Blowjob School

Stumbled on this article and thought it would be interesting to share, and then to ask the experienced professionals here to contribute their nuggets of blowjob wisdom.

Of course, this will be YMMV. Not every guy or lady is going to agree with everything here and that's OK. Vive la différence!

Article: 8 Things They Teach You at Blowjob School:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/...b0737fd5cb8621

Below, sex educators and other experts from around the country share their best advice from BJ classes. (NSFW material ahead!)

1. Start slow.


“It’s fun to start soft. Let your partner get hard in your mouth, without any motion. Just let them experience the warmth of your breath and wetness of your tongue then gently begin to suck. Anticipation will make your partner even hotter.” ― Rebekah Beneteau, a sex, kink and intimacy coach and co-host of the webinar “The Joy of Oral: Make Your Next Mouthful Matter”

2. Don’t shy away from lube.


“People often think that their own saliva will be enough lubrication to get the job done. It’s actually best to add a bit of lube to get started: either water-based or silicone. After a few minutes, you may build up enough of your own juices to keep the action going. Sucking on a hard, sugar-free candy can also help you build up saliva.” ― Melissa Jones, a sexologist and executive director of the Sexology Institute and Boutique in San Antonio, Texas

3. Get handsy.


“Remember: A good blow job is 50 percent hands. Using your hands, with even pressure and friction in concert with your mouth, does more than what your mouth can do on its own. It can make or break a blow job experience.” ― Elle Chase, a sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life

4. Ask questions.


“Ask questions before you start and even during if you aren’t sure he’s having a good time. Every man is different. They don’t all like the same thing. Don’t ask broad questions like ‘Is this good?’ Instead, ask yes or no questions that give you concrete information, like, ‘Would you like it faster?’” ― Trevor Jones, a sex, kink and intimacy coach and co-host of the webinar “The Joy of Oral: Make Your Next Mouthful Matter”

5. Work with the curve and angle of your partner’s penis.


“Deep throating isn’t for everyone, but if it is something you want to do, having your mouth and throat match the angle of your partner’s penis can help. If they are curved or angled upward for instance, being on your knees below them would not work as well because their penis would be more likely to hit the roof of your mouth than go smoothly down your throat. In that case, have them lie down on a bed, kneel next to them facing their feet, and lean down until you’re comfortable. From there, open your throat like you would for a yawn ― now your partner’s penis can slide down your throat at a more comfortable and natural angle.” ― Amory Jane, a sex educator and education coordinator at She Bop, a sex toy boutique in Portland, Oregon

6. Give him your undivided attention.


“Give him your attention, not his penis. Let him know you desire his pleasure and satisfaction by giving frequent eye contact, saying his name, asking him how he likes it or if he wants anything special. Eye contact also allows you to read his body language, to see how he responds to different techniques.” ― Melissa Jones

7. Don’t forget “the boys.”


“To give a successful blow job, you have to pay attention to his balls. Go back and forth, popping each one into your mouth and going back every now and again to lick the whole sack area. I encourage starting your blow job here, actually; spending a bit of time with ‘the boys’ helps boost his arousal before you start bobbing ― the part where you’re most likely hurting your jaw.” ― Sasha Rene, founder of the Blow By Blow workshop in San Diego, California

8. Be in the moment.


“You’re putting your partner’s most coveted body part in your mouth and between your teeth ― that takes an enormous amount of trust. Savor the experience. Show your partner how much you recognize this by treating their blow job with enthusiasm, focused attention and high regard.” ― Elle Chase

Great post! And I totally agree that a deep throating is all about the angle.

Great post! And I totally agree that a deep throating is all about the angle. Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

Well you are certainly qualified as an instructor!

Ha! Thanks Spanky.

I think it would also be interesting if clients spoke up about their likes/dislikes. Of course the ladies here are pros but maybe they'd even learn a thing or two.

My personal contribution - absolutely not referencing anyone in particular's techniques, just some general thoughts:

#7 resonated with me. "The Boys" often don't get any (or enough) attention. Just be gentle!

#8 also resonated. "Be in the moment".

When something is working based on his reactions, keep doing it!

At least for me, the underside of the penis is the most sensitive part. Especially the frenulum, the little fold of skin on the underside near the head. Lick that like an ice cream cone for a while and I am in heaven.

It isn't just the sensation, it's the show! Men are visual creatures, and making eye contact, swirling your tongue around the head, etc. can really add something special to an already wonderful sex act! Some ladies just seem to know this instinctively.

Not everyone wants the very aggressive, rough type of blowjobs shown in many porn movies. I personally prefer a more gentle, sensual touch with a little less pressure. But of course other guys would prefer the opposite. #4 "Ask questions" is essential!

I've been told that i should write a book on my techniques. I have honestly never thought that what indid was anything special. I happen to be a chick that Loves to suck dick. And when i do its kinda like inam just lost in the moment.
I feel like when a guy goes down on me do i want him to lick my clit 3 times and stop?!! FUCK NO!!! So why would i go down on a man. Lick it, maybe half heartedly attempt to deep throat all while saying each chance i get " DONT TRY TO CUM IN MY MOUTH".. Oh and IT MUST BE A CBJ... UGHHHHH WHATBTHE FUCK IS THE POINT IN THAT?!!!

When i go down on a man. I wanna make sure he is 1000000% pleased. Wanting to hold out on busting that load all over my face and/or tits.. Tease the cock. Admire the cock. Feel it throb in the very back of my throat as i am taking EVERY inch i can get in my mouth.
Look him in his eyes so he can see the look on my face as i am choosing his cock over air.
Feel him harden inside of my mouth as he is is building up... Then he eases out of my mouth... And there it is.. That HOT Thick salty yet sweet...Jizzz!! .. All over.. Face... Neck.... Tits...
Thats what its all about. The MAGIC.
Xoxo

I've been told that i should write a book on my techniques. I have honestly never thought that what indid was anything special. I happen to be a chick that Loves to suck dick. And when i do its kinda like inam just lost in the moment.
I feel like when a guy goes down on me do i want him to lick my clit 3 times and stop?!! FUCK NO!!! So why would i go down on a man. Lick it, maybe half heartedly attempt to deep throat all while saying each chance i get " DONT TRY TO CUM IN MY MOUTH".. Oh and IT MUST BE A CBJ... UGHHHHH WHATBTHE FUCK IS THE POINT IN THAT?!!!

When i go down on a man. I wanna make sure he is 1000000% pleased. Wanting to hold out on busting that load all over my face and/or tits.. Tease the cock. Admire the cock. Feel it throb in the very back of my throat as i am taking EVERY inch i can get in my mouth.
Look him in his eyes so he can see the look on my face as i am choosing his cock over air.
Feel him harden inside of my mouth as he is is building up... Then he eases out of my mouth... And there it is.. That HOT Thick salty yet sweet...Jizzz!! .. All over.. Face... Neck.... Tits...
Thats what its all about. The MAGIC.
Xoxo Originally Posted by cassie_love

OK, you...are a highly qualified BJ instructor too! I do think that in some cases it matters less what the lady is doing and more about her attitude while doing it. If she is devouring you like she has a deep seated need for it burning in her soul - which I think is akin to what you're describing - well, that is something special that can transcend technique.

O doubt about it. The best blowjobs are given by women that like to suck dick. There is no faking it.

A slow blowjob, getting a guy to the brink and holding him there for 30 min or so is amazing.

I love sucking Dick.. Just in case nobody was aware of this. Now you know

I love sucking Dick.. Just in case nobody was aware of this. Now you know Originally Posted by SerenityXX

I think that probably won't come as much of a surprise to anyone!

p.s. I like your Tumblr