Everyone I hear from on different posts on ECCIE talk about "safe sex" They talk about never going bareback or stripper slide as dangerous behavior. I hear from people who say that they would never go without a condom because there health is to important to them. But I want to know this.
If you have sex with a provider only with a condom no if and or buts. Or vice versa for a man in the hobby. Do you consider other risky thing ok to chance. Do you consider DATY an ok sexual practice. Is the chance of catching herpes an excepted risk. Are you the kind of person that doesnt mind STD in the throat something that you could just deal with. Or do you assume that the provider doesn't have a std and she does you. Because if you do, do those things you must believe that she doesn't have a STD right. I know in a strange way I do. I have never DATY a female that I considered to have a STD in my mind she doesn't I just don't think she has anything I know in my mind she doesn't because if I didn't I wouldn't be doing what i'm about to do right. I myself wouldn't be about to eat her knowing she has herpes Would you? This is just something I thought about and I would love to hear what some providers has to say about this matter. As well as some hobbist.
As for DATY, DFK, etc; I suppose I do assume the provider is disease free; however, I don't engage that often in other activities like DATY. First off, some providers don't allow it. Other times and more importantly, I use my gut on deciding whether or not to DATY. It really has nothing to do with STDs, but more along more intangible reasons. I know where this thread is headed. The bottom line though is there is too much risk with bareback intercourse while the risk is greatly reduced for other bareback non-intercourse activities.
I'm no longer comfortable with doing that, and it doesn't matter what educated reasoning you may give me on how it is pointless, I still would not feel comfortable with it.
That poor horse!
