Would like to get EVERYONE'S 2¢ if possible....The more, The merrier!

We are all human beings & I think it's pretty normal to want to spend time with other human beings on a more intimate level. But in this business I can see the risk of when doing so might not be Be safe or appropriate. And I can see maybe the problems that arise when you cross the provider/ client line that probably shouldn't be crossed.

Although, once you're in it and feelings have reared their ugly head again, then that's where it may get tricky. Obviously it's not a planned deal. I'm sure you don't set out to fall for your hooker or client, but it happens.

How do y'all keep yourself from ever being in that situation?? Is it healthy to allow yourself to get too close to someone like in the situation I'm talking about? Has it ever happened to y'all? If so, did it end well? Or did it even end at all??

I'm just wanting to get some feedback of y'all's experiences, because:
Experience + Knowledge = Wisdom

This young grasshopper is all ears, if you care to share....

Things happen. Feelings can develop, especially if the client is a reg, there's chemistry and he visits often. It's obviously not the right thing to do, but I've heard about it happening and sometimes can't be helped. Sometimes it ends well, the two end up being exclusive, they both get out of the game and sometimes they end up getting married. It's happened, but I don't think too often. Sometimes it ends badly. Use your imagination on the term "badly". All kinds of scenarios there.

If it does happen, both parties need to understand first off how they met. There has to be zero jealousy issues whether it be about the past, present or future, zero pressure to try to force somebody out of the hobby, whether it be the client or provider and no "control" issues from either party. If things are right and meant to be, then they will happen over time and develop naturally. Can't force a relationship, whether if started here or in real life.

as a rule, people cannot keep shit separate.

Sometimes I am able to keep my head and heart and dick separate and on track. Sometimes I have not. Some of those worked out OK and some were wrecks. So in other words, this is just like all of the rest of life. YMAV - Your Mileage Always Varies.

From experience, I know.....

Clients become regulars, become friends, become lovers. Lines are crossed.

More often it is the men that tend to fall for the lady, in my opinion, this ihappens because the client has less options than the lady. We, as providers, have the opportunity of meeting more men than a client has to meet providers.
It is Simply numbers.

How to handle a situation where the line has been crossed? Difficult to answer lil grasshopper . Every situation is different, follow your gut.

Money has a big influence in this situation. The amount of money a provider can make is very difficult to walk away from. Unless the client is in a position to provide for a lady economically, as well, or better than she is able to do for herself.

Also, being a provider gives a woman confidence, sexual power, independence....also difficult to give up for "love"

I know ladies that have met the love of their life in this hobby, gotten married, had children and live happily.....

I have a "special" friend that I met in the hobby. I live 5,000 miles away, so a serious relationship is not an option. Probably the reason our relationship works.... But, we do have a great friendship that I have no doubt will last forever.

You have a good head on your shoulders, you will make mistakes, as we all do, but I think you are one of the few that will find a way to make the best of this career. Much love and admiration for you lil grasshopper!!

Besos, Francisca

For me, I want to find a regular provider that I click with. Sometimes there's chemistry and sometimes it's just not there and that's okay. I've seen providers that I'm glad I spent time with but will not repeat with because it just wasn't there. Usually I know and I'm sure you ladies feel the same way. Surely there's guys that you'd rather not see again.

I want to get to know you and what you like. It just makes things better as we continue to get to know each other. After all, it's about pleasing you (very important to me that you have a great time as well), you pleasing me and having great sex.

As a matter of fact, you providers have ruined me. I guess I've been lucky but sex with the civies just kind of sucks now... :-)

What I've found is that I need to go see someone different after a couple repeat visits to keep any potential feeling at bay and it works very well for me.

Being a retired sailor who once married a Bar Girl from the Philippines (it lasted 5 years once she got her citizenship) it was very easy for me as a young man to have feelings for the providers I was seeing. I am now much older, and although I do prefer the MILF's who are at least closer to my age, I am also realistic that even a woman in her 40's are not gonna fall in love with my old ass. I have established great friendship/relationships with the women that I see on a regular basis here in Lubbock. They treat me like a boyfriend....we even text occasionally. But I steer away from allowing personal feelings from getting in the way....although I care for them, its not really the Love factor. I also try to see other women who may visit Texas....this allows me to avoid seeing a regular on too regular of a basis...(and keeps my premium access). I have had nothing but amazing experiences with providers that I have seen.....research pays off.

So Zgirl? Are you having feelings for a client, or, has a client started to have feelings for you?

Good question.....Old Sailor

So Zgirl? Are you having feelings for a client, or, has a client started to have feelings for you? Originally Posted by Oldsailor64

Neither

Sorry fellas she fell for me and you can't really blame her.

I think it's easy to keep things separate.

I have been in a few situations where feelings have developed. The “romance” ended, yet ended well in every case. I think it ended well because in each situation, we had tremendous respect for each other. And we truly value each other. Some of the ladies have since quit the hobby. Others still escort.

One in particular in DFW still escorts. I still spend time with her. It’s a close friendship. We do love and care about each other, but not in a romantic way now. She comes to see me, and I go and stay with her.

Another lady now lives in NYC. Each year, she will make a tour to Texas. She comes to Midland/Odessa exclusively to see me.

Sometimes lines do get blurred. Genuine mutual feelings can develop. Honesty, respect and communication are important.

If you feel like there is a line being crossed, have to cut ties. Simple as that

I definitely enjoy getting to know all kinds of people and forming lasting bonds. But, I think it is wise to keep one's personal life separate from the hobby.

psst, I've fallen for Zgirl, don't tell her...