Exotic Asphyxiation.....Collars, Leather straps and choking oh my!!!!

Tylus_amore's Avatar
Okay last week I did the whole anal topic but we see that topic quite a bit....

I haven't seen too many conversations about this. I had a dream about this activity one night and I questioned my S/O about it.. I told him how much it had turned me on in the dream and would he try it out on me one day / night when I wasn't expecting it..... etc..

So having talked about a few days before he pulls out a leather strap and we played with it that night.... I literally came all over the bed..... It was an interesting feeling something beyond a really good orgasm it was beyond that...

It took a while for me to come down from the whole sex cloud thing... But I cannot freaking wait to do that again!!!!

A day or two later I am at a local leather shop and I am very excited while purchasing collars, leather straps vices.. etc... Anyone else into this very interesting Fetish and what turns you on the most by it?

Lastly who would you trust to try it on you, vice versa?
  • Blaze
  • 06-30-2013, 02:06 PM
*raises hand* but I don't venture there very often. Too much pressure and its all over with. Even just a little pressure on my throat is sexually stimulating.
speeedracer's Avatar
people can die from that, right?
Tylus_amore's Avatar
if you don't know what you are doing... I like mine light not hardcore until i black out, there's different levels that you can enjoy this particular fetish. there are also classes you can take from certain trusted "kinksters"to show you how to play safely.... I wouldn't do this blindly or just because of the risk of being choked to death.....
I think that takes more trust than most providers, or clients have with each other. On occasion my SO likes for me to put a little pressure on her throat with my hand. We are both in the medical field so we both know how to be safe. I personally don't want anything around my neck whether its a hand or strap.
I understand the appeal for some. Generally something I stay away from it....simulated hands on throat at times perhaps....but no true asphyxiation. Too many things can go wrong.
christylynn's Avatar
i like erotic asphyxiation and its a huge turn on the feeling that u are slowly blacking out is amazing and i cum from it like you wouldnt believe and ive only trusted one person enough to do it and it was amazing its all about trust for me i cant just do it with anyone i gotta know you and i gotta know that you know what u are doing
I also love this kind of play, but it is reserved for a select trusted few.... Too edgy for random people....

I have a certain gentleman who related a gruesome story about a murder that involved someone getting too far into the scene and accidentally killed his wife.

I know even someone who cares so much for you may get to excited and over do it. So please just be carful about who you trust to enjoy this activity with..... It SHOULD be a ymmv kind of activity
mm-good's Avatar
I'm not unto receiving but had my first experience with a FWB that is really into a light choke and begged me to do it...

She coached me on it and we
Practiced and just recently had a meeting where I did it with her. She really got into it and had an overthrow the top orgasm.

U was so concerned about not losing control, I could not let myself krgasm for fear if losing control and causing harm.

It's ok though / it was hot .

I'll do again if she wants .
ElisabethWhispers's Avatar
people can die from that, right? Originally Posted by speeedracer
Yes. There are people in jail from killing their lovers, partners, etc,. while playing in this fashion. Very risky behavior.

I completely understand the thrill of this play and I like the topic. I believe that I might have started the first one here when this forum began.

However, there are so many issues with it, especially if alcohol (etc) is involved, that I'm very leery of it for the most part although I've played with it, had it done to me (and the other way around) and thoroughly enjoyed it.

What I do now, and this parrots Zhivago's post, is give the illusion of choking to some of my clients that find this rather thrilling.

If a man is really tied down, a soft hand to the throat is a powerful aphrodisiac. (On the flip side, it could just piss someone off or scare them!)
I enjoy choking, from "imitating" it to actually cutting off the blood supply. I steer clear of the airway through its too fragile of a system. Grabbing and squeezing is enough to instill the panic and enhance sensations.nas to why I like it, It's the control and power of it....same reason I like BDSM and am dominant anyway.

That being said, it takes a tremendous amount of trust before I do it. Ill put a hand on a neck and hold you down, but I'm not squeezing. And yes, it can be deadly. Even if you don't cause immediate harm, aftercare is required so you can make sure the person on the receiving end isn't alone if they develop a clot or any other complication.
Danielle Reid's Avatar
erotic asphyxiation is a HUGE turn on for me if done right and not to the point where I'm dying. It's also sort of an ice breaker for me. Believe it or not, I am pretty shy. But getting into the mood with a firm hand around my throat...I almost soak my panties right then and there (if I'm wearing any )

I've been collared and leashed before as well, but they were never tight enough...more like a "pet" jewelry.

Too bad I have yet to meet a client like that Oh well back to fantasizing.