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lubaray's Avatar
Good people of Houston..I need your expertise in making my next move. I have been seeing a provider for years now and at this point we are both very comfortable with our arrangements. In my last visit , during the heat of the moment, as I was scrambling for the rubber, she told me it’s okay as long as I do not cum inside of her … I was completely taken aback and tried to get out of the situation as fast as I could. I obviously didn’t… but should I see her again?
ummm...i think this question/scenario should be discussed in another forum
Good people of Houston..I need your expertise in making my next move. I have been seeing a provider for years now and at this point we are both very comfortable with our arrangements. In my last visit , during the heat of the moment, as I was scrambling for the rubber, she told me it’s okay as long as I do not cum inside of her … I was completely taken aback and tried to get out of the situation as fast as I could. I obviously didn’t… but should I see her again? Originally Posted by lubaray
The issue is 1. catching something 2. baby 3. intimacy/next level
You are probably the only she does this with... she told you so.

She is trying to build her customer base.
She is comfortable she will not get pregnant.
If this was the first time she did this with you. it doesn't matter what anybody here tells you, you'll be going back really soon.
Eventually, you might get a hold of yourself.

Bareback with the 40+ Asian woman crowd here in town is nothing new.
lubaray's Avatar
Spot on man!! But I will pass … I don’t want the drama hitting me in the coming years.
O'Mike's Avatar
Is it mandatory that you go bare back with her?


If no, then have a cover handy and continue on like you have for years like nothing happened.


If she gets squirrelly , then bail.


Might not a be need to bust up a good thing, unless you are looking for an excuse to do so. Then you have it.


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asianlover17's Avatar
If she looks 30-40, she is probably 60. Chances that she gets pregnant are none. Catching something is a totally different problem, and the issue here is that some things are really hard to immediately diagnose unless you ask a specific test for those. Example of such things is papilloma virus.
lubaray's Avatar
Thanks man.. I look up to you all the time .. you are a veteran here !!
I’m head over heels in love with all my providers too. About 1 hour at a time every few weeks (yesterday it was Ellie). Ahhhhh, Ellie.

Seriously though, no one can say what might be real between the two of you but you two, so I’m not going to suggest any solution if that is what you are looking for. But just looking at the math, the long term odds aren’t in anyone’s favor.

Shack up, split the household bills proportionally to income (but if you are expecting her to stop participating in her current employment then that would need to be clarified ahead of time), and see what happens or doesn’t. Find out early if you are sponsoring or supporting her family as well.
Bush_Pilot's Avatar
It’s probably better to discuss this topic in the lounge, but since we’re already here I’m going to hit this from a different angle.

You said that while you were fumbling for the lid she told you not to worry about it as long as there is no deposit, BUT you never said it was a requirement in previous sessions. I’m thinking this might have less to do with her overall comfort with you as a generally good guy and potential life partner, and more to do with the fact that you are the only one who bothers to wear a wrapper. Just a thought. I could be wrong. I’ve been called an asshole before.

If I’m right though, it’s something to think about.

lubaray's Avatar
Let me try her out, see if I get same treatment.
I thought we've had multiple threads on here about NOT getting too involved with providers
asianlover17's Avatar
No matter how many discussions and recommendations we have on this topic, those things will keep happening. Just count how many providers we lost of a sudden because they decided to move somewhere else (or better say with someone else).
Let me take a guess....I
s this establishment in west Houston about a mile or so off Westheimer??