What feature are you most willing to spend the $ on?

Imsecretlyaninja's Avatar
So I was sitting around bored today since I can't work and I can't hobby (medical reasons). (I am watching the series friends for the first time. Very entertaining)

And I got to thinking. What in most situations makes your $ choice for you?

Ladies obviously you can chime in with what clients have told you over your time in the hobby.

Mine would be
1)Face
2)perceived personality (there are some providers I won't see no matter how attractive they are based solely on this. And some I don't find all that atttractive that I will see simply because of the personality and some I'm attracted to that lost me and then won me back over by their sense of humor)
3)BBBj
4) body type (I have a preference but don't eliminate any based on this factor )
5) pubic hair the more the better it's one of the first things I look at on a providers showcase and if it's there she gets a plus one.
6)hair color... blonde,then funky colors like pink purple and stuff,then redhead, then brunette



What say you fine folks?
1 - 3, massive. Expounding on 2, a great and welcoming attitude goes one hell of a long way with me. Past those 3 things, I hope she is flexible mentally and physically and loves daty.

And help me Jesus but a great smile is a damn nice awesome asset.
Reputation, maturity, professionalism/TCB, reliability & IOP are all answers that I frequently get. I'm told that my legs don't hurt anything, either.
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Oh Smile and IOP. I should have listed those. But I guess IOP is difficult to gauge from just reviews but it is HUGE on my repeat business meter
I was choosing from the answers offered. Question and answer test, not a thesis wrtitten on "what is the most beautiful hobby experience". That would take awhile.
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Short answer, Watchout what are your most important deciding factors when choosing whom to spend your hobby $ on
oh. first time vs repeat are pretty different

for first time
1. is she short/small? (im a short guy)
2. her personality and intelligence revealed on the board can be snide as well as sweet and fiery
3. reviews. particularly the amount of fun they had besides just penis manipulation
4 if no personality revealed then cuteness, tits, hair

for repeat
1. did i get the feeling she likes eroticism, the sensation of lustiness in herself and me.
not so much that she shows passion for me, but shes happy to have some company in the sex playpen
2. she invites me to provide her a particular pleasure. anything from the backrub or or temple massage, to requesting a position, to demanding daty with guidance
3. basic attractiveness. a sufficient combination of face, proportion
4. tits
I agree completely with notquiteatroll- it is completely different for me whether it's the first time or if I'm deciding to repeat...
First time-
*in order of importance
-ass/thickness
-reviews, activities mentioned in the review and you can get some sense of personality from reviews

For repeat visits, I use several different factors in determining who I spend my hobby $$$ on...
-personality
-IOP perceived or real, doesn't matter
-ass of course
-bbbj
-overall skills
-face, sexiness

And I also agree with ninja in that I've been with some really hot chicks whose personality just turned me away or their lack of skills kept me from me coming back
Short answer, Watchout what are your most important deciding factors when choosing whom to spend your hobby $ on Originally Posted by Imsecretlyaninja
Off the top of my head - and probably rambling a bit. This is actually a complicated process. I grade a lot harder on the front end than I do after, so long as the date is not a complete disaster. Every time I go through the AR showcases I realize that there are only 25 - 30% of the ladies here that I have seen or want to see. I have rounded out my choices by seeing quite a few traveling ladies. Some of what I am about to write also ties in heavily with who I choose to have repeat visits with.

1. Attitude - or my perception of it for a first time visit. A lady that does a strong job of making me feel appreciated will earn repeat visits. Perhaps many. I want to strongly believe before I visit the first time, that I will visit more times. Make me believe you enjoy being with me - and if you have to be an actress to do that, be a damn good one. Obviously that ties into an IOP. But a lady has to be careful with her IOP. Too much and it can seem fake. You will never hear me say you have an easy job but it's the job you have. NONE of this means that I don't respect a lady with an opinion. In fact, I much prefer them to doormats. Strong ladies don't threaten me as a male. Which ties in to factor 2.....

2. Intelligence - or my perception of it on a first time date. I am over 60. Our hour or two will not resemble a porn movie with non-stop "action". There is going to be some cuddle and recovery time. A lady that can hold an intelligent conversation is a big turn on to me during that time (or any other time). I also am well aware that intelligent ladies are far less prone to put me in a situation I don't want to be in. If I perceive a lady as lacking in intelligence, the game is over before it starts. Which ties in to factor 3.....

3. TCB - my hobby ops are way the hell too limited to waste one on a lady that does not run her business like a business and treat me like a customer she wants to earn repeat business with. This obviously ties in closely with factors 1 and 2. Also tying into this is a sense that she values her safety, discretion and privacy every bit as much as I value mine. Nothing fucks up a date more for me than learning otherwise. And that perception has kept me from seeing some ladies.

4. Skills - or perceived skills for a first time visit. I am not overly demanding and realize that chemistry plays a role but your role is to make me believe we are compatible for an hour or two. One absolute deal breaker - CBJ. I have never had one, or at least one where the intent was completion, and don't intend to start now.

5. Looks - but I am somewhat flexible here. I am far from perfect and don't expect perfection in others. Obviously, if someone is butt ass ugly, I can't close my eyes tight enough to make that go away. But I find attractive features in a wide range of ladies and I have enjoyed a wide range of body sizes, faces (as long as they have a nice smile on them), etc., if factors 1 - 4 are strong. I have been with a couple of beautiful ladies who were close to thinking looks alone were enough. Not for me. I am not much into this 1 - 10 scale looks crap because it is totally subjective. I have heard it said "I would rather get a CBJ from a 10 than a BBBJ from an 8". I am just the opposite.

All that said, this is MY thought process and I am in no way saying it should be YOURS. It's your time, experience and money. One of the biggest traps we can fall into here it to think we all should go about this a certain way - and that we are all looking for the same things in a session. It amazes me that the really great providers can see damn near all of us, with all of our different wants and needs, and make nearly all of us happy campers when we walk out the door. That is a real talent.
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Off the top of my head - and probably rambling a bit. This is actually a complicated process. I grade a lot harder on the front end than I do after, so long as the date is not a complete disaster. Every time I go through the AR showcases I realize that there are only 25 - 30% of the ladies here that I have seen or want to see. I have rounded out my choices by seeing quite a few traveling ladies. Some of what I am about to write also ties in heavily with who I choose to have repeat visits with.

1. Attitude - or my perception of it for a first time visit. A lady that does a strong job of making me feel appreciated will earn repeat visits. Perhaps many. I want to strongly believe before I visit the first time, that I will visit more times. Make me believe you enjoy being with me - and if you have to be an actress to do that, be a damn good one. Obviously that ties into an IOP. But a lady has to be careful with her IOP. Too much and it can seem fake. You will never hear me say you have an easy job but it's the job you have. NONE of this means that I don't respect a lady with an opinion. In fact, I much prefer them to doormats. Strong ladies don't threaten me as a male. Which ties in to factor 2.....

2. Intelligence - or my perception of it on a first time date. I am over 60. Our hour or two will not resemble a porn movie with non-stop "action". There is going to be some cuddle and recovery time. A lady that can hold an intelligent conversation is a big turn on to me during that time (or any other time). I also am well aware that intelligent ladies are far less prone to put me in a situation I don't want to be in. If I perceive a lady as lacking in intelligence, the game is over before it starts. Which ties in to factor 3.....

3. TCB - my hobby ops are way the hell too limited to waste one on a lady that does not run her business like a business and treat me like a customer she wants to earn repeat business with. This obviously ties in closely with factors 1 and 2. Also tying into this is a sense that she values her safety, discretion and privacy every bit as much as I value mine. Nothing fucks up a date more for me than learning otherwise. And that perception has kept me from seeing some ladies.

4. Skills - or perceived skills for a first time visit. I am not overly demanding and realize that chemistry plays a role but your role is to make me believe we are compatible for an hour or two. One absolute deal breaker - CBJ. I have never had one, or at least one where the intent was completion, and don't intend to start now.

5. Looks - but I am somewhat flexible here. I am far from perfect and don't expect perfection in others. Obviously, if someone is butt ass ugly, I can't close my eyes tight enough to make that go away. But I find attractive features in a wide range of ladies and I have enjoyed a wide range of body sizes, faces (as long as they have a nice smile on them), etc., if factors 1 - 4 are strong. I have been with a couple of beautiful ladies who were close to thinking looks alone were enough. Not for me. I am not much into this 1 - 10 scale looks crap because it is totally subjective. I have heard it said "I would rather get a CBJ from a 10 than a BBBJ from an 8". I am just the opposite.

All that said, this is MY thought process and I am in no way saying it should be YOURS. It's your time, experience and money. One of the biggest traps we can fall into here it to think we all should go about this a certain way - and that we are all looking for the same things in a session. It amazes me that the really great providers can see damn near all of us, with all of our different wants and needs, and make nearly all of us happy campers when we walk out the door. That is a real talent. Originally Posted by watchoutthegameisrigged


I can think like this but in no way put it in words like this, I
like it and agree with you 100% except for the cbj, I had the
displeasure a time or two early into the hobby, not ganna happen
again don't care if shes a 12.
tuckahoe's Avatar
Off the top of my head - and probably rambling a bit. This is actually a complicated process. I grade a lot harder on the front end than I do after, so long as the date is not a complete disaster. Every time I go through the AR showcases I realize that there are only 25 - 30% of the ladies here that I have seen or want to see. I have rounded out my choices by seeing quite a few traveling ladies. Some of what I am about to write also ties in heavily with who I choose to have repeat visits with.

1. Attitude - or my perception of it for a first time visit. A lady that does a strong job of making me feel appreciated will earn repeat visits. Perhaps many. I want to strongly believe before I visit the first time, that I will visit more times. Make me believe you enjoy being with me - and if you have to be an actress to do that, be a damn good one. Obviously that ties into an IOP. But a lady has to be careful with her IOP. Too much and it can seem fake. You will never hear me say you have an easy job but it's the job you have. NONE of this means that I don't respect a lady with an opinion. In fact, I much prefer them to doormats. Strong ladies don't threaten me as a male. Which ties in to factor 2.....

2. Intelligence - or my perception of it on a first time date. I am over 60. Our hour or two will not resemble a porn movie with non-stop "action". There is going to be some cuddle and recovery time. A lady that can hold an intelligent conversation is a big turn on to me during that time (or any other time). I also am well aware that intelligent ladies are far less prone to put me in a situation I don't want to be in. If I perceive a lady as lacking in intelligence, the game is over before it starts. Which ties in to factor 3.....

3. TCB - my hobby ops are way the hell too limited to waste one on a lady that does not run her business like a business and treat me like a customer she wants to earn repeat business with. This obviously ties in closely with factors 1 and 2. Also tying into this is a sense that she values her safety, discretion and privacy every bit as much as I value mine. Nothing fucks up a date more for me than learning otherwise. And that perception has kept me from seeing some ladies.

4. Skills - or perceived skills for a first time visit. I am not overly demanding and realize that chemistry plays a role but your role is to make me believe we are compatible for an hour or two. One absolute deal breaker - CBJ. I have never had one, or at least one where the intent was completion, and don't intend to start now.

5. Looks - but I am somewhat flexible here. I am far from perfect and don't expect perfection in others. Obviously, if someone is butt ass ugly, I can't close my eyes tight enough to make that go away. But I find attractive features in a wide range of ladies and I have enjoyed a wide range of body sizes, faces (as long as they have a nice smile on them), etc., if factors 1 - 4 are strong. I have been with a couple of beautiful ladies who were close to thinking looks alone were enough. Not for me. I am not much into this 1 - 10 scale looks crap because it is totally subjective. I have heard it said "I would rather get a CBJ from a 10 than a BBBJ from an 8". I am just the opposite.

All that said, this is MY thought process and I am in no way saying it should be YOURS. It's your time, experience and money. One of the biggest traps we can fall into here it to think we all should go about this a certain way - and that we are all looking for the same things in a session. It amazes me that the really great providers can see damn near all of us, with all of our different wants and needs, and make nearly all of us happy campers when we walk out the door. That is a real talent. Originally Posted by watchoutthegameisrigged
Nice short answer (lol), but a good answer!
tuckahoe's Avatar
Haven't seen #5 in years. Anyone depending on it probably is not getting much luvin'
I can think like this but in no way put it in words like this, I
like it and agree with you 100% except for the cbj, I had the
displeasure a time or two early into the hobby, not ganna happen
again don't care if shes a 12. Originally Posted by ccrider
You may have misread me. I have never had a CBJ intended for completion and never will. If that is all the BJ a lady offers, I'm out. Total deal breaker. I have on a few occasions had a short CBJ after a lady had me suited up when she thought I needed a bit more work to get me fully ready for intercourse.
Hogfan69's Avatar
1. Looks
2. Attitude
3. A great ass!
nevercanhavetoomuch's Avatar
For the first visit I try to determine reputation and see if I can get an idea of her attitude or IOP during the session. Activity performed is another big one for me and it is often the factor that will keep me from seeing a provider. Personally, looks and body type are not much of a consideration.

Repeat visits is based almost totally on how much IOP or true passion was displayed during our visit along with personality. Did I feel comfortable with her? Did I feel like it was a true GFE experience? Did I feel rushed.. was I being pushed out the door as soon as I popped? Bang for the buck....

Not an extensive list I know but them I am a pretty simple man.