Wow - thank you so much. That explanation is the best one I have ever heard or read. It makes so much sense. There are exceptions to every generalization as you point out - i.e. President Obama is a great husband, father, family man and example for ALL young men. I guess I'm just a bit jealous that I have neither lots of money, a large cock and I am not a "bad boy". Many women want at least one of those three. Just ask Whitney Houston - she chose Bobby Brown over me and look where she ended up! Originally Posted by StudMuffinPA
Wow - thank you so much. That explanation is the best one I have ever heard or read. It makes so much sense. There are exceptions to every generalization as you point out - i.e. President Obama is a great husband, father, family man and example for ALL young men. I guess I'm just a bit jealous that I have neither lots of money, a large cock and I am not a "bad boy". Many women want at least one of those three. Just ask Whitney Houston - she chose Bobby Brown over me and look where she ended up! Originally Posted by StudMuffinPAThat explanation is only his. He doesn't speak for all black men.
The answer isn’t as complicated as you think lol.Wow, just wow.
I’m black. All my exes are white.
It’s a cultural thing that most black men are sick of. Most black women are absolutely masculine in the way they act inside and outside the home. Men are universally attracted to femininity. Sometimes that includes submissiveness. Most black women are not submissive. Most black women will fight you on every decision. And look it’s not exactly the black woman’s fault 100% either.
Unfortunately in the black community we have an internal matriarchal system. Black women hold some standing… you can say it’s because of single mothers or because of the lack of fathers or the mixture of both inside a ghetto environment….. whatever the case may be since older black women raise a majority of the children the black culture in itself has become a matriarch. Unfortunately that has bled down into generations and all black women feel the need to be right, be “strong and independent” (you don’t think that originated from a white women do you lol), and take care of business as a man should. That puts them in a very combative light. Compound that by the fact we have been raised by these type of women and have been around most of these women in are respective families….
Long story short…. Black men are mostly done. I’m not going to argue with you when I can just cross the street and get a more feminine looking woman who is submissive more than you want to be. And it’s not all black women are masculine and all white women are submissive… there are certainly outliers in both camps. But why should I as a black man put up with it? Lol I’ll just go play in the snow.
And not all black men will jump ship. Some will deal with the stupidity and stress…. Also to be fair men have to be…. Men… in order for a women to be respectful and submissive. Just about everything in this world BEGINS and ENDS with men…. This is no exception. But how can a man… be a man…. If he’s raised by women……. That right there sums up the biggest issue in the black community. Originally Posted by blckstuff412
That explanation is only his. He doesn't speak for all black men. Originally Posted by 1pittsburghDo you?
Do you?Lol. Just like you, when a black man says something you agree with, fall all over yourself trying to compliment him as "one of the good ones". We see you, dude.
Because I hear you inside calling him an Uncle Tom, as all liberals do when a black man says something they don't like or, just because they are conservative. Originally Posted by Devo
Lol. Just like you, when a black man says something you agree with, fall all over yourself trying to compliment him as "one of the good ones". We see you, dude. Originally Posted by tommy156So, if he isn't one of the good ones, what is he?
The answer isn’t as complicated as you think lol.This is an excellent post. Thanks for writing it.
I’m black. All my exes are white.
It’s a cultural thing that most black men are sick of. Most black women are absolutely masculine in the way they act inside and outside the home. Men are universally attracted to femininity. Sometimes that includes submissiveness. Most black women are not submissive. Most black women will fight you on every decision. And look it’s not exactly the black woman’s fault 100% either.
Unfortunately in the black community we have an internal matriarchal system. Black women hold some standing… you can say it’s because of single mothers or because of the lack of fathers or the mixture of both inside a ghetto environment….. whatever the case may be since older black women raise a majority of the children the black culture in itself has become a matriarch. Unfortunately that has bled down into generations and all black women feel the need to be right, be “strong and independent” (you don’t think that originated from a white women do you lol), and take care of business as a man should. That puts them in a very combative light. Compound that by the fact we have been raised by these type of women and have been around most of these women in are respective families….
Long story short…. Black men are mostly done. I’m not going to argue with you when I can just cross the street and get a more feminine looking woman who is submissive more than you want to be. And it’s not all black women are masculine and all white women are submissive… there are certainly outliers in both camps. But why should I as a black man put up with it? Lol I’ll just go play in the snow.
And not all black men will jump ship. Some will deal with the stupidity and stress…. Also to be fair men have to be…. Men… in order for a women to be respectful and submissive. Just about everything in this world BEGINS and ENDS with men…. This is no exception. But how can a man… be a man…. If he’s raised by women……. That right there sums up the biggest issue in the black community. Originally Posted by blckstuff412
This is an excellent post. Thanks for writing it. Originally Posted by JacuzzmeIt is, but if I was a black women in todays society I’d be bitter as fuck at black men.
So, if he isn't one of the good ones, what is he?The fact that you can only see him as "one of the good pnes" or an "Uncle Tom" tells me all I need to know.
An Uncle Tom?
How can anyone on the "Outside" of a community have any concern for that community, when you persecute the people in that community for honestly speaking about what he see's as it's problem.
No wonder nobody want's to speak out, either to the police, or the the "Leaders" of the black community, because they know there will be a negative reaction, and a "Connotation" placed on them forever, as being a "House Slave" or an "Uncle Tom", or a "Snitch".
And, what exactly makes you someone to judge who is and who isn't a good member of the black community, what exactly is your pedigree that allows you to speak for them? Originally Posted by Devo