If it is someone I have not seen before, I usually just start with basic chit-chat and keep the topics light. I get nervous to cross it over to something more exciting and probably spend the first 20 minutes just talking - and I feel like that is wasteful?
Question for providers and other guys: do you discuss menu, what you'd like to see happen all up front? Or do you just kind of talk and then slowly move into the bedroom?
One lady attacked me as soon as I walked in her door, deep heavy kissing, it was a complete stranger to me and felt so awkward. I like to let things develop naturally and not come off like a creepy, sex-starved weirdo.