Short answer, Watchout what are your most important deciding factors when choosing whom to spend your hobby $ on
Originally Posted by Imsecretlyaninja
Off the top of my head - and probably rambling a bit. This is actually a complicated process. I grade a lot harder on the front end than I do after, so long as the date is not a complete disaster. Every time I go through the AR showcases I realize that there are only 25 - 30% of the ladies here that I have seen or want to see. I have rounded out my choices by seeing quite a few traveling ladies. Some of what I am about to write also ties in heavily with who I choose to have repeat visits with.
1. Attitude - or my perception of it for a first time visit. A lady that does a strong job of making me feel appreciated will earn repeat visits. Perhaps many. I want to strongly believe before I visit the first time, that I will visit more times. Make me believe you enjoy being with me - and if you have to be an actress to do that, be a damn good one. Obviously that ties into an IOP. But a lady has to be careful with her IOP. Too much and it can seem fake. You will never hear me say you have an easy job but it's the job you have. NONE of this means that I don't respect a lady with an opinion. In fact, I much prefer them to doormats. Strong ladies don't threaten me as a male. Which ties in to factor 2.....
2. Intelligence - or my perception of it on a first time date. I am over 60. Our hour or two will not resemble a porn movie with non-stop "action". There is going to be some cuddle and recovery time. A lady that can hold an intelligent conversation is a big turn on to me during that time (or any other time). I also am well aware that intelligent ladies are far less prone to put me in a situation I don't want to be in. If I perceive a lady as lacking in intelligence, the game is over before it starts. Which ties in to factor 3.....
3. TCB - my hobby ops are way the hell too limited to waste one on a lady that does not run her business like a business and treat me like a customer she wants to earn repeat business with. This obviously ties in closely with factors 1 and 2. Also tying into this is a sense that she values her safety, discretion and privacy every bit as much as I value mine. Nothing fucks up a date more for me than learning otherwise. And that perception has kept me from seeing some ladies.
4. Skills - or perceived skills for a first time visit. I am not overly demanding and realize that chemistry plays a role but your role is to make me believe we are compatible for an hour or two. One absolute deal breaker - CBJ. I have never had one, or at least one where the intent was completion, and don't intend to start now.
5. Looks - but I am somewhat flexible here. I am far from perfect and don't expect perfection in others. Obviously, if someone is butt ass ugly, I can't close my eyes tight enough to make that go away. But I find attractive features in a wide range of ladies and I have enjoyed a wide range of body sizes, faces (as long as they have a nice smile on them), etc., if factors 1 - 4 are strong. I have been with a couple of beautiful ladies who were close to thinking looks alone were enough. Not for me. I am not much into this 1 - 10 scale looks crap because it is totally subjective. I have heard it said "I would rather get a CBJ from a 10 than a BBBJ from an 8". I am just the opposite.
All that said, this is MY thought process and I am in no way saying it should be YOURS. It's your time, experience and money. One of the biggest traps we can fall into here it to think we all should go about this a certain way - and that we are all looking for the same things in a session. It amazes me that the really great providers can see damn near all of us, with all of our different wants and needs, and make nearly all of us happy campers when we walk out the door. That is a real talent.