't really mix. My suggestion is to go to fetlife.com where you are more likely to find what you are looking for. Originally Posted by Woodford

Maybe it's just me thinking this: Isn't it difficult for a newbie (new to the board not hobby or experience) to find a provider that you can trust (as a sub) in bondage and to be your Top? I know I enjoy an elaborate scene and finding ladies interested or down with it, seems to be a challenge also. Anyone "feeling" me on this? Thanks fellow pervs.... Originally Posted by TrueIndyLover

Agreed. Fet is where it's at. It's not a hobby site though, no play for pay. Only mutual fun.

Also, I was confused by the OP; do you want to dom someone or sub for someone?

Either way, I think what everyone else has already said is right. Do research on here to find a true kink provider. It is one of the easiest places to do so since you are able to search specific terms and read reviews of ladies.

I'm willing to provide some fetish during a session, but don't go full on dom because I know it's not something I am comfortable maintaining at all times.

Hmmm well its something ive been wanting to get into also. Ive been on this board for a while and now kinda getting bored of it. Same old shit different day lol. It would be cool to find my own exercise on stretching some boundaries it would be fun.

Hmmm well its something ive been wanting to get into also. Ive been on this board for a while and now kinda getting bored of it. Same old shit different day lol. It would be cool to find my own exercise on stretching some boundaries it would be fun. Originally Posted by SexyPlatinum

Took a quick look at your showcase; you mention role play but nothing about fetishes or kink. There is a "fetish" option to select when setting up your showcase for what services you offer.

A friendly suggestion would be to add that and some info about fetish services you offer, and also include it in your ads. If you build it, they will come, lol.

If you put it out there, I can guarantee you will get clients requesting it more often.

Thank you sweet pea.

Thank you sweet pea. Originally Posted by SexyPlatinum

No problemo!

I am primarily fbsm, but I added on pm and fetish and have a section about it on my showcase; I don't get lots of clients asking for it, but I do get some.

Hmmm well its something ive been wanting to get into also. Ive been on this board for a while and now kinda getting bored of it. Same old shit different day lol. It would be cool to find my own exercise on stretching some boundaries it would be fun. Originally Posted by SexyPlatinum

Most big cities have dungeons or BDSM clubs that have introductory classes and welcome newbies, especially hot as hell babes like you. Do some research, but don't expect pay for play with the lifestyle. Just use that to build your understanding of what you like to do and have someone do to you. Understanding boundaries and trusting your partner has to be a big part of this.

Many pornstars get tired of the same old shit and turn to kink to keep expanding their horizons. That's where sites like Kink.com get some of their best.

I need to explore that website thank you baby