A reason strip clubs may be most entertaining is the illusion (fantasy) of a spontaneous mutual connection. That's eliminated by up-front negotiations, so I recommend taking a risk sometimes. On those rare occasions when it feels spontaneous, that's a great encounter.
Originally Posted by rcusa
I agree but you have to be able to build that connection with the dancer. Unfortunately not everyone can do that, that's where the strip club game and ymmv comes into to play. That's why I recommended to other people do it upfront even though I dont always follow that advice.
On phmzee's point about dancers going bsc because you didn't negotiate up front. If youre not comfortable dealing with dancer drama and not able to de-escalate the situation than yes save yourself the problems and again do it upfront. I have experience dealing with the dancer crazy and can shutdown the bs pretty quickly but not everyone can or wants to deal with it in the first place. Theres more than one way to do things and decide for yourself what approach makes sense for you.