Question for men

staceyrenee's Avatar
Do men really think that no matter what they do everything is transactional it don’t matter if it’s a girlfriend, your side, chick wife fiancé it don’t matter someone always doing something to get something that how the world has always worked only difference from the 1800s is that it don’t go to there dad….

Only asking because someone told me that they wanna talk to me no more cause it’s all transactional Mind you been knowing them about 12 yr

Really got me confused what do you mean

Thinking about coming that way next week but am I wrong correct me if so…

Thanks
Stay Blessed
Dud341's Avatar
Are you asking if we think connections made here are more than a transaction?
staceyrenee's Avatar
I don’t understand what you mean I am sorry …

I mean in life I feel like everything is transactional for a woman you are given the cards your dealt & it up to her to figure it out but when a man say it just transactional, but they’re not specifying what they want from you how is that a woman fault or is that just a way for a man to stop talking to a woman?
  • Danke
  • 11-15-2025, 11:22 AM
I'm speaking from my own personal experiences and how I am in my personal life. In my personal relationships, things I do for others are because I care about them and I never expect anything back. if I care enough about the person to keep them close, anything I do for them is because I cherish them.

However, in this hobby I do keep it all transactional. In my first couple encounters I had, the providers weren't very nice, didn't want to engage in conversation and even threatened to call someone if I didn't just fuck them and leave. So I just base all of my encounters off that and have had more positive experiences that way.
TailHooked's Avatar
The people your care for, you help. If you need help and they won't, then they better not ask you next time they are in need. Those who always ask for your assistance but never return a favor, will continue on that path and use you for all they can get out of you.
staceyrenee's Avatar
I do stuff for people because I care about them but at the same time it still feels transactional in every aspect of life !!!

Even if just buying stuff to make one happy
I am so friendly I donated a kidney don’t suggest doing that…..

Maybe I will meet someone new this trip make me think differently only time will till Thanks for the replies. Y'all
I have a blessed day.
jan-w's Avatar
  • jan-w
  • 11-15-2025, 03:26 PM
Girl, you donated your kidney? Damn. You are a devoted soul. Bless you.
Dud341's Avatar
I don't know. Most people assume they are a decent person. But unless someone is willing to be interested in spending time with you without money involved then its very clearly transactional. Ladies have said to me "your my friend" but they never do anything friendly. And as soon as the money stops you never hear from them again.
CatMan4u's Avatar
I don't know. Most people assume they are a decent person. But unless someone is willing to be interested in spending time with you without money involved then its very clearly transactional. Ladies have said to me "your my friend" but they never do anything friendly. And as soon as the money stops you never hear from them again. Originally Posted by Dud341
I couldn't agree more
It's comes down how you pay and how much for how little the man gets for his money