Learning the ropes

I’ve had a profile here for quite some time, but have not met anyone.

Basically I looked at things several years ago…never followed through.
Now I’d like to see what the hobby has to offer, but not sure where to start.

I’ve politely messaged a few providers and get no response. I understand they need to verify things for safety but am struggling to get to their verification process. Any advice would be appreciated.

Also…I read comments regarding STG where people don’t seem to be a fan of the site. May I ask what the problems have been?

I apologize if this type of post isn’t allowed….trying to learn the rules as I go.

I would start at one of the ladies who has been on the scene for years rather than passing through (Think Tryst rather than STG). Look for GFE as a service they offer. Get through their screening process (be patient) and let them guide you to a great time. (Melanie was this person for me. But I will leave it to the gallery to tell you their picks, but she is a sweetheart.)

If you are a good smelling and polite client and have a connection maybe you can ask the ladies for advice in what they want from you to be a great client. I've learned a lot this way and it has served me well.

Also, your intro text means a lot. Simple and include what they ask for. "Hi. I'm (alias), 45yo guy. Seeing if you're available for 1 hr your place!" Also while STG has a few legit ladies, it's full of scams. Check the encounters for the real ones.

Good advice here for sure. There are a bunch of great local ladies that would be wonderful choices. Everyone has their own likes, but I think we are blessed here for sure.

**Important**
If it looks Too Good To Be True, it is.

Also, I think p411 is a great way for people to start.

Yes, a local superstar like Melanie would be a pretty addictive way to start the hobby.

you are already on the right direction when you found out this forum. Go to the encounter report/studio/amp section and find a well reviewed lady. Do NOT simply scroll through STG and book.

Read, read and read more. Join p411 and use p411 and tryst. find someone on p411 that is newbie friendly and contact them.

Lots of good advice above, but I'd also recommend if you find someone you like, try to provide as much information upfront as possible. A lot of these ladies get timewasters texting/emailing them and by filling out a screening form or asking if they're available a certain time/day, it shows you take them seriously and respect their time.

Stg, listcrawler, and "quick ad" sites like them are full of scammers- its been said above but if it looks too good to be true it probably is, there are diamonds in that rough but do your research and be comfortable before pulling the trigger. Face time is a decent option before meeting.


A deposit is always a scam.



Check the forums and review boards here, if you dont have private access pm the reviewer to get Intel. You might not get all the juicy details if you dont have a large presence but most will point you in the right direction.


Be confident, don't lead with things like it's my first time, it could come off odd.

Clear concise first communication like mentioned above : "hello, I'm (preferred name) age, race, gender. I'm in (city) area and would like to spend (30min, 60min, 2hr, etc) with you."
Mention if you want incall or outcall- and you should get a response.



You may need to txt more than once, if the lady is busy and doesn't see a msg for an hour they probably won't reply. Just check back in and be polite: "hello (preferred name) here again. Just wanted to check in and see if you were able to meet."


P411 is a solid site in my experience, tryst is 70% solid but starting to slip in my opinion. Eros.com was good but 50/50 these days.
Erotic monkey, adult look, private delights are all hit and miss. And the quick ad sites mentioned above are full of landmines, scams, robbers, maybe leo?, and the very, VERY, rare hottie who will fuck you breathless - THINK WITH YOUR BIG HEAD and you should do alright.


Stay safe and good luck!

Op - you are lucky to have received all solid and valuable information from reputed hobbyists - in a single thread on here ! Please keep all this information handy. You would need all this, until you reach a stage where you can start giving all advice to others ! Good Luck ! Happy Hobbying and stay safe !

Sorry if this is late but I concur with others that you should be clear and concise in your communication with providers. Don’t be afraid to follow up either if you don’t get a response in a day or so. If you continue to not get communication from anyone, I recommend PM’ing a fellow monger to see if they can check out your intro text in case there’s something off about what you’re asking.

I admit that being a newbie sucks. Once you get established with some good references under your belt, the escort world is your oyster. Have fun, good luck, always trust your gut, and never do anything you’re not comfortable with.